I remember when I was in college, my roommate liked a boy, and she had always been in love, and she also began a clumsy crush.
Ask when the other party will go to class, where to take class, the roommate will go to the class, just to see the boy a few times;
Knowing that the other party was going to participate in a basketball game, the roommate ran to cheer the other party and took a lot of photos of the other party's shots on the mobile phone;
He often anonymously confessed his love for boys on the confession wall, and those words, the housemates were never embarrassed to open their mouths.
Crush is like this, wanting to let the other party know, but afraid that the other party will know.
Later, the roommate added the boy's WeChat, the two people also began to have a ride to chat, the roommate is not very good at finding a topic, fortunately the boy has been very patient to reply.
It was learned a long time later that in fact, boys also like roommates, so they will not reject the minds of those girls, know that the other party is clumsy and cannot chat, and also have the patience to listen to each other.
This is one of the ways that boys are interested in women, which is not exclusion, but acceptance.
In a relationship between the sexes, when men aren't interested in you, send out 3 "signals", obviously.
He never initiates sharing his daily routine with you
If love has to pursue a reliable standard, then this standard is the time people spend.
During this time, the most obvious thing about whether a person likes or dislikes himself is whether the other person will share his daily life with us.
Because He Jiong once said: "Do you know what is most important in a relationship?" Not appearance, not bread, not even loyalty or not, but sharing. ”
When a man is willing to share his daily life with us, he is actually integrating us into each other's lives in disguise.
Moreover, it can be seen that the other party subconsciously values us more importantly, because we are the ones who are worth sharing the trivial things for them.
The quality of a relationship is not to look at those vigorous romances, but in the process of getting along with each other, the small things that are trivial.
It is precisely because of these details that a love with pyrotechnics is formed.
Therefore, if a man never initiates sharing his daily life with us, we should understand that the other person is not interested in us.
Never initiate a chat with you
A man who is interested in you will definitely not make you look too passive in the chat, because he always has to convey his inner feelings in some way.
For example, Wang Xiaobo wrote in a love letter to Li Yinhe: "I have now developed a habit of saying a few words to others every three or two days. ”
Conversely, when men are not interested in you, you will find that the person who brings up the topic every time must be you, and the person who racks his brains to think of the topic every time must also be you.
Men are creatures with rational ways of thinking, and their thinking will also show a curved shape, like is like, dislike is dislike.
Therefore, for them, liking a person will become a nag, and not liking a person will become a word of gold.
Of course, out of the protection of the dignity of girls, they will not reject it outright, but through other ways to euphemistically express it.
The indifference of attitude is one way.
The attitude towards you has always been lukewarm
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "I just hope that there is someone who knows that I am not really okay when we say that I am okay; that there can be someone who, when I force a smile, knows that I am not really happy." ”
In a relationship, if the man likes us, if the man is interested in us, then what he shows in his attitude is to know the cold and know the heat.
At least when we talk to each other, he will not love to answer;
When we tell each other that we are uncomfortable, the other party will also be anxious, rather than indifferent, not at all concerned and expressed.
In the adult world, some words cannot be said too fullly, but can only be understood, unspeakable, and rejection will not be straightforward, but manifested in other ways.
For example, the attitude of lukewarm and lukewarm.
At this time, we must know that the other party does not like themselves and is not interested in themselves.
Love is a thing, like an eight-hundred-meter run, and the purpose of our efforts is to make the end point closer to ourselves.
Therefore, if we go forward a little, and the other party also goes forward a little, such love will be cultivated into positive results.
However, if we go forward a lot, and the other party is not only motionless, but even goes backwards, then we need to understand that we should stop and cannot continue to move forward.
Sometimes, it is better to stop the loss in time than to blindly insist, a door that is not willing to open for us, and it is rude to knock all the time.
Love does not come, and the enthusiasm that does not get a response needs to be stopped in moderation, both to others and to oneself.