Stay-at-home mom self-report: Divorce for a man who has known each other for 105 days, I don't regret it!
After Yuan Yuan proposed divorce, everyone around her did not understand, "I don't know what to do, for a man who has known each other for 105 days, I abandoned my husband and abandoned my son", "I was blinded by lard", "I don't know the blessing in the blessing", "I am not lightly ill" and so on.
No matter what they said, Yuan Yuan had a feeling of relief in her heart. More than ten years of marriage, others only saw her appearance of brilliance, never saw her heart full of holes.
Indeed, the contrast between the external conditions of two men is too strong, a graduate of a prestigious school, a successful entrepreneur, a lot of money, a business failure, no house and no car, and divorced. No one believed that Yuan Yuan would abandon the former for the latter.
But the quality of marriage, only the parties are eligible to define.
Once, when Yuan Yuan was still a young and ignorant girl, she was attracted by guan huan, who graduated from her husband's famous school, and her handsome appearance, and quickly fell in love. Although the other party's family conditions are not good, Yuan Yuan's parents do not mind, on the contrary, the older generation without academic qualifications and starting from small businesses has an extraordinary liking for highly educated talents.
After marriage, with the support of Yuan Yuan's parents, her husband showed management skills. After having some say, the man proposed to start a business, he was very optimistic about the Internet, and wanted to persuade his father-in-law to invest in him.
Yuan Yuan's parents started from a traditional industry, scorned the illusory online industry of the Internet, thought it could not last, and always disapproved of her son-in-law. Finally, under Yuan Yuan's soft grinding and hard bubbles, he promised to support some.
In those years, with the dividends of the times, my husband's career development was smooth, and he pulled multi-party investment, and the company expanded rapidly. On the contrary, industry is becoming more and more difficult to do, and yuan yuan's parents' business is visible to the naked eye.
Yuan Yuan, who is not familiar with the world, is immersed in her own small days, and the wind and clouds in the outside world are surging and she completely ignores it. Even the subtle changes in the atmosphere at the dinner table during the family dinner- in the past, her parents pointed out the country, and her husband echoed it, and now her husband is crazy output, and her parents are slightly jawed, and she has not cared.
Maybe the first half of life is too much to enjoy, and the second half of life is destined to suffer some suffering.
Yuan Yuan's life has never been anything to worry about. In the two years when her husband started a business, she still lived a moist life under the care of her parents. Later, her husband bought a house, she moved in, and hired two nannies for her, one to take care of the children and the other to take care of the family.
Looking back now, how happy her life was at that time, and how much her husband loved her. Originally, her husband wanted to have a second child, but Yuan Yuan did not want to suffer from childbirth again, so her husband did not force her.
When her husband's attitude towards her changed, Yuan Yuan couldn't remember clearly. But her husband's words, she still hears them, that is the beginning of the sting of her heart.
When you are angry, it is always easy to say hurtful words, but as long as you still care about the other party in your heart, you will not say irreparable words that violate the bottom line.
At that time, Yuan Yuan was playing TV in the living room, and her husband was handling work in the room. Probably in an irritable mood, the husband suddenly came out of the room, angrily turned off the TV, pointed at Yuan Yuan and scolded: "Don't make noise in my house." ”
Yuan Yuan could not return for a long time. The husband's attitude is secondary, and more importantly, the two words "mine" in front of the house. Saying to his wife, "My house", is a denial of Yuan Yuan's identity.
In the past, Yuan Yuan also felt that her husband was unwilling to take care of her when she went home because she was too tired. Now this sentence has completely awakened Yuan Yuan's sensitive nerves, and she re-examined this marriage, only to find that unconsciously, it seems that everything has changed its flavor.
The husband is not the same as he once was, and the two faces are seamlessly connected to the outside world and to her. Externally, he is always a kind look. Behind closed doors, the disgust in his tone and the disgust in his eyes were all telling his contempt for Yuan Yuan.
At the family dinner, he can give Yuan Yuan a dish in front of his relatives and friends. Back at home, he sneered at the dishes that Yuan Yuan personally made, "Color and fragrance, you have no possession of this craft", and even poured the meal to the dog in front of Yuan Yuan.
At the company's annual meeting, Yuan Yuan attended the meeting. Cloaking, picking vegetables, pouring wine, and giving thanks on stage, the whole process is like a loving couple. Back at home, her husband said to Yuan Yuan, "Do you think it is appropriate to wear a tight dress with your figure?" ”
Everyone around her is praising her husband and envying herself, which also gives Yuan Yuan an illusion that she is very bad, so her husband will be like this.
A bad marriage, the biggest harm to people, is to make a person completely deny themselves.
In the marriage, Yuan Yuan became more and more inferior, more and more felt useless, if it were not for li Wenzhi, she would probably have confessed her fate. It's just that this man gave her different care.
Yuan Yuan participated in the baking training course, and most of the people who participated in the course were Bao Ma, but there was a different kind, Li Wenzhi. As the only male student in the audience, he actually did the best and delicious.
Slowly getting acquainted, I learned that Li Wenzhi had a small restaurant for flies, and would take a day off every week to use his free time to taste food in other restaurants. His wish was to taste all the delicacies.
This is the same as Yuan Yuan, who also likes to go to various restaurants, eat more than a few times when she encounters something delicious, and never come again when she encounters something that is not delicious. Sometimes I think it's delicious, so I read the recipes on the Internet and learn to make it myself.
Tasting food can be said to be the most beautiful thing in Yuan Yuan's life. The two hit it off, formed a partnership, and went to the city to start searching for food. Remembering that eating and broadcasting was more popular, Yuan Yuan and Li Wenzhi also studied how to shoot videos.
Gradually, when there was nothing to do on weekdays, Yuan Yuan always ran to Li Wenzhi's fly shop to help him wash and serve dishes and serve guests. Often familiar guests quipped, "Oh, old Li, the iron tree has blossomed, where did you find this wife, beautiful and capable." ”
Li Wenzhi smiled, "I'm not that blessed." ”
Although his home is large, Yuan Yuan feels empty, and although Li Wenzhi's house is small, Yuan Yuan feels stable and steady. More importantly, there are individuals here who sincerely affirm themselves and care about themselves.
Yuan Yuan was burned, Li Wenzhi would put down the things at hand, cold compresses for her, Yuan Yuan's stomach hurt, li Wenzhi saw through, he would prepare brown sugar water... Such small details, as well as the relaxation when together, made Yuan Yuan feel incredible.
The husband's indifference and the man's gentleness are in stark contrast. Some people have just met, but they feel that they have known each other for a long time. Some people have known each other for a long time, but they find it difficult to reach.
Yuan Yuan tentatively revealed her thoughts to Li Wenzhi, who confessed his situation, once had a marriage, but blindly expanded when he was young, resulting in the failure of the hotel business, foreign debt, and finally divorce.
Now the debt has been cleared, but the savings are not much, the parents have long died, there is no child under the knee, he is more than 40 years old, there is no great ambition, just want to guard the fly house, live a stable life. He admitted that he liked Yuan Yuan, but he couldn't give her a life of great wealth and nobility, afraid that she would regret it in the future.
Yuan Yuan thought about it again and again, and her only scruple was the child. But even if she is divorced, she is still the mother of the child and will still care about the child. If she continues to be trapped in this marriage, she will lose her vitality.
After meeting Li Wenzhi for 105 days, Yuan Yuan formally filed for divorce. As she thought, her husband quickly agreed. Maybe he was waiting for this moment, waiting for Yuan Yuan to take the initiative. As for the family, Yuan Yuan will explain well, because she believes that her parents' ultimate wish is to hope that they are good.
Stay-at-home mom self-report: Divorce for a man who has known each other for 105 days, I don't regret it!