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Many people feel that the loss of love is painful, in the final analysis, love is too heavy, even more important than themselves, when the other party leaves, as if losing the whole world, as if losing the light in life, losing faith.
Two days ago, a fan told me that she broke up with her boyfriend who had been talking for 3 years, but what made her most painful was not the sadness of breaking up, but after separating from her boyfriend, she suddenly felt that life had become very empty, because once her life had always been around her boyfriend, in addition to work, every day was thinking about how to make her boyfriend happy.
In order to be closer to her boyfriend's company, she is willing to leave her house unsupported and rent a small apartment next to her boyfriend's company; in order to surprise her boyfriend, she would rather save the money to buy cosmetics and stay up late to grab shoes for her boyfriend...
In order to stay with her boyfriend often, she rarely participates in her girlfriend's party. When her boyfriend chose to leave, her life suddenly lost its purpose, leaving only a confused and bad self.
I think that if many people can now realize the simple but often overlooked truth that "before love, you are first an independent person", it will be easier to get out of the haze of lost love.
Is love important? significant! But it is far less important than its own life.
"Self-love, composure, and then love others".
When you meet a person, no matter how much you love him, don't put all your thoughts on the other person, you have to make sure that you have your own independent life, an independent social circle.
Although lovers have established an intimate relationship with each other, they also need to leave independent space for each other; in the relationship, you want to be pampered, not to be an appendage to someone.
Don't love too much, and don't love too lowly.
It is not easy to properly match the ratio of love and life, and my friend Bing Bing is one of the ones I admire.
She was off the list while preparing for the exam. The boy was interning in the school library, and every day he would take the initiative to help her occupy the table by the window, and there seemed to be a tacit understanding between them that they cared about each other but did not disturb each other.
I asked her if taking off a single relationship at such an important time really wouldn't affect her learning status?
She confessed: "Of course, when we first got together, we wanted to stick together all the time." But reviewing and endorsing really require a little thought, and those formulas and arguments often can't be thought of as soon as they are distracted. Later, he agreed with me that he could have a meal together after doing the problem every night, and he didn't want me to be distracted, in case he couldn't get ashore, afraid that I would blame him, in short, forced himself to stay awake and keep some thinking in love. ”
She enjoyed the moment when she could trust her hand to the palm of his hand, and never stopped her ambition to climb the peak of life.
Do not indulge in the comfort of love, maintain enough sobriety to complete the choice problems in life, both enjoy love itself, but also know how to appropriately give up the dependence on lovers, I think this is the love principle that adults should uphold.
For sweetness, you can crave, but excessive craving will definitely bring about loss of control.
Don't live just for love, and don't feel that having love is having everything, and losing love is losing everything.
The long road of life is actually an adventure. You have braved through many obstacles, had the privilege of meeting and falling in love with someone on the way, and have been with you ever since, with the tacit understanding and trust to give your back to the other party.
At the end of the day, love can't be a stumbling block, but lovers may be a reason and a goal on the way forward.
On this road, it is naturally more reassuring to have a lover walking with you, and if you walk away in the middle, you can't stop the pace of moving forward, and covet the warmth of that time.
In fact, when we have experienced one breakup after another and then look back on these experiences, we feel that it is not worth being so sad at all.
Because they are all passers-by in life, but some people have a shorter time, some people stay longer.
Therefore, love is never the whole of life, and making yourself better is the "capital" that others cannot take away.
We should all understand that the only purpose of life is not marriage and love, but happiness and growth.
After all, good love is the law of attraction, and instead of clinging to those who don't belong to you, let go of love for the time being and free your hands to grasp something more important than love in life.
When you become the best person you are, everything else will come to you naturally and as you please.
I hope that at this time, you will not forget that you are only yourself because you are addicted to love.
Use a small amount of aspirin as an analgesic for your mind.
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