After watching "Dear Child", many men will helplessly sigh: If I want me, I can't stand Fang Yinuo.
The reason is that after giving birth, this woman seems to have changed her appearance, become sensitive, become provocative, become indifferent, and even become cruel.
The most representative is the divorce banquet that gathered friends from all walks of life to watch, as a teacher, Fang Yinuo's behavior exposed the unbearable marriage of the couple.
She said that what marriage needs most is decency, but at this moment, she and Xiao Lu have completely lost the dignity that adults should have.
Fang Yinuo did not care about the face of the child's father, and directly invited zhu Zhu, the object of his private contract, to the hotel, in front of everyone, to identify the "family ugliness" of the ex-husband who had a woman outside.
And there was no way to retreat to Xiao Lu, not only did not let him see his daughter, but also mercilessly informed him that her daughter had changed her surname.
In the face of such humiliating scenes, I believe that Xiao Lu was more angry and aggrieved in his heart at that time:
The anger was that he never thought that his wife, who he thought was a "soft persimmon", actually embarrassed him in public after the fallout, making him lose face.
The grievance lies in the matter with Zhu Zhu, he has not enjoyed it from beginning to end, but has been actively dealing with it, and Fang Yinuo does not trust himself at all.
In a fit of rage, Xiao Lu began to "break the jar and break it", publicly saying that it was Zhu Zhu who he chased first, and he was also determined to "grab the child" with his wife.
In Xiao Lu's heart, the next one is no longer a gentle woman who was once deeply loved, but a "crazy woman".
How fiercely the two quarreled in this scene, how big the hilarity of others watched, most of the audience shook their heads frequently after watching it and expressed their incomprehension: "The marriage is divorced, is it necessary?" ”
Judging from the behavior of "promoting the ugliness of the family", Fang Yinuo is indeed fierce enough, but when she becomes like this, why is she not forced step by step?
01 Fang Yinuo, who was pregnant, was still empathetic, independent and strong
The "suffocating" tone of the show has actually been fixed from the first shot of the first episode.
If you have not been pregnant, and even a little do not understand, the first few seconds of the TV series do not need to catch people's attention and enter the plot at a fast pace? Why did the director spend a few minutes slowly playing the picture of a woman looking in the mirror and removing her makeup...
It wasn't until she saw the camera pull away from Fang Yinuo's belly that she instantly understood how complicated her mood was when she looked at herself in the mirror.
As Wu Yating, who recently gave birth to two children, said in the show, pregnancy and childbirth will bring a series of blows to a woman, both physically and mentally.
But even so, after the low mood, Fang Yinuo did not complain, nor was she arrogant at all, she dried her tears, how to laugh at life, how she still lived.
Her husband is tired from working outside, she will care, she will be distressed, and she herself, in the third trimester of pregnancy, can not sleep, can only lean on the sofa to make up for a rest, but the next morning, still get school work.
In fact, here is a big misunderstanding of marriage for many people, some people feel that after marriage, men are more stressed, because they are responsible for making money to support the family, but women only need to pursue beauty.
The reality is not so, after marriage, men do have a sense of responsibility, but the change in the rhythm of life will not be too big, but women are different.
After marriage, women not only have to go to work, but also do housework, and after having children, they not only have to work, but also do housework, but also bring children.
How to say, the physical and mental pressure is not less than that of men, but Xiao Lu in the play is not aware of this situation at all, but Fang Yinuo did not calculate, but became more independent and strong.
For example, when the amniotic fluid suddenly broke in the classroom, she was very calm;
For example, when she was waiting for delivery in the hospital, she was not in a hurry or afraid, and in turn comforted Xiao Lu;
For example, xiao Lu received a work call before giving birth, and she did not spoil her, but let him deal with the work first...
It can be seen that before giving birth to a child, Fang Yinuo's personality is: cheerful and generous, gentle and considerate.
02 Having a child exposes the true face of human nature
Fang Yinuo's change began on the day he gave birth.
In the past, the scenes of having children in TV dramas were mostly filmed in an atmosphere where everyone was happy and the whole family was happy, but the plot in "Dear Child" was too real.
Presumably, when many viewers watched this episode, it was angry and hateful.
It is said that women can't believe what they say, and they often talk duplicitously, but Xiao Lu doesn't understand.
The wife is obviously going to give birth soon, received a work call that does not matter too much, Fang Yinuo let him go and he left, did he ever think, in case the wife was born shortly after leaving, what to do?
The most infuriating thing is that Xiao Lu did not hurry back to the hospital after the busy, but drank alone at home.
In the face of his wife who was incontinent after childbirth, Xiao Lu said that I should take care of him, but his expression could not deceive people, and his face was full of disgust, and he kept washing his hands.
No wonder Fang Yinuo will say when quarreling:
I on you in order to give birth to you, I on the body, let you serve me that time, your disgusted expression, I remember you for a lifetime!
In other words, in that most fragile and most needive moment, encountering such a scene will be cold.
On the way back to the ward, Fang Yinuo heard the nurse discuss how unreliable her husband was, which was another deep hurt to her.
The phrase "in the end husband and wife are still outsiders who are not related by blood" is vividly interpreted here.
After returning to the ward, everyone was busy watching the children, no one cared about the adults, this scene is familiar to many people, this is human nature, until Fang Yinuo's mother came, only to see her daughter extremely thirsty and want to drink water.
Speaking of the play, Xiao Lu also has the heart to take care of Fang Yinuo, but from his cutting apples with a potato planer, it can be seen that he is unfamiliar with housework.
At night, his sleepiness directly drowned out his concern for his wife and children, and he still slept very deeply and enjoyed it, and he was not even willing to pour a glass of water for his wife who was confinement and taking care of her children at night.
This kind of helplessness is not exaggerated, but the personal experience of too many mothers.
Wang Han's wife, Yang Lele, posted a video in which she gave a wake-up call to a group of married women:
"Anyone can retreat only I can't retreat, many people say you are born, I help you bring, in fact, when you encounter the most difficult time, only yourself!"
After giving birth, Yang Lele gradually disappeared from the public eye, yes, she was also a part of the full-time mother for a long time.
In order to bring children, a female host who loves to be beautiful and loves to dress up has completely ignored image management, leading friends to say that she has changed, every day she faces the sky, and her life is not exquisite at all;
In order to keep the child from losing at the starting line, she enrolled the child in eight classes, and every day the child did not have to rest, and she did not have to rest.
When the child is sick, even if there is a job, the aunt at home will still call the mother at the first time, and the mother will also put down the work for the child at the first time.
This terrible sense of strength and responsibility is understood only by those who have given birth to children.
In the play, Xiao Lu's other party promises that all the harm he thinks is not a big problem comes from the fact that men have children with women, and they can't empathize with it at all.
03 One disappointment at a time will make a woman become a "crazy woman"
After giving birth to a child, the most feared encounter is the mother's postpartum depression, because a person's unhappiness may make the whole family jump.
But why did a woman who was so gentle and lovely when she was in love and before she gave birth to a baby suddenly change her heart? Don't they want to be a lax mother and be happy to grow up with their children?
We still take Fang Yinuo as an example, she tried.
Even if she is the kind of mother who can shed tears of pain when she sees her child get an injection, after her child has jaundice, she initially chooses to believe what her sister-in-law said: it is okay and normal.
When her mother told her that some sisters-in-law were not reliable at all, and would feed the child medicine in order to make the child quiet, Fang Yinuo was also very optimistic, saying that the nanny was personally selected by herself, no problem.
Knowing that Xiao Lu's mother's nerves were not meticulous, she still would not stop her mother-in-law from taking the child out and watching the child while playing.
But what is the result of her trust and tolerance again and again?
The child went to the hospital for examination and was directly hospitalized; without the permission of Fang Yinuo, the sister-in-law secretly mixed milk powder for the child; the mother-in-law did not notice that the stroller slid away from the side for her own amusement, and the child fell directly out of the car.
After these few things happened, what was Xiao Lu's attitude?
Xiao Lu did not consider things from his wife's point of view, but was moved by the enthusiasm and thoughtfulness of yue's sister-in-law.
After the child fell, he also complained that Fang Yinuo gave his mother-in-law a look.
Imagine the mood of Yinuo at that time, no one can rely on it, only by doing it himself, he will feel at ease, the people around him not only can't help, but also don't understand her and even constantly accuse her.
As a new mother still in the months, Fang Yinuo has to take care of the children, be wary of nannies, and deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The husband came back from work and said it well: he wanted to make a lot of money to buy a big house for his wife and ask for a nanny, but to be honest, he still enjoyed his wife's "service" at the moment.
Collapse, excusable!
After all, there are few women who can be qualified new mothers and maintain the innocence, understanding, enthusiasm and romance of the love period.
It's just that most women's emotions are more direct, and when they are still angry and still making trouble, it shows that they still care, otherwise Fang Yinuo would not be sad and cry at the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau.
Extreme disappointment inevitably makes people feel suffocated and desperate, if the husband does not wake up at this time, make concessions, and give warmth, the final result is: husband and wife are one, hurting others and hurting themselves.