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In episode 32 of "Dear Child", Fang Yinuo finally said the phrase "I love you" to Xie Tianhua.
As we all know, she divorced her ex-husband Xiao Lu in a negative mood, and she married Xiao Lu, definitely because she loved him. After all, they and Xie Tianhua were friends, and Xiao Lu also knew that Xie Tianhua had always had a crush on Fang Yinuo.
But she accepted Xiao Lu, and Xie Tianhua's love was always hidden.
Years later, seeing that she and Xiao Lu divorced, Xie Tianhua waited silently for three years, plucked up the courage to confess, and wholeheartedly treated their mother and daughter well.
Fang Yinuo was impressed and accepted his marriage proposal, but he felt that he was a good person and good to his daughter, and her daughter also liked and accepted him, and her daughter needed a father.
But after being together, she has many changes, after all, she is not a stone, she can cover the heat. The point is that she didn't know what it would be like to be with Xie Tianhua before, so it was normal to marry first and love later.
Later, everyone's relationship became very complicated, and Xie Tianhua and his family were all in a pitiful and sad situation. Therefore, Fang Yinuo's relationship with Xie Tianhua also had problems, and the kind and gentle old Xie couldn't help but have hatred.
This hatred is also understandable, a person and his family have been unconditionally giving love and kindness, and then not getting enough attention and response, and always feel taken advantage of, ignored, shelved.
The person who has not been able to feel loved will indeed be exhausted, intolerable, feel that he has given too much, and his interests are seriously damaged, so he fights back.
It's just a little bit of hate, but it's still because of love.
Fang Yinuo found Lao Xie, who was crouching in the darkness outside the house and crying quietly, and saw him crying and apologizing, saying that he should not report her and Xiao Lu for using fake divorce certificates to do test tubes.
Fang Yinuo said: "People are really selfish, I don't blame you, when I married you, I didn't love you." I was also selfish, one person wrong, turned over. I used to be strong, I had to be unforgiving, and I suffered a lot. After having you, I softened, Tianhua, I think someone can lean on, I am not afraid. Xie Tianhua, I love you, now it's true..."
Fang Yinuo was right, there was a problem in the previous marriage, and she was also responsible.
The kind of "do as I say" in life is very obvious, and I always feel that I am right, so I do my own thing and go straight.
In addition, whether the profession is a teacher or a class teacher, the kind of "habitual listening to me and preaching" when getting along with people is inevitable. This point has some similarities with her mother, somewhat strong.
At the same time, although Xiao Lu said it well, in fact, his personality was somewhat stubborn and sloppy, and sometimes he even seemed unreliable, could not count on, and could not take care of people.
So Fang Yinuo's "to be strong" also makes sense, there is a man who is always unable to count on, and the woman becomes a mother, which will only become more "rigid" and more "tough", because she knows that no one is for her.
But after following Xie Tianhua, you may find out what it is like to be spoiled in the palm of your hand, not only is Xie Tianhua a gentle and considerate person, but his family belongs to the warm and reliable type.
In fact, to put it bluntly, when Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo were together, they didn't love enough, they may love themselves more, they may not understand love, anyway, it's like a trial, the two are not suitable together, and the practice is smashed.
And Xie Tianhua has been secretly in love with Fang Yinuo for so many years, and love has been accumulated there, very cherished, very hard. I was afraid that I would not take good care of her, and I was afraid that she would not be happy or unhappy.
Surrounded by such unhesitating love, Fang Yinuo will become soft. Will understand tolerance and tolerance, or the kind of tolerance that is not angry.
For example, to Xie Tianhua's sister, no matter how much she was intimidated, she smiled next. Because Lao Xie's love can melt these small unsatisfactory and small unsmooths, and xiao lu did not have this patience for his mother Gao Caiping, or because he was not satisfied with Xiao Lu, so he could not stand his family.
Later Xiao Lu also made a change, it was because he also met a woman who really loved him and was particularly devoted to him, and the former Fang Yinuo should also not know how to love people, so the two people were awkward.
When they meet those who know love, they naturally make a change.
This is also an eternal truth: whoever wants to change, truly love him.
This is true for parents and children, couples or lovers.
Painstaking efforts to reason, to correct people's homes, to bitter mouths or nagging, are useless, will only play a counter-role, let the other party sing the opposite tune with you.
If you love unconditionally, with no intention, no purpose, no interest, no heart to love, but only then will the other party calm down to reflect on whether there is something wrong with their words and deeds, and will think: He is so good to me, I should also behave better.
In order not to disappoint and sad people who love themselves, they will take the initiative to correct their mistakes and will take the initiative to become better, so as to show their gratitude for having the love and sincerity of the other party.
Knowing this, maybe you shouldn't think about how to change anyone. Because pure love has no purpose, whether the other party will change or not, I will love him as always.