Class reunions are a dangerous thing, not just "breaking up a pair is a pair" reason

Text/Xuan Xiaolei

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A netizen recently chatted with me, talking about her husband, who recently seemed to have changed as a person, because it was triggered by a classmate party.

As soon as I heard this, I was very gossipy, thinking that it was another kind of "classmate association, breaking up a pair is a pair" drama.

The result was also unexpected to me, his husband did not meet an old love or a first love, but was stimulated by the "comparison" at the classmate meeting, and when he returned home, he was about to resign.

He wanted to borrow money to go to the sea to do business, and even wanted to take the family's house to mortgage. It is nothing more than wanting to obtain a financial status in the short term, so as to have a "talking point" in the circle of classmates.

Or maybe you feel like you've been snubbed and stimulated in your classmates, and you want to "rise" quickly, and then punch the guys who look down on you.

However, although the husband of this netizen is not rich and wealthy, he also belongs to a stable well-off family, has a stable job, and has room for development, but what he likes to do, belongs to the state of ideal dreams and life.

Obviously, I have planned my dream for a long time, but I know that it will not be realized so quickly, so after being stimulated, I want to put it on the shelf and engage in some things that I do not like and may not be good at.

Although it is indeed an important thing to make a lot of money, just as people say that "a soldier who does not want to be a marshal is not a good soldier", but everyone goes to be a marshal, who is a soldier? Or is it that those who only want to be a marshal are good soldiers?

Everyone should have their own area of expertise, everyone can make a contribution to their position, a point of light, can not all be measured by how much money is made.

Of course, if you can happily earn a lot of money, make your family live better, and make greater contributions to society, it is actually meaningful, but in this process, you are miserable? Or is it happy?

If you blindly pursue success and fame, but you are very difficult, very reluctant, and very stressful, it is not good for physical and mental health.

If the husband in the example really resigns and puts down his dream to go to the business sea, will he really be able to develop smoothly? Is it really possible to become rich and then achieve the purpose of showing off at the next class reunion?

In fact, it is still very unknown, if you borrow a lot of money to invest, the result is not good at business, but self-defeating, the existing stable life is also destroyed.

In short, acting impulsively in order to compete with classmates is naturally the wrong choice. It is easy to lose oneself and lose one's direction in anxiety and urgency.

Therefore, either you don't care that there are local tycoons who are particularly rich in the classmates, do not envy, and are not afraid of being ignored and despised, or do not go to this kind of class reunion with the intention of comparing and showing off.

The purpose of the class reunion should be to let everyone contact their feelings in the busy, reminisce about the past, meet each other, and be as intimate and warm as seeing brothers and sisters.

If it's just to compete, it's not interesting, and there's no need to participate.

What's more, in terms of feelings, class reunions do have drawbacks.

Everyone's first love or crush object is generally in those classmates, some are even the former love of the ex who once fell in love, and some can have a crush on each other without confessing, or one of the crushes has been hidden for many years, and then they can't help but say it.

Anyway, the feelings between everyone are easy to become not simple, and when they meet again, they may have their own hearts and feelings, and then their emotions fluctuate and their hearts are turbulent.

This is indeed easy to bring bad changes to people who already have another half, affect their existing feelings, and even because of a classmate meeting, they have contacted people who were once interested, and the old love has recurred.

Similar situations are everywhere, if you can't avoid it, or if you go to the party with an impure mind, the impact on your life will be huge, and it may also bring great harm to the other half you already have.

Therefore, the class reunion or simple and pure, you can get together occasionally, there is another half can be brought, it will be better, if it is not convenient to bring, then just keep their respective principles of the bottom line, do not run amok, do not let their own impulses, make the wrong choice.

Of course, if both parties are single, just meet at the classmate meeting, and just happen to be moved, it is also a good story, but also a beautiful fate.

Anyway, the premise is not to bring harm to innocent people, not to destroy the families of both sides.

Without these realizations and vigilance, class reunions can easily become a dangerous activity. Either it destroys your self-confidence and makes you doubt your ordinary life, so as to blindly change direction, or it destroys feelings and makes your life a mess.

Regarding this, even the Professor at Harvard has reminded his students not to attend class reunions, because it will force you to examine your achievements in the years after graduation, so as to take your classmates as the standard, ignore your original career goals and values, and disrupt the original lifestyle and even emotional life.

Thinking about this clearly and then deciding whether to attend a class reunion or not, perhaps this is also a kind of protection for our stable life.