As one of the two "pillars" of Mango Station, Wang Han's popularity and praise in the hosting industry for so many years are obvious to all.
Knowledgeable, professional level is excellent, popularity is also good, he hosted the "Every Day Upward" more than ten years since the start of the broadcast is still popular, it can be seen that the audience loves him.
In addition to Wang Han's hosting career, his emotional and marital life has always been the focus of everyone's attention.
After experiencing the first short marriage, Wang Han and Yang Lele, who is also the host of Mango Channel, are connected.
The two have walked together for nearly 20 years from love to marriage, and can be called a model couple in the circle.
However, even if it is a loving couple and family, it is inevitable that they will experience various run-ins and problems.
Some time ago, Yang Lele's words in an interview were on the hot search. She said that after having a child, Wang Han once said to her this complaint:
"You're a very good mom, but probably not a very good wife."
In this regard, she has no understanding and grievances, and many netizens have also complained about her, accusing Wang Han of spoiling his wife for many years and setting up a "rollover".
However, a closer look will find that this seemingly accusatory sentence points directly to the truth that is often ignored by both parties in a marriage and is extremely lethal.
A patterned husband makes marriage sweet
On November 11, Yang Lele posted a blog post on his account:
For others, it is a "Singles Day" and a shopping festival, but it is a sweet anniversary for her and Wang Han, and so far, the two have gone through 16 years of together time.
The well-known intersection of Wang Han and Yang Lele began in 2004 with a joint program "The Covenant of roses".
It may be that fate is destined, starting from the acquaintance of the marriage and love program, so that their acquaintance and love have some predestined meanings -
Before the two settled on a relationship, Wang Han ended the previous short marriage, and Yang Lele finally made up his mind to end the not-so-pleasant relationship.
It turns out that in addition to business, feelings and marriage need to meet the right person.
Yang Lele once said that in getting along with Wang Han, it has always been Wang Han who is accommodating, understanding and accommodating her, and she has enjoyed the most considerate care in this relationship.
Just look at Wang Han's attitude towards the relationship between husband and wife in marriage:
"It's a man's duty to hurt his wife, and he wants men to be only a playboy for one woman: spend time and mind on her." 」
Tolerance and understanding of the other half, spending enough thought and time for her, to spoil, to hurt, this is the position he gave himself in the marriage.
In the past ten years of getting along, he has always adhered to this principle.
On various occasions, he did not hesitate to love and appreciate Yang Lele, and repeatedly mentioned the feelings of the two in the program and interviews:
"It's possible that she's not the most beautiful woman in the whole world, but she must be the most comfortable and happiest person I can make!"
And for Yang Lele's goodness, he often expresses it in a humorous way - "Solo music is not as good as crowd music, and crowd music is not as good as Yang Lele."
The sweetness and pride in it, it is difficult not to make people smile and shout "fed dog food".
The most valuable thing is that Wang Han's respect for Yang Lele's care without losing favor has not changed before marriage, but has changed in a different way.
Before marriage, Wang Han will write love letters to Yang Lele and will prepare various small surprises for her in casual places;
After marriage, Wang Han put her energy into taking care of her life, whether it was taking care of the pregnant Yang Lele or taking over the trivial matters of taking over the baby after the birth of the child.
Wang Han's attitude towards Yang Lele tells everyone a truth - a patterned husband not only respects and appreciates his wife, but also can love and spoil her.
Such a marriage can maintain the sweetness of more than ten years.
In a happy family, the relationship between husband and wife ranks first
Why did the husband, who was originally as sweet as a couple relationship and who loved his wife and took care of his wife, suddenly complain that the other half was "not a good wife"?
The root of the problem still lies in the child.
Many times we all have the illusion that when there is a problem between a family couple, as long as there are children, we can continue to maintain.
The truth, however, is that this false intuition is often the root cause of a family and a couple's disintegration.
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In a truly stable and happy family, the relationship between husband and wife should come first, and the parent-child relationship between parents and children should be lower.
It is the couple who really build a small family, and only when the relationship between the husband and wife is stable and positive enough, can the child grow up in a good environment.
And as parents, especially moms, you often overlook this.
Yang Lele also admitted in the interview that since having a child, because the child has divided too much of her attention and consumed too much of her energy, she naturally ignored the other half.
"So in my heart, the first is the child, the second is my own business, and I put him in the last place." 」
Put the position of the other half down, the limited energy can be divided into each other's care and care is less, the other party will naturally be aware, no matter what the cause is, the external performance is "not so loving".
Therefore, I can also understand why Wang Han, who has always been very protective of Yang Lele, can't help but complain to her like this.
If the relationship between husband and wife in a family is not good enough, the love that parents put into their children will often exceed the amount, and even drown the children in serious cases.
They pay more for the parent-child relationship, unconsciously expect more returns, and even hope to "replace" the original husband and wife relationship with the parent-child relationship.
In the "Ma Bao" type of family, there is often an invisible father, and children who grow up in such a family will also have the illusion that I am the most important person in this family.
Once the order of the relationship in the family is reversed, it is difficult to maintain the original balance, and problems begin to breed.
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As either parent, we should have a recognition that we can love our children unconditionally, but we can only accompany them on a journey in life.
A happy family must first have a loving couple, and then there are children who grow up bathed in love, and the relationship between husband and wife must be before the parent-child relationship.
Loving parents can teach their children how to love
I remember that there was a time ago, "what is the experience of parents showing love in front of their children" The topic of "what it is like" has been hot for a while.
Many people have taken videos to upload, and in these short clips, you can smell the "sour smell of love" across the screen!
Parents walk sweetly hand in hand, and children push their own trolleys hard behind them;
Mother and son went to pick up the father who returned from a business trip, the mother "bear hugged" up with an arrow step, and the baby followed behind the ass and had nowhere to start, and could only turn her head to push the suitcase...
"Parents are true love, children are accidents", children can intuitively feel the feelings between parents, in order to have enough sense of security in the process of childhood growth.
Huo Siyan once said to Du Jiang in the program: "You said that I may have a child and I don't love you, and the most loved is the child." In fact, the most I love in this world is you! ”
Du Jiang and Huo Siyan both love their son Hmmm, especially Du Jiang, unlike the attitude of many fathers who throw their hands and take care of Um Hum, he will spend a lot of time with him.
But he also clearly expressed to his son: Mom and Dad love you very much, but Mom and Dad love each other more, and in Dad's place, Mom is the first.
Back at home, Du Jiang would kiss Huo Siyan first, and then take care of his son. No matter where they are, as long as the couple is together, they will not hesitate to express their love.
Xiao Hum is full of ears, obtains stable emotional value from the feelings of his parents, and slowly learns how to love others and how to express love.
Parents are the first pair of teachers for children to understand the world, and they are also the teachers for children to establish the right intimate relationship.
Teacher Wu Zhihong once said in "Why Home Hurts People":
"The pattern of our relationship with our lovers is also repeating our pattern of getting along with our parents, happy people will repeat happiness, and painful people will repeat pain." 」
The way parents get along will subtly affect the relationship between the child and the other half in the future life, the partner is in front, the child is behind, and the benign intimate relationship can continue into the child's life.
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Written at the end ·
Wang Han complained that Yang Lele ignored him for the sake of the child, and from the perspective of husband and wife, we can all understand.
But Yang Lele's grievances are also what each of us ordinary mothers have personally experienced and can empathize with.
Mothers need to spend all their energy and time taking care of their children, and it is inevitable that they will neglect to manage their relationship with their other half.
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On the one hand, fathers need to take away the burden of parenting on the shoulders of mothers, and on the other hand, mothers are willing to give up their parenting responsibilities, so that they can put their eyes back on the relationship between husband and wife.
Marriage is one that requires two people to run it together, whether it's feelings, or raising children.
Loving parents and a growing environment of mutual tolerance and respect are the source of children's sense of security. Only by feeling the temperature of love and learning the way of love can a child grow into a healthy, upward, and good character person.
Whether materially abundant or poor, the simplest but best gift we can give our children is a happy marriage!
In your "family relationship ranking", is the relationship between husband and wife the first, or the parent-child relationship the first? Do you think it's time to put the relationship above the parent-child relationship? Leave me a message with your thoughts!