In the early years, when there was no family planning, it was common for the family to have seven or eight children. If there are many children, they are not so finely raised, but if they can pull the children to grow up, they are successful.
It's just that since the implementation of family planning, young people have only one child in their families, and raising children has become a meticulous task. Young parents think that since they give birth to their child, they must do their best to raise him and give him the best living conditions.
After having their first child, young couples who are new parents find it difficult to support their children. When friends and family ask if they want to have a second one, they all say they need to think about it again.
Some people say that raising one child is also raising, it is better to have two children to accompany each other, and they will have a good care after a hundred years of parents.
Although there is no difference between one-child and two-child families now, some experts speculate that within 20 years, the gap between one-child and two-child families will soon appear.
Single-child families have little financial pressure
Two-child families have to bear the burden of two children growing up, and the financial pressure is high.
Raising a child now is not as simple as having multiple pairs of chopsticks in the early years. In the last century, everyone was accustomed to free-range and let their children grow wildly. When the child is hungry, he will drink some breast milk, and if he can't hold his pee, he will use diapers, and he will wash for several more years.
However, with the development of the times, the parenting model has undergone earth-shaking changes, and now they all pay attention to scientific parenting. Now, in addition to breastfeeding, it is necessary to buy various milk powder, fish oil and other nutritional products for children to ensure that they can grow up healthily.
In addition, diapers and other tools that need to be changed have been eliminated and replaced with baby products such as disposable diapers.
If your child speaks late, can only crawl and can't walk, etc., you have to sign up for a variety of early baby education classes to prevent your child from losing at the starting line.
As soon as the child is born, there are so many places that need to be spent, and it costs 3,000 yuan a month. After going to kindergarten, parents began to "excite the baby" again, enrolling them in various interest classes, so that their children could master a talent from an early age.
When the child grows up, tuition and living expenses are also a large expense. Modern parents not only have to bear mortgages, car loans and other loans, but also have to try their best to give their children a good living environment, how stressful it is.
Single-child families can say that parents only need to focus on raising one child, but second-child families have to bear double the expenses. Within 20 years, the economic gap between one-child families and two-child families will gradually widen.
Children from single-child families can grow up to be independent, work and earn money on their own, and parents no longer have to worry about their children.
However, when the eldest of the second-child family grows up, there is still a younger son or daughter in the family who needs to go to school, and the parents still need to provide for the child's education.
It can be seen that in today's high cost of raising a baby, the family pressure of an only child is much smaller than that of a two-child family.
The only child enjoys the pampering of his parents The second-child family will compete with each other for favor
As the saying goes, "if you don't suffer from widowhood, you will suffer from inequality", which is very much in line with the situation of two-child families.
Families with two children must buy double portions of things, and if one child is given a small stove alone, the other neglected child will inevitably complain about the partiality of his parents.
Especially for older children, the birth of a younger brother or sister distracts the attention of their parents, and they are more likely to compete for favor. They thought that they had been in the spotlight at home, and the appearance of their second child took away their family's love for them.
Because the child is too young to know how to express his sadness, he can only vent his frustration by fighting with his younger siblings.
The parents of the two-child family have to be the family judge every day to appease the feelings of the two children, and they have the heart to it endlessly.
On the contrary, single-child families do not have this problem. Children from single-child families can enjoy the unconditional preference of their parents and receive the care and care of the whole family.
There is a lot of pressure on the only child to provide for the elderly
The two children of a two-child family can share the burden of providing for the elderly.
Only children are very happy when they are young, after all, there is only one child in the family, and their parents and elders hold him in the palm of their hands. However, it is only when he grows up that he will gradually realize the burden on his body.
In the future, the children of the single-child family will have to bear the pension of two people, and if the parents have pensions and are in good health, then the children only need to visit and chat with the elderly.
It's just that once the parents are hospitalized with physical problems, they must need to be taken care of, and at this time, the only child will face both work and family pressure.
On the other hand, children in second-child families will not have so much pressure in terms of providing for the elderly, and the two children can share the burden of taking care of their parents. When parents are sick, they can not only take care of the elderly in mixed shifts, but also share the cost of hospitalization.
At last:
Raising a child is not a pet, and both a one-child family and a two-child family have their pros and cons.
A single-child family can pour all the love into the child, so that the child can grow up healthy and happy. However, when the only child grows up, the pressure of providing for the elderly will increase exponentially.
The second-child family has to bear greater parenting pressure in the early stage, from parenting expenses to care for children, they have to pay double. But on the other hand, the two children can help each other and share the pressure of retirement when they grow up.
Therefore, before parents have a second child, they must consider the reality gap between the two families.