2021 is almost over, I didn't expect that there are still so many flower mothers in this society.
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Shenyang an 18-year-old unmarried girl in the hotel confinement news has been reported out, 18 years old, unmarried childbirth, hotel confinement, every word is impacting me, what kind of life experience is this, let the 18-year-old she gave birth to a child.
The teenage girl's mother, a single-parent family, had been living with her father, but the father did not ask her, knew that she had given birth to a child in the hotel, took a look at it and left. Poor little babies, who couldn't even afford to drink milk powder, drank the cheapest milk powder for the elderly, and these two young people could not even afford to pay the rent of the hotel.
We can't blame this girl, why we didn't protect ourselves, and we can't blame her for not shedding her child in the first place. Her life will be extremely difficult from now on, and life will tell her that she will bear the bitter consequences of all this.
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There is also a phenomenon in many parts of Guizhou that the age of girls in the household registration book is several years higher than the actual age, and the purpose is to be able to get married early. Local people generally believe that it is useless for girls to study, and it is better to get married early.
The vast majority of girls here drop out of school early because of poverty and prejudice among the locals, and girls who marry at the age of fifteen or sixteen abound, and they simply do not care about their age and cannot get a marriage license, and are not protected by law.
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Our community also has people who are grandmothers in their early 40s, and when my mother-in-law tells me, I always laugh and say: At the age of 40, many people have a second child.
Some relatives who work in the children's hospital said that there will be abandoned babies at the entrance of the hospital from time to time, and sometimes in the winter, the child will be directly thrown at the door of the hospital, usually the cleaning aunt sees it and gives it to the hospital. Most of these situations of being thrown away at birth are unmarried girls.
What can we do?
1. Educate girls
The existence of these flower season mothers let me know how important Teacher Zhang Guimei's original persistence was, Teacher Zhang has been teaching her students to study hard, go out, meet the outside world, a girl drops out of school, she has to persuade for a long time.
I think Teacher Zhang should know very well what kind of life these girls who dropped out of school will live in the future. Therefore, when you can receive education, you must not give up the opportunity to educate.
2. Care more about your daughter
The unmarried mother in Shenyang, because of the lack of family love, confused herself became a mother, I think she should have a very complicated mood now, maybe she has regretted it.
Adolescent girls have a little bit of their own emotions are normal, but we can actively talk to the child, and even tell the child about his emotional experience, so as to tell her what can and can not be done.
Families with family care usually rarely appear in this phenomenon of flowering mothers.
3. Tell your daughter to protect herself
Today's children develop early and know a lot, but as parents, we still have an obligation to tell our daughters not to have sex easily.
If the relationship between the two parties is really good, you should also pay attention to protect yourself, tell your daughter, when you have not yet thought about getting married and being a mother, never let yourself get pregnant. Because of this consequence, it is likely that she will regret it for the rest of her life.
4. Educate boys
Parents of boys should also teach boys to love and care for the girls they like, and not easily let girls be physically and mentally hurt.
I am also a mother with a daughter, so it will be sad to see such news. I don't think any parent who loves his or her child would like to see his daughter have these problems in the news.
If you have the means, take your daughter to see the world and see more people and things so she won't be short-sighted.
If you have limited conditions, then show your child more documentaries, including sex education documentaries, talk to her about sex education, and guide her to love herself.
There is still a long way to go to educate girls.