Su Qian said: "As a woman, it is normal to regret marrying, but marrying regret does not mean that you are married badly." ”
In fact, when there is a disagreement in the family or when they encounter something unsatisfactory, everyone will question their choices, which is a normal psychology.
But some people can guide themselves and face life directly, while others have to take away their responsibilities and push them on others.
But most of the road in life is your own choice, it is your own step by step, all the disappointments, failures and regrets, the leader is always yourself.
Happy marriage, husband and wife know how to appreciate each other, unhappy marriage, husband and wife are full of mutual pickiness.
For most women, while complaining about marriage, they forget to look at themselves.
Some people choose to flee, but divorce is not liberation, much less redemption. If you don't find the root of the problem, how many people will change, life will not be satisfactory.
Those wives who dislike their husbands, most of their marriages will have the following four states, if not adjusted in time, the rift of feelings will become larger and larger.
The wife is speechless, and the husband and wife cannot have an equal dialogue
Strong women and weak men are not the traditional marriage model, which requires more people to run into each other and understand each other.
Husband and wife are cooperative partners, only when two people are equal, can they jointly shoulder the tribulations in life and work together to find ways to fight against the problems that arise in marriage.
And if the wife is too domineering and does not leave the man to speak, or even if the man expresses his opinion, it is all ignored, then the man will most likely extend his feelings outward.
In a marriage, two people have a deal to discuss things in order to live a good life. If the big things in the family are small and the women are the ones who make the decisions, then in this marriage, the men will gradually lose their sense of responsibility and belonging.
Everyone has their own feelings, if the man is too passive in the marriage, the wife is not willing to talk to him in an equal posture, then the wife must look down on the man in her heart.
Exuding regret, constantly comparing and counting his own men
In marriage, I am most afraid of a mountain looking at a mountain high, everything is like this, there are people outside the sky, if you are always not satisfied with the continuous comparison, the days can not move forward.
Everyone's life has its own rhythm, every adult also has their own life pressure, if you want to live to a higher level and can't, don't blindly find reasons in men, but also see if you are also working hard.
Emma in Madame Bovary, born in the countryside and married to a male doctor in the town, is the first step she thinks she takes across classes.
But I didn't think of seeing a wider world in the town, seeing the upper social circles and the dance, and the male doctor was no longer what she looked up to, but had become a man who did not even have a ticket to high society.
Emma regrets the marriage, jealous of the lives of the upper class, and complains that her husband is incompetent. Eventually, he fell deeper and deeper, and lived his married life in a mess.
Cold and arrogant, contemptuous of men's friends and relatives
As the old saying goes, love the house and the U, to see if a person has you in his heart, in addition to seeing how he treats you, but also how he treats your relatives and friends.
If the wife is respectful of a man's relatives and friends, then the man is naturally important in her heart. And if a woman looks down on her man, she will despise his friends and relatives.
If the wife does not leave any face to her husband in front of outsiders, and looks like she is high and has a sense of superiority, it will inevitably lead to an imbalance in this marriage.
If a woman attaches importance to this man in her heart, she will have some scruples, even if the man's relatives and friends are down again, at least they will treat each other with courtesy, and it will not be a condescending attitude.
And if the wife in the marriage has no scruples about the man himself, and does not have to take care of his feelings, she will have no heart to answer the relatives and friends of men who are more distant from her.
Critical and demeaning, not believing or supporting men
It is important to judge whether two people are in love with each other, and whether he is willing to accept and tolerate each other's shortcomings, rather than constantly taking and controlling.
When a wife looks down on her husband, what a man does is wrong. She doesn't believe that men are capable, that men will sing about anything they do, and that they will habitually pour cold water.
When a person who has been denied for a long time is determined to do something, but encounters the sarcastic denial of the other party, then the courage he musters will be extinguished in an instant.
In such a vicious circle, men are more and more despised by their wives, and their wives are more and more unable to find happiness and dependence in marriage. Such a state of marriage is more terrible than poverty.
Both men and women need support and approval. Although the advice is against the ear, but constant suppression and ridicule, but also ruin a person.
And when a woman looks down on her husband from the bottom of her heart, she will never believe that a man can have a job and can do something. Therefore, she will never support, but will unconsciously criticize, demean, and suppress.
A bad marriage is an overly idealistic approach to the lover. When he doesn't reach the perfect image in your mind, the problems in the marriage begin to intensify.
But each of us should be respected, especially the relationship between husband and wife, and we must not lose the word equality.
Everyone has their own merits and strengths, the world is ruthless, if even their pillow people are harsh and cruel, then how can they live?
There is a saying that good men are exaggerated.
When a husband and wife become an economic community, loving a husband is actually loving himself, encouraging and supporting a man to achieve him, which in turn will nourish the woman herself.
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