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There is a saying that goes: "The hardest thing in the world to let go is feelings, easy to pick up, but difficult to let go." ”
Deeply.
But many people seem to be unable to let go of their feelings, but in fact, because they are unwilling and cannot let go of their obsession with the past.
On the surface, they are light and breezy, but in fact, what they feel is only known to the parties themselves. People pretend not to care, but people behind them are secretly sad in a corner, not wanting to be discovered.
It's like, when a man loves a woman deeply, and then separates for some reason, or has not confessed to the other party, but his heart has not been able to let go, there will always be some special actions.
In fact, when a man can't put down a woman, he usually exposes several "weaknesses" and cannot be controlled.
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sentimentality
When it comes to this word, everyone's first reaction is the appearance of a woman with pear blossoms with rain, she looks at the scenery outside, secretly hurting,
But in fact, everyone has negative emotions, and many men will have a sentimental side, but they rarely show them in front of people.
Sometimes, because you work or do other things, you do not reply to his message in time, if he is not busy, he will become anxious, will worry about why you do not reply to his message, is he doing something wrong, accidentally provoke you to be angry.
Sometimes, when you say something casually, he will be sad for a long time, because he really cares about what you think of him.
For example, he has some shortcomings in him, and after you find out, he can take the initiative to correct them.
Usually, he sees you chatting with other people of the opposite sex, even if it is a normal topic, he will be jealous and angry, and even compare himself with each other, which places are better than each other, which places are inferior to each other.
But before this, he would never be like this, he would be like other men, nervous, informal, not because of small things, let alone trapped by love.
But no matter how clear you live, no matter how rational people are, they can't escape a "love" word, and men are the same.
Just like Yongzheng in the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan", he obviously holds power in his hands and has many concubines around him, but in his life, he still can't forget Empress Chunyuan.
He will think of Chunyuan because of a dance, and when chatting with others, he will also take the initiative to talk about Chunyuan, and even because of a bunch of red plums, he will remember the bits and pieces that he once was with Chunyuan.
So, don't feel that he is pretentious, because once a person is trapped by love, he is bound to be sentimental and has nothing to do with gender.
Because of this, he will also fluctuate emotionally, and he will also suffer from gains and losses for you.
The well-known writer Wang Xiaobo is like this, after he fell in love with Li Yinhe, he wrote to the other party, saying:
"Tell you, I'm now jealous of other people's love. When I see others rushing home to find someone else, or seeing others together, I feel a kind of unhappiness in my heart, as if I have been abandoned, I am so lonely. ”
It can be seen that any man who falls in love will judge two people and grieve in the spring and autumn.
02
indecision
Love seems to have a magic power, even if some people are well versed in interpersonal communication, it is difficult to stay smart when encountering feelings.
If a man can't let go of you in his heart, then emotionally, he will definitely become hesitant and break the connection.
Once upon a time, when I was in school, there was a male classmate who liked a girl and had a crush for a long time, but he never dared to confess to the other party.
Even though several of our friends were encouraging him, he didn't dare to say it because he was afraid of being rejected, and he lost the opportunity to contact each other and worry that their relationship would become awkward.
In addition, there is another reason why he does not dare to confess, that is, he is worried that he cannot give the other party a good future and cannot give the other party a good life.
Because I care too much, I will become cowering and shrinking, dare not come forward, and can only desperately struggle.
Even if he wants to watch a movie with you, he will think twice, worrying that you don't like the movie, or worrying that you don't want to come out.
He thinks too much about you, so when making decisions, it is always difficult to choose.
In the TV series "The Rest of Your Life, Please Give More Advice", Gu Wei is such a person, he could have gone to Germany for further study, this opportunity is very precious, he also wants to go.
But at this critical moment, he was entangled, because he was reluctant to marry his girlfriend.
Outside, he is a competent doctor who treats countless patients and can quickly make the best choices in many life-and-death moments. But in this matter, he hesitated, but because he loved his girlfriend too much.
If a man is acting on the outside and making a decision, but he becomes indecisive in the face of you, this just proves that he really loves you.
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No self-confidence
This is reflected in too many people, no matter how good everyone is, but only when they see people they like, they will become unconfident.
Once read a novel, the male protagonist Sang Yan is handsome, so he is not less pursued, but because of the original family, he has never agreed to the confession of those girls, until he met a person.
The other party was like a ray of sunshine, shining into Sangyan's heart. After this, he became very inferior, believing that he was not worthy of each other, and later because of some changes in the family, Sangyan and the other party also broke off contact.
But he always thought of each other in his heart, and did not fall in love, until a few years later, the two met again in the local area, after contact, he found that he still liked each other, and then plucked up the courage to confess to each other.
Later, Sangyan learned that the other party had always liked him, and in this way, they established a romantic relationship.
As the old saying goes, "A lover's eyes are full of sissy." "The more you love someone, the more you feel that the other person is perfect, and you will even think that you are not worthy of her."
When a man has real feelings for you, no matter how good his conditions are, he will become less confident, and even very sensitive, he will live a humble life in front of you, and he will also please you.
Worry about saying the wrong thing, doing the wrong thing, and afraid that if you don't do well, you will eventually lose you. So, in order to be worthy of you, he will also become extra hard and want to give you a good life so that he can continue to be with you.
In fact, the more you care about your man, the easier it is to be in front of you, exposing the vulnerable side, and everyone must cherish it. After all, no one is good, is taken for granted.
At the same time, I also hope that everyone can meet the right good people and keep going.
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