Time is merciless, it will not only leave traces on our bodies, but also take away what once made us feel inspired, it may be courage, it may be passion, it may be dreams, and so on.
When women reach middle age, they are often involuntarily, losing their youthful appearance, losing their graceful posture, and their whole heart is hung on the family, running for daily expenses, worrying about their children and relatives, but they forget to love themselves well.
When we are young and ignorant, we always tell ourselves that we want to live as we want, but when we live and live, we suddenly find that we have finally lived a way we don't like.
In fact, everyone's fate is in their own hands, has nothing to do with the years, has nothing to do with others, but some people take the initiative to give up the opportunity to change their destiny, obviously not hard enough, but also have to comfort themselves willing to be mediocre.
Some things, once abandoned, are the whole life, until the end of life, only regret.
Women reach middle age and hope you don't give up these three things easily.
01: Dreams
Can middle-aged women still talk about their dreams?
If your answer is no, then your life must be a pool of stagnant water, unable to stir up a thousand waves, only constant repression, continuous pain.
If people do not have dreams, they are like salted fish, no matter what kind of environment they are in, they are all lifeless.
Life should be colorful, life should be a thousand tastes, if there is no dream to live, this trip to the world can also be regarded as a vain.
Grandma Moses in the United States still bravely pursued the dream in her heart at the age of seventy or eighty, and finally achieved extraordinary achievements in the field of fine arts with her own efforts.
Dreams have nothing to do with age, as long as you have a dream in your heart, no matter what age you are at, you can still chase it freely.
Many women have reached middle age, their lives are a mess, they are walking on thin ice at work, they are afraid that they will be eliminated without paying attention, and they have long been numb in their feelings and have lost their expectations for love.
Under the domination of family responsibilities, he can only run for his livelihood every day, and there is no time to take care of himself, let alone talk about his dreams.
In fact, marriage is fragile, love is easy to pass away, family affection is easy to fade, people in this world, must not put all their hopes on others, all their feelings poured into others.
When women reach middle age, I hope that you will not easily give up your dreams, find a beam of light for your life, and add another possibility to the bland life.
02: Make money
A woman can spend a man's money, that is a skill, and a woman, can spend the money she earns, that is also a skill.
However, for the former, the validity period is not accurate, the amount is not accurate, and the risk is extremely high; for the latter, the validity period and the amount are in their own hands, and the risk is greatly reduced.
A woman's confidence can only come from herself, not from the people she relies on. A woman's ability to spend her own money is proof of her confidence.
Even if there is no money, it is a happy thing to have a rock-solid love, but in real life, rock-solid love can not be sought, more than a love game of desire and passion.
When women reach middle age, I hope you don't give up making money easily, after all, when love is gone, you still have enough money to comfort you, and you can still live the life you want, and you will not lose to the ground.
Poor couples Pepsi lament, when your life is only for chai rice oil and salt, love seems insignificant, the betrayal of feelings is only a matter of day and night.
For men, a woman who will make money, a woman who is capable, they will look up to her and give her the love and respect she wants.
Sweet talk, but it is a love game suitable for young talents to play, women should be realistic when they reach middle age, and the ability to live a good life is the right thing.
03: Buy a house
What is home? Home is a warm harbor, and home is the home of the soul.
Of course, not everyone's home is as warm as ever, and sometimes the home has become a place to avoid and a source of nightmares.
When women reach middle age, most of them have married and have children and have their own small families, but marriages may not become deeper and deeper with the growth of time together, but will become cold and distant, and at that time, home is no longer what it should be.
You must understand that when a person no longer loves, when a person insists on leaving, he is no longer gentle with you, he is only cruel to you, the love that was once there has long become a cloud of smoke, and all that remains is a cold house, without a trace of warmth, without a trace of reticence.
In fact, whether married or not, women should strive to have a house of their own, or have a money that can pay rent, at least, when the relationship is broken, it is still homeless.
Middle-aged women are even more so, don't give up buying a house easily, don't easily stop saving money to buy a house, leave yourself a way back, don't seek to retreat from the whole body, at least, you can make yourself leave a little more decent.
Loving couples can grow old with their heads in vain; couples who do not love can only run to their own things.
The division and combination of feelings is just the norm in life, and making yourself feel at ease is the direction of your efforts.
When women reach middle age, I hope you don't give up these three things easily, because they can make you live the rest of your life.
I am Aya, a warm-hearted emotional writer, and I am so fortunate to meet you in this life! Click a note, let's grow knowledge together!
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