Zheng Xiaodong is 32 years old this year, because of work reasons, so his wife divorced him.
Before, Zheng Xiaodong was an employee of a company, worked for so many years, and the welfare treatment was not bad, but for such a stable life, Zheng Xiaodong was not satisfied, because he felt that he could start a business and maybe be able to give his family a better life, but when he told his wife the news, he was opposed by his wife.
Because the wife feels that the husband's stable job is more suitable for taking care of the family, and now the work is gradually stable, and so tossed, when is life the head, but in the face of his wife's suggestion, Zheng Xiaodong does not agree.
Zheng Xiaodong felt that there were some obstacles between himself and his wife that could not communicate, so in spite of his wife's objections, Zheng Xiaodong decided to sell the house to do a career, and in the face of her husband's such a move, the wife was obviously somewhat incomprehensible.
Because she felt that he had been with her husband for so many years, she would listen to her husband's opinion no matter what she did, but now in the face of his husband's practice, he inevitably had some doubts.
In this way, the two people also quarreled because of this matter, but in the face of his wife's crying, Zheng Xiaodong did not have any idea of changing his mind, so his wife filed for divorce a month later, and at this time, Zheng Xiaodong was not willing to be forced by his wife anymore and decisively signed the divorce agreement.
In life, in fact, there are too many couples like this mode of getting along, the breakdown of a marriage is not because of not loving, but because they do not know how to communicate and communicate, when encountering things, husband and wife should learn to discuss with each other, rather than only complaining, only good communication, in order to live a good life.
01.
Nagging woman
After marriage, many women will change, perhaps because they want to feel safe, so they will pay special attention to the sense of ceremony in married life.
The famous writer Jiang Zilong once said of "home": "Home is a man's castle and a woman's paradise."
Some women, after marriage, often turn themselves into a housewife with broken thoughts, and you may feel that you are deeply in love with this man in your own way, but the other party will be anxious because of your approach.
In the face of women's nagging, men's hearts are difficult to accept, and long-term verbal violence can also make a man anxious.
When a woman's nagging becomes a habit, then it also gives the man an urge to stay away.
Women's nagging will only make men worse and worse, because such women will only constantly hit a man's self-confidence.
Behind every man, there will be endless pressure, as a man's wife, women should give them more encouragement in many cases, rather than denigration.
02.
Flip through old accounts
Everything that can last for a long time must be mutual respect.
Since two people have chosen to be together, they must learn to run the family well.
Women will be more emotional in real life, so in many cases, women tend to turn over old accounts when they argue with men.
But women who love to turn over old accounts often can't get the love of men, because such women will make men feel fearful, and even make men take the initiative to keep their distance.
In married life, the reason why many women will turn over old accounts is not to express their dissatisfaction, but to be able to make this man love himself more, but the way men and women think about problems will be different.
Men in real life are not as meticulous as women, so for the small things in life, often not so concerned, if at this time, women always take the previous things to question a man, then it will also make men have different emotions, over time, the feelings between the two will also change.
Smart women, know how to run their own family, in the world of feelings, two people have quarrels and contradictions is also a normal thing.
Even when we're married, we have to give each other some personal space because men don't like the feeling of being limited.
Smart is the wisdom of a woman, a really wise girl, in real life often know how to show weakness, such a woman will live more easily in married life.
Shakespeare said, "If love is mixed with calculations that have nothing to do with itself, it is not true love." ”
Smart women know how to defend their husbands, and in the world of feelings, one of the most common mistakes women make is to cling to a man's past.
In fact, in real life, everyone will have a past, as long as the man loves you at the moment, if you always cling to a man's past, then with the increase of time, the feelings between you will continue to be destroyed.
A truly intelligent woman, not thinking about the past, not afraid of the future, only in this way can she live as a special woman in men's minds.
I hope that every woman can be more rational when facing marriage, only in this way will married life become happier.
Only by learning to manage love can we make ourselves strong.