The word original family is often seen in recent years in the field of family education, it is often said that the original family determines the future direction of a child, and whether his childhood is happy usually determines whether the person's life is happy or not.
Therefore, it can be seen that family education has a very far-reaching impact on the future development of children, so how should parents educate in order to give their children happiness and security to raise sunflowers? The following three points are worth noting!
First, the relationship between parents in the family is harmonious, stable and loving
The best education may not be a positive value concept, in family education, a good family atmosphere and husband and wife relationship can give children the most stable sense of security. Only when a child feels the love between his parents can he subconsciously feel that his family is indestructible and that his parents can give him continuous love in the future.
On the other hand, those children who have experienced constant quarrels with their parents since childhood, they grew up in quarrels and insults, naturally do not regard home as a trustworthy harbor, do not have enough sense of security Children's personality naturally become sensitive and inferior, and when they grow up, they also have doubts about starting a family.
In addition to the harmony of family relations, the parents' emotions should also be stable, only parents can control their negative emotions, do not impose their own chaotic emotions on the child, the family can communicate with each other when encountering problems, rational solutions. Parents' stable emotions can also make children feel safe and guide them to establish sound values.
Second, with respect as the premise, support the correct choice of children
Many people think that children are just to win glory for themselves and make themselves stand out, so they often scold children or compare children with other people. But in fact, the most important thing for parents is to accept their children, who may just be an ordinary child.
Let the child feel love, first of all, parents should respect the child's ideas, as far as possible from the child's point of view to answer the child's questions, a new perspective to think: they naturally have their own dreams and pursuits, as long as his motivation and belief is positive, parents are actually not necessary too; the same, each child has their personality and advantages, see relatives and friends of the child in some aspects are excellent, parents do not overly red-eyed, when the child has ideas, can give them encouragement and support, this is the best education.
Third, give enough children care and affirmation
The family has love, parents have love, and more importantly, there is love for children. Parents should try to respond to the child's questions and needs: when the child has something to find the parent, the parent is busy, you can say to him: "Parents are busy with things now, and will tell you later." "Let children feel that their thinking and ideas can be paid enough attention at home, and this confidence can give them unlimited confidence."
Parents should try to learn to see the problem from the child's point of view, rather than condescending to ask them, so that when they think of their parents, their hearts are warm, and they are tired outside and can return to their parents' arms for comfort and support after being wronged.
Most children are a blank piece of paper, and what the child's future looks like depends mainly on how the parents exert and guide them on this blank paper.
For a child who has problems with his own family education concept, if parents just blindly ask the child to become prominent, without reflecting from the perspective of parents, then the child's problems and defects can not be compensated. Therefore, giving enough children a stable and loving family environment is the most fundamental way of education.
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