He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
A person's success actually has little to do with hard work.
Sometimes, you try a lot, but in the end you find that there is still nothing; Most people's fortunes are actually related to "luck".
When you step on the vent, it is difficult even if you don't want to get rich.
This is especially true for men.
"Standing at thirty", in fact, in today's society, men are just starting at the age of 30.
Without a superior family background, no prominent background, only relying on their own efforts, how can a man go uphill?
When men turn 30 and start going uphill, there are some signs.
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Meet the "virtuous wife"
To a large extent, the wife determines the fortune of the man.
In a family, the man determines the height of the family, then the wife determines how far the family can go.
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When a man is 28 years old, he marries his wife.
When he got married, he had nothing, failed in business, and owed hundreds of thousands.
There was no house, the car was sold to pay off the debt, and his wife married him under all the pressure.
Do not leave, do not complain about him.
Why does this woman believe in this man so much?
Just because when she was most helpless, men gave everything they had without reservation to help women get through difficulties.
After getting married, the two started their careers again, and in just a few years, they not only paid off hundreds of thousands of foreign debts, but also bought a house and a car again.
He shared his relationship with his wife:
Praise, appreciation, recognition, support, trust.
When these advantages can be combined in marriage, it is difficult for the family to think of well.
"Home and everything is prosperous", the relationship between husband and wife determines the direction of the family, and the mode of getting along with husband and wife determines whether the man goes uphill.
Meeting a good wife can save men many years of detours, and you must believe this truth.
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Know how to "run a circle"
What is the performance of men starting to go downhill?
In his circle, all those he came into contact with were some "inferior people" and some "unreliable fox friends".
He who is inferior to himself cannot bring him any help except to trouble him;
And he was immersed in the "pursuit and hypocritical praise" of the crowd and lost himself.
Getting along with fox and dog friends, every day has no meaning except meaningless drinking and bragging about the mountains.
If in his circle, he meets people who are positive, work harder and have a better life than himself, then he is going uphill.
What kind of person you are with, it really is different.
With positive people, you will also become positive;
With negative, negative, lazy people, over time you will become such a person.
How to run your circle?
One is that you are able to help others.
Socializing, the essence of networking, is value exchange; If you are not valuable, even if you are surrounded by excellent and good people, then they will not become your connections.
The second is that you can provide "emotional value" and achieve empathy.
When meeting a noble person, the most important thing is to seize the opportunity.
Men go uphill, luck is important, and nobles are your luck.
Some people, when they meet noble people, can't seize the opportunity.
This requires you to learn to be "humble and cautious" when dealing with others.
Because you don't know if the other party is your nobleman.
There is a saying: "Be a person and leave a line, and see each other in the future".
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Improper "licking of the dog"
Women will only affect how quickly you "pull the knife".
Staying away from women allows you to focus on your career, focus on yourself, and focus on life.
Believe me, when you have no money, no ability, no conditions, even if you meet true love, you can't catch it.
No matter how fast 86 is, it can't stop her heart from wanting to get into a Mercedes.
In the current marriage market, no girl wants to marry a poor boy who "has nothing, but is good to her".
This is the truth of marriage.
A paragraph comes to mind.
The girl went on a date with the eldest brother of the list for dinner, and the eldest brother saw the bracelet she was wearing on her hand and said:
"It's so ugly, who bought it for you."
The girl said, "A fool sent it." ”
The goddess in your eyes, in the eyes of their "big brother", is nothing.
Only know how to pay, but do not know how to invest in yourself;
You gave everything, so what?
When girls don't love you, it's useless for you to take out them all.
Stop licking dogs, stop pursuing those ethereal loves.
When you succeed in your career and become a "winner in life", you will find that love can be bought with money.
It's that realistic.
Wilde said:
"Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."
Learn to invest in yourself so that you can become better;
Learn to love yourself so that you don't let yourself get caught up in "screwed" feelings.
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Have a high enough execution
What is execution?
What you want, you get;
Do whatever you want, do it right away.
Execution is the highest self-discipline of a man.
They don't procrastinate, they don't make excuses for their failures, they don't stop because of one failure.
The more frustrated you are, the more courageous you are, and you can climb to the top of the mountain step by step in your own field.
When a man can do what he says and be strict with himself, then he is starting to go uphill.
Conversely, if a man does anything, it's "three minutes of heat."
Fail once, give up immediately;
If you can't see results in the short term, stop giving;
There is a little frustration and trouble, too lazy to use your brain, will also give up.
The mentality of fishing for three days and drying nets for two days is impossible to go uphill.
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