On the day of the wedding, I believe that every bride and groom have solemnly sworn an oath to the full house of relatives and friends:
"In the future, whether healthy or sick, rich or poor, if you do not abandon me, I will live and die."
Vows are romantic, life is complicated, and until the day of divorce, you won't know at all that you're marrying a man or a ghost.
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"When I was at my poorest, I was a housewife."
Some time ago, I saw such a news:
Ms. Li in the news, who ran a restaurant before marriage, did not continue to work after marriage because of pregnancy, raising children, and bearing more family obligations, and had no economic income.
However, when the marriage broke down and the lawsuit for divorce, the court ruled that Ms. Li was awarded 10,000 yuan in compensation for domestic work.
I have always known that "full-time wife" has risks, but Ms. Li's encounter is not only a risk, it is simply bankruptcy.
Here is the hot comment of netizens:
Some netizens intimately calculated the account for Ms. Li:
4 years, 10,000 yuan in compensation for housework. Spread down 208.333 yuan a month. Picking up paper shells to sell in the community, is it better than this?
Not only is it strong, to put it badly, even if you hire a cheapest nanny, 1 year is more than this number, let alone 4 years.
Ten thousand steps back, the same is suffering, to work for any boss, you have to calculate the salary, and this income is still legal, protected by the law, if you dare not give, go to court to sue you.
But the income of the full-time wife, almost 0, does not give all the conscience of the man, and gives how much depends on the mood of the other party.
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Every woman has had a dream of "you make money to support your family, I am beautiful as a flower", but the palm of the day, once experienced to know how embarrassing.
My mother had a friend who had no job since she got married, no income without work, so she had the lowest status at home:
Needless to say, the children lacked basic respect for her, and her husband used his own money to support the family, and when he was drunk, he often beat her up and discouraged.
After her youngest son's college entrance examination, the aunt said that she had to go out to find a job, because she had been separated from society for a long time, and only small restaurants and night market stalls were willing to ask her.
When she first started working, her husband came to harass her every day, either calling her all the time or looking for fault when he returned home.
At first, the aunt said all the good things, and then the income became higher and higher, her waist plate finally hardened, and her husband scolded her and dared to return her mouth, threatening to cut off the food, and she was no longer afraid.
For a while, because her salary was higher than her husband's, her husband began to do all kinds of things, and what was rare was that this time, her children finally stood by her side and began to defend her.
Although it is very sparse and ordinary in the eyes of outsiders, it is already rare in her opinion, and the root cause of all this is because she has money.
Because she had money, her husband did not dare to be fierce, and her children began to respect her.
When you think about it, it's a little sad, but that's the reality.
In the past few days, the star Wang Mouhong, because of the divorce, was torn on the hot search by his ex-wife, and once again pushed the word "full-time wife" on the hot search.
In Li Lianglei's long Weibo post, she accused her ex-husband Wang Lihong of various misdeeds, in addition to the abhorrent various immoral behaviors, there are also thought-provoking public issues:
The desperate situation of a full-time housewife.
Modern women, education level and men are comparable, social participation and social achievement, but also affected by traditional ideas, there are still some women, as soon as they get married, they enter the identity of "full-time wife".
In fact, whether celebrities or ordinary people, once they enter marriage, they will face their own trivialities, and the vow of "I raise you" will be shattered by real life no matter how beautiful it sounds.
Therefore, whether it is a star or a vegetarian, once you start chai rice oil and salt, no matter how beautiful the filter, and then the vivid vows, once you lose the support of specific behavior, it will cause contradictions in marriage.
It is true that choosing not to choose to be a full-time wife is your own will, but how to protect yourself in marriage, ensure your due rights and interests, and ensure the healthy development of marriage should also deserve women's attention.
Finally, a man's conscience is the last thing in the world to guarantee.
A truly intelligent woman will not gamble her man with the happiness of her life that she has some conscience. Do not easily test human nature, so as not to easily disappoint human nature.
May everyone who enters the marriage be illuminated by good luck, the original intention is not easy, and it is well guarded.