For women from rural areas with cerebral palsy, life may be slowly dying out in the repetition of day after day.
However, 6 years ago, the poet Yu Xiuhua became famous overnight, from an obscure village woman to a poet praised by everyone.
In full view of everyone, the first thing she did was to spend 150,000 yuan to end the 20-year marriage.
After becoming famous, why did Yu Xiuhua even bear the infamy and divorce her husband? Perhaps we can find the answer in her poetry.
In fact, before 2009, Yu Xiuhua did not know what the meaning of her life was.
Because of cerebral palsy, Yu Xiuhua has been different from others since she was a child: she stumbled and stumbled, and she could not walk upright at the age of 6.
When her peers run and jump, she can only walk on crutches. Fortunately, at that time, she loved to learn, and even though she struggled to write, she still went to school rain or shine.
After junior high school, her parents hoped that Yu Xiuhua would not work so hard, so they no longer let her go to school. But Yu Xiuhua herself secretly ran to the school to find the principal, and in the end, the old principal waived all the tuition fees for her.
Unfortunately, the identity of cerebral palsy gave Yu Xiuhua too much inconvenience.
Unable to keep up with her studies, the strange eyes of her classmates around her, and the shame brought about by her family's embarrassment, Yu Xiuhua finally took the initiative to choose to withdraw from school.
That was the first time Yu Xiuhua chose to fight against fate, although she failed, but since then she has planted a fire in her heart: fate can be fought.
In 1995, yu Xiuhua, who was only 19 years old, was persuaded by her mother to marry a husband Yin Shiping, who was 12 years older than her.
What is love? What is marriage? Yu Xiuhua didn't understand, but she knew that Yin Shiping absolutely didn't love herself, and she wasn't happy in her life.
Because of cerebral palsy, Yu Xiuhua stumbled and stumbled when she walked, and it was easy to fall, but Yin Shiping never took the initiative to support her, but would laugh at her for "walking unsteadily".
When drinking, Yin Shiping followed a group of "friends" to evaluate Yu Xiuhua: "Crooked mouth" and "can't speak clearly";
After getting drunk, he even rightly asked Yu Xiuhua to "serve" himself, because he was a "normal person", Yu Xiuhua was a "disabled person", and "I am much more noble than you".
For all this, her mother always advised her to be patient.
Because —"If we're gone, there's someone who can accompany you later." ”
Is this really the case? Yu Xiuhua doubted again and again, and was pressed on the head by her mother again and again. In her poems, Yin Shiping often "grabbed my hair and slammed me against the wall..."
Although she is in the countryside, Yu Xiuhua has always had poetry and distant places in her heart, which may be the driving force to support Yu Xiuhua to continue to live.
However, once Yin Shiping went home for the New Year, forcing his disabled wife to ask for a salary with himself.
In order to force the boss to stop, he instructed Yu Xiuhua to use his disabled identity to block the car, which completely crushed Yu Xiuhua's heart.
Back home, she filed for divorce again.
But when a woman is powerless in a marriage, what she says is not taken seriously.
The oppression of the bottom life and the various malice suffered by the disabled world make the thought in Yu Xiuhua's heart more and more clear: she wants a divorce, she wants freedom!
Parents will go, husbands will be unreliable, sons will start a family. She's going to find a way to feed herself!
Since 2009, Yu Xiuhua has tried to pick up a pen to write poetry, pouring her inner desire for love and hope for a distant place into the words.
Success did not immediately take care of this bitter woman, Yin Shiping saw Yu Xiuhua pick up a pen to write poetry, he punched and kicked her, beat and insulted her.
Yu Xiuhua was also unhappy to see Yin Shiping, and the two of them slept separately in the morning. Only when the man goes out to work can the family be suspended for a period of time.
Until 2010, Yu Xiuhua's poetry still did not improve, she was a little confused, would fate never take care of her?
She had the idea of begging, and for months, she took a broken bowl to Jingmen to observe the homeless people and beggars, but in the end she did not "kneel down", and this road was "impossible." Not long after, her mother fell ill with cancer, and Yu Xiuhua simply went home and insisted on writing while taking care of her mother.
In 2015, "Across Most of China to Sleep with You" became popular overnight, and Yu Xiuhua became famous!
With fame, income naturally rises. This is the meaning of Yu Xiuhua's struggle: she wants to fight for a free life for herself!
Divorce was once again on the agenda, and Yin Shiping disagreed even more.
In the past, when Yu Xiuhua was cerebral palsy, there was an ancestral house and a field in the family, and after a hundred years of Yu's parents, those were all Yin Shiping's; now Yu Xiuhua's fame has risen, it is a walking cornucopia, where is Yin Shiping willing to put it?
Yu Mu even questioned her daughter, "Do you want to be the kind of person who has a negative heart, and is said that you are going to kick off your husband when you are red?" ”
This time, Yu Xiuhua was not as silent as when she was 19 years old, and she answered her mother loudly: "I am famous for kicking my husband, so what?" ”
Dealing with Yin Shiping's deliberate delay, Yu Xiuhua directly issued an ultimatum: come back this month to do a divorce, give you 150,000 plus a suite, come back next month to do a divorce, only 100,000, and nothing else.
Yin Shiping immediately promised to come back this month to apply for a divorce certificate.
On the way back from the divorce certificate, Yu Xiuhua finally showed a smile from the heart, "Having money can make ghosts push and grind", she couldn't help but say a word.
Yin Shiping did not care about this kind of ridicule, he even had the mood to make two jokes with Yu Xiuhua, which was something that the two had never done in their 20 years of marriage.
Yu Xiuhua finally gained her freedom at the age of 40 and lived the life she wanted. Since then, her heart, which is bound by life, can finally do whatever she wants, expressing her appreciation for the opposite sex, her desire for love, and even her planning for the future.
In January 2022, Yu Xiuhua finally officially announced a new relationship.
In the video, she is no longer a thin and poor appearance, and the post-90s boyfriend next to her is tall and handsome, holding flowers. Affectionately staring at Yu Xiuhua on the side.
Although Heaven did not give this post-70s woman a healthy body, it gave her a heart full of distant places, supporting her to start a new life after she was over 40 years old.
Yu Xiuhua, with poetry as a turn, has been walking alone in this world for forty years, and finally won the dawn of life, bless her!