The author | Or rain
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Hello everyone, I'm Ichiro Takayama.
01
That day was the first time Ah Ai showed a photo of her and her boyfriend in the circle of friends.
The boy in the photo has handsome eyebrows, a high nose bridge, clear facial features, and a strong tendon flesh around Ah Ai's arm, which is a strong and beautiful man of Peng Yuyan's type.
As a good friend, my first reaction when I saw the group photo was", "Yes, Ah Ai's vision is quite good." ”
So I decisively gave her a thumbs up and commented, "Boyfriend is pretty handsome!" Wish 99! ”
However, in the next half a day, the message bar of the circle of friends kept pushing messages to me.
Every time I open it, I see some friends commenting on Ah Ai's photo that is not very friendly:
"Great, how does such a handsome boy look up to you?" "You have to be careful, is he trying to get your money?" "Such a handsome boyfriend you have to keep an eye on, he must be more around than your beautiful sister." 」
I flipped through the comments of these people one by one, and my heart sank little by little. I can't imagine how hurt Ah Ai would be when she saw these comments.
Everyone thinks that Ah Ai earned it, just because Ah Ai is not beautiful enough.
However, after graduating from a famous school in the Department of Music, Aai is a well-known violin genius in the city, and his personality also gives people the feeling of a spring breeze, and the conversation is elegant and interesting. Such a woman, obviously with how good a boy is more than enough.
In the evening, I opened the circle of friends again and found that Ah Ai had deleted the group photo.
Those people's one-sided views on appearance ultimately put a lot of pressure on her.
02
Like Ah Ai, I am also a girl whose appearance is not outstanding.
In this society where appearance is paramount, it is difficult for a plain-looking girl like me to survive.
For example, I've been pointed at more than once at a photo of me and my object: "You two don't look worthy at all." You're not as white as he is, and you're fatter than him. ”
No one will think about the resonance of our souls after seeing our photos, and will agree that there may be better shining points in me than him.
Based on their looks alone, they have already made up their minds: you are not a good match.
Everyone always thinks that the ordinary one climbs the good-looking side according to a couple who is good-looking. But it is always overlooked that the advantages of people are not only appearances.
Some people are mediocre in appearance, but very talented. Some people are not good-looking, but they are good at empathy.
Since he chose this person as a partner, this ordinary-looking person must have the same bright advantages as a good-looking appearance.
No one wants to put their love in an unequal position, either because of looks or because of money.
No one starts with the mentality of love to help the poor, and fall in love with a person who is not as good as themselves to find a sense of superiority. Everyone wants to find a partner who is a real fit for themselves, and people with high looks are no exception.
Because of this, a couple can be together for a long time, and they must have a match.
Cynicism under someone else's photo is really not necessary.
03
I've seen a lot of guys who are handsome but don't deserve ordinary-looking girls.
– Like my girlfriend's boyfriend.
He is handsome and handsome, but he does not want to make progress all the time, touching fish and playing games during working hours, spending my girlfriend's money with peace of mind, and spending his heart.
Not only that, but he didn't have half a heart for my girlfriend, and it was always an attitude of "it is your honor to be with me" and "Shouldn't you raise me".
But just because he is handsome, someone will always advise my girlfriend: "Turn a blind eye, handsome guys are like this." ”
But this handsome boy, I don't understand what value he can bring to my girlfriend other than pleasing my girlfriend's eyes.
His handsomeness was just a capital he used to hurt her, just an excuse for him to be lazy and unfaithful to his feelings. He knew he was handsome and took advantage of his appearance to look down on her with condescending eyes.
Such a cheap handsome, is it really so worth pursuing?
I admit that good looks are indeed a gift. Regardless of men and women, good looks can indeed open the atrium of the opposite sex more quickly and easily.
But a good-looking skin bag is definitely not the only measure of whether it is worth it in a sexual relationship. It's not that as long as a person is good-looking, he stands at the top of the mate selection chain.
In fact, no matter how good-looking a person is, if the soul has no luster, his beauty will lose its value.
Good-looking effects should not be infinitely deified.
04
On the road, you will often see some couples who have a relatively large difference in appearance in the eyes of others.
Maybe the boys are darker and the girls are whiter; maybe the boys are tall and handsome, and the girls are petite and thin. Whenever they stand together, there is always a whispering voice around them.
But I never whisper for the higher-looking side when I pass by them.
No matter what kind of emotional journey they go through, no matter why they eventually attract each other, I believe that looks should not be an obstacle to their being together.
Appearance is something like this, as long as two people in love accept each other.
The lover's eyes are out of the west, perhaps in the loving eyes of the high-value person, his low-value partner is the most beautiful one.
As an outsider who does not understand the inside story, it is very impolite to point out the love of others just because of the appearance of appearance, and even laugh at others for "blinding" and "poor vision".
No one stipulates that love can only happen between handsome men and beautiful women, and there will be interesting love under ordinary appearances.
The skin of the body is subject to the parents. In this world, people have a natural sense of beauty.
So there are no really ugly people in the world, only real ugly souls.
As long as we have the confidence not to lose to any handsome and beautiful woman, no one is entitled to deny our affection because of our looks.
So, I must be worthy of the person next to me who is better looking than me.
I am convinced of my value.
-Ends-
If the finger that crosses the screen pauses for a moment,
That's our resonance.
