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Shen Zhiyi
Edited by Shen Zhiyi
Preamble:
Love and marriage, who can tell the line between the two?
When the passion fades and real life begins to come, can we still keep our original intentions?
Or will we eventually give up on ourselves and lose our way in the long course of life?
Don't be blinded by fictional fairy tales, the true meaning of marriage is actually all around you and me, but you and I tend to turn a blind eye.
Today, let's follow the story of Yang Lele and Wang Han and appreciate the emotional journey of seeing the truth in the ordinary.
When I was young, I was once intoxicated
Yang Lele was born in Chongqing and was a rather assertive student.
In college, she tirelessly focused on her studies and work, turning a blind eye to emotional matters.
It wasn't until Xiao Quan, a rough-looking photographer who was 19 years old with her, appeared in her life that this literary man instantly conquered Yang Lele's heart.
Yang Lele is like a bud that has just opened, and he is madly in love with Xiao Quan.
Despite the striking age gap between the two, she still threw herself into this relationship without hesitation.
Under Xiao Quan's package, Yang Lele quickly faded away from the high school days of his student days and became a little girl who fell into the dust.
It's a pity that people in Yangguan Road have a good fate.
Just when Yang Lele was about to introduce Xiao Quan to his parents, this man suddenly evaporated from the world and was unwilling to face the test of reality.
After they broke up, the two took each other's trains for the night to meet at dawn in the center of the two cities and share a piece of chocolate.
Looking at the first rays of dawn, they snuggled together, as if this was the romantic appearance of love.
But it was all too short-lived, and it was fleeting.
In the end, Yang Lele was ruthlessly abandoned.
After the breakup, she learned from the pain and finally realized that the reason why the two broke up was because both parties lacked tolerance for each other.
Difficult to find, holding the hand of the son
After leaving Xiao Quan, Yang Lele began to host Hunan Satellite TV's "Rose Covenant", and the program partner was Wang Han.
Wang Han was keenly aware of Yang Lele's low mood, and as a good friend, he listened warmly to her past.
Unexpectedly, Wang Han happened to be a victim of divorce.
His past married life also left him physically and mentally exhausted.
Two people with the same fate involuntarily approached each other, pleaded with each other, and soothed each other's wounds.
After some understanding, Wang Han found that Yang Lele's heart was simple and persistent, which made him sincere.
So, Wang Han began to take the initiative to pursue this young girl.
Wang Han was born in an intellectual family, and has been influenced by traditional culture since he was a child, and is a man with a great sense of humor and tradition.
His first marriage ended because his wife Lin Jing was too strong.
Now he just wants to find a truly virtuous and gentle partner.
In contrast, Yang Lele has some fantasies about love because of the pursuit of perfectionism in adolescence.
She always looked forward to the romantic life of a princess and a prince, but she didn't expect that a happy marriage was not innate.
Marriage is coming, and love is strong
In 2006, 28-year-old Yang Lele finally married Wang Han, who was married for the second time.
After entering the palace of marriage, Yang Lele began her dream of being a "princess".
However, real life soon shattered her illusions.
Soon after, Wang Han suffered from liver disease due to abnormal life and rest, frequent nosebleeds, and severe pain.
This time, Yang Lele finally faded away from her little girl's childishness and truly became "Sister Le".
In order to take care of her husband, she temporarily put down her career and took care of Wang Han's diet and daily life wholeheartedly.
Under the careful care of his wife, Wang Han's condition gradually improved, and the relationship between the two became more harmonious.
Whenever there is a dead of night, Wang Han will always call "Sister Le" softly.
These two words are full of respect and affection for the husband to his wife.
And Yang Lele is also grateful to have Hanhan, a good man, as his life partner.
In 2012, the good news of Yang Lele's pregnancy made the two excited.
But fate played a trick on the child, and the child died at the age of three months.
Yang Lele cried bitterly and couldn't sleep at night.
Wang Han has been waiting by his wife's side, comforting and encouraging her in his own way.
Origin and extinction, the hand of the son
In 2014, Yang Lele finally gave birth to his son Xiao Mumu.
Since then, she has completely devoted herself to the role of a mother and put all her energy on her children.
Xiao Mumu undoubtedly became the center of her world, but in turn snubbed Wang Han.
One day, Wang Han's sentence "You are a good mother, but not a good wife" hit Yang Lele's heart hard.
She began to reflect on her marriage, why did it end up like this?
After thinking about it, Yang Lele found that everything stems from her dedication to perfection.
Whether it is marriage or parenting, she always wants to do everything to the best of her ability, and gradually forgets the existence of Wang Han.
In fact, she simply can't do the best of both worlds, so it leads to cracks in her married life.
Gradually, Yang Lele learned to let go of his inner perfectionism.
She began to respect her son Xiao Mumu's choice and no longer blindly imposed her own ideas.
More importantly, she began to tolerate Wang Han's dissatisfaction, and deeply realized that mutual tolerance is the foundation of marriage.
There is no such thing as perfection in marriage, and love is not the preserve of perfection.
Epilogue:
Marriage is like a long journey, with long obstacles and mutual support.
Yang Lele and Wang Han have gone through a bumpy road, and finally found the secret of happiness - not to pursue perfection, but to treat each other's flaws with a tolerant heart.
Love is not an idle thing, but a lifelong lesson.
A "I understand you" is worth a thousand words.
When facing the trials of real life, please join hands with your lover to understand and tolerate each other, which is the ultimate secret to winning happiness.