Only understanding and respect can win the heart of a child. - Rousseau
Consulting cases
Recently, we received a request for help from a mom.
Since half a year ago, the child's mood has been very low, the academic performance has suddenly plummeted, always feel that others are targeting him, the temper at home is also very large, and he locks himself in the room at every turn, and does not even eat.
Later, when he took the child to the hospital, he was diagnosed by the doctor as moderate depression.
In order to help the child get out of this depressed mood, the mother once followed the doctor's advice and wanted to take the child to psychological counseling.
However, the child feels that he has no problem, and has always felt that only severely mentally ill people need psychological counseling, so he is very resistant to psychological counseling, no matter how much his parents persuade him or listen.
As the days passed, the situation did not improve at all, and everything seemed to be in a dead end.
Is this really a dead end? Today, director Liu Yinghua, a psychologist, came to talk to you about this topic:
When a child has psychological problems and is unwilling to accept counseling, what can parents do?
1. Respect your child's choices
If children are reluctant to do counseling, in fact, we have also seen that children have their own opinions. We want to give children the space to grow and trial and error, parents can choose to wait and see the changes, quietly accompany the child, you can tell the child: if you feel that you need help from your parents anywhere, you can tell your parents that your parents will always accompany you. I believe that at this time, children can also feel the love of their parents.
2. Positive psychological cues
Parents can make some preparations, and can collect some books and materials about psychological counseling and the introduction of psychological counselors in advance, show them to their children, or put them in a more prominent position at home.
This role is to convey a message to the child, as long as he is willing, he can also solve the inner problem through psychological counseling. At the same time, it is hinting to the child: Mom and Dad are very concerned about your current mood and state, and they want to help you solve your current troubles.
3. Parents should first do psychological counseling
Seeing that some parents here may question and resist, they feel that their problems have little to do with them: the problem is the child, why should parents also do psychological counseling?
In fact, children are like the "works" of parents. Parents are the founders of children, and children become what they are today, whether it is good character, physical and mental health, or psychological conditions, they are the works of parents. From this point of view, in order to help children, parents need to consult and learn first.
In the process of psychological counseling, the psychological counselor will guide parents to make some adjustments in parent-child communication, understanding the child's emotions and emotions, make some changes in behavior, and promote the improvement of children's problems through parental adjustment and improvement.
At the same time, parents have made a good example for their children, if the child can feel the change of parents after counseling, I believe that children will be very willing to try to receive psychological counseling.