It is said that the best love is always before it begins.
Because the relationship is not broken, the two are separated by a hazy veil, and each wants to leave a good impression in each other's heart, and seeing each other is also a good point.
However, once they get along, they will fall into various pains and sorrows because of various problems, and even after a long time, they will have a thought: "Are we suitable for being together?" ”
When this confusion arises in feelings, you should calm down and seriously think about whether two people are really suitable.
Although not every couple is a natural fit, some details in life can reflect whether two people are suitable for coming together, and if they really can't be satisfied in all aspects, then there is no need to continue to waste feelings.
In fact, two people are not suitable for together, look at 3 places to understand.
01 Whether to talk together
Liao Yimei said that in our lives, it is not rare to encounter love and sex, but it is rare to encounter understanding.
Being with someone who understands you is happiness. Because what you say, he can understand, what you do, he will understand the deep meaning behind.
The reason why people must have marriage is precisely because a person's life is too lonely, and if he only works hard for himself in his life, he is too lonely. To have the people you care about, to be watching and accompanying, is not to waste this life.
And that person, if he doesn't understand you, can't talk to you, he ignores everything you say, and even if you have any ideas, he scoffs, then what is the meaning of marriage?
It is better to live a relaxed life alone, there is no need to add to the blockage of your life.
No matter how strong people are, they will also need comfort, and there are also times when they feel lonely and vulnerable.
In the vast sea of people, it is the greatest blessing to have a person who knows the cold and knows the heat, understands that you hurt you, does not give up when you encounter difficulties, and shares with you when you succeed.
True love is never about how many mountain vows and sweet words, but I can listen to your nagging, and you will smile intoxicatedly in my broken thoughts.
Two people communicate and communicate frequently together, as if there is always an endless topic to talk about.
The best marriage is not how materially abundant it is, but when I think someone listens, you will not tire of holding me in your arms.
The writer Liu Zhenyun once said: "A person's loneliness is not loneliness, a person looking for another person, a sentence to find another sentence, is the real loneliness." ”
If you talk and always try to deliberately find a topic, it will only mean one problem, you are not suitable for together.
02 Can you eat a piece
Friends are northerners, like to eat noodles, girlfriends are southerners, more rice, at first when the two are together, often argue about what to eat, both feel that the other party should adapt to themselves.
For a while, friends were miserable, but because they loved too deeply, they later adopted the "seeking common ground while reserving differences" way of getting along, on a table, there are rice and noodles, and there are two kinds of dishes.
Each of them takes their own preferences, while friends occasionally try rice and vegetables, which feels pretty good, and girlfriends are happy to eat a bite of noodles.
After a long time, getting along deeply, friends said, eating this thing, there is no good disagreement, nothing more than mutual adaptation, mutual compromise, in the end, is not for love.
In fact, it is really not so difficult, the key is to see if the other party is willing to change for you.
A friend likes to put ginger when cooking, and he loves to cut ginger into ginger rice and distribute it evenly in the dish.
But after marriage, the wife does not like ginger, friends will cut the ginger into large pieces, and the wife can easily pick them out of the dish.
Getting married and living is this little bit of triviality, if the other party is not even willing to do this for you, then you are not suitable for you.
There is no need to let the other party agree with their preferences, but they can find ways to maintain the balance between the two, which is what the person who really loves you can do.
Marriage is different from love, many details can be ignored when in love, but marriage is to live a life of rice and salt in a down-to-earth manner, and the details win.
If the two can't eat a piece, they are always noisy about the trivialities in life, even if they have a beautiful love, it is difficult to live a happy life that they want.
03 Can you play together
A long life, how to run a marriage well, this is the answer that many people are looking for.
In fact, it is not so complicated, whether two people can have happiness, depends on whether the two can play together.
This "play" refers to the similarity of the three views. For example, if you want to travel, he feels more comfortable sitting at home and doesn't have to squeeze into the crowds.
You want to go to the cinema and watch a movie, and he thinks it's nice to sit at home and watch TV without having to put up with the hustle and bustle outside.
You buy a bouquet of flowers and put it in a vase, it feels pleasing to the eye, but he feels that it is not as affordable as a handful of vegetables... Such a couple, if they live together, the happiness index is difficult to get high.
Two people together are not all the same interests, but when you play the game, I also have my own space, and the two people have more intertwined places.
For example, there are movies that have common hobbies, and there are also things that are willing to accompany each other. He will always think about your preferences, and you will surprise him from time to time.
What is the love that people pursue in this life?
At the end of the day, it's not that complicated. But one room, two people, three meals, four seasons.
Whether two people are suitable for being together is actually very clear in your own heart.
Feelings are like shoes worn on the feet, grinding the feet, the feet will know.
If you wear the wrong shoes, it will definitely be uncomfortable. No matter how expensive and gorgeous these shoes are, they don't belong to you after all.
A long life, don't spend your years on people who don't deserve it because you covet vanity.
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