Does the emperor love Zhen Huan or Chun Yuan? In fact, there is a third possibility

Text | Late love

Source | Pour what we can to live (public number: wanqingdepingtai)

There is a saying that describes Zhu Manniang in zhizhi or not: weak and unable to take care of themselves.

And I'm the kind of person who can't take care of myself.

So the favorite thing in life is to wash your hair, massage, foot bath, ear picking and so on.

Ear picking, in particular, is my favorite, and I love the crispy and itchy feeling.

One of my favorite ear pickers is gentle, and I just order her every time.

As a result, once I went over, habitually ordered her again, and the waiter embarrassed to tell me that she was gone, let me change someone!

It turned out to be a different person, which didn't suit me at all, and the previous enjoyment became a sin.

I asked them where they had gone before, and they said they didn't know, but I clearly felt that they knew.

However, it is also understandable that they are afraid that the customer will run away, so they will not disclose it.

In the following year, I went to different shops to order different technicians, no less than dozens of them before and after, most of them were not satisfied, and occasionally a few were barely able to get by, but I always felt that it was far inferior to the previous one.

Even, I slowly lost interest in ear picking.

This year, I said in a foot bath to help me call an ear picker, the other party said that everyone is busy, I said that forget it, anyway, now I have little interest in ear picking, and by the way, I also mentioned the obsession with the previous ear picker.

As a result, the other party said that I knew where she was, and by the way, he also pushed the other party's phone and WeChat to me.

I was overjoyed and went to look for her when I was done.

She was also surprised to see me, after all, she had been read by the deceased for more than a year, and she was also an affirmation of her own skills.

So she gave me ears as before, and I was expectantly going to enjoy it.

However, after this ear picking, I was a little confused.

I don't understand why I studied for more than a year, in fact, in the previous year, there were two better than her, but at the time I just felt inferior to her.

And this time, I think she is a little more powerful.

After this ear picking, my obsession was dropped, and I didn't even get a card in the new place.

The reason why I tell this story is that an elder sister asked me that my husband has always been obsessed with the first love of the same class.

Many of the things she gave him were carefully preserved, and although she had thought about it, after all, everyone had a past, and they tried to understand him.

But recently I don't know who launched a class reunion, saying that it is almost thirty years after graduation, everyone should get together well, from learning the news, the husband is different.

Began to pay attention to their own appearance, the whole person is full of expectations, every day holding a mobile phone, in their newly pulled group, chatting day and night.

She was depressed and angry, and she was more worried about what would happen if they met.

She has been having trouble sleeping lately, and she is very nervous every day, hoping that I will give her some advice.

I have found that many girls, whether in marriage or in life, have rigid thinking.

I also don't know whether it is a problem with family education, or whether I have not learned and grown in the later stage, resulting in many women when encountering problems, the most direct reaction is to be overwhelmed, many things are actually just a turn.

First, let's analyze the problem.

Can the eldest sister not let her husband go to a classmate party?

Of course, there are ways not to participate, such as the unexpected events on the hour that day, but is this useful?

On the contrary, it will become his new grumpy, and even if he launches another one, he may not be able to do so.

As long as a person has attachment and does not do it, the obsession will only deepen, and when the regret is doubled, his mind is not on you.

So, the best option is still to let him go, to meet the ex what's so scary?

The more grassy you are, the more likely he is to have accidents, the more generous and free you are, and the more interested he is.

I haven't seen her for more than 30 years, and the bright little girl was now a middle-aged mother;

The collagen face in the memory of that year is now all pleats; the green onion years of that year, now do not know what time has been grinded into.

Why do men and women always have a longing for their first love?

Is it really unforgettable for that person?

Most of them are just because the other party carries the time when their love sinus first opened.

And the other party was also an important role in his own time, nothing more.

In addition, from a psychological point of view, what is not gained and what has been lost is the most unforgettable.

The pain of losing and not gaining is far greater than the joy of having.

Your heartache of dropping 100 yuan is estimated to need to get 500 yuan to make up for it, it is as simple as that.

The further back you go, the harder it is to let go.

Instead of letting the other person continue to beautify the good memories of the past, you should directly let his memories appear in reality.

Just like when I broadcast live the night before, a fan asked me about the feelings of Big Fat Orange for Zhen Huan and Chun Yuan.

In fact, Chunyuan is also the emotional sustenance that has been continuously beautified after the big fat orange has been lost.

Think about it, the empress dowager said that Yi Xiu was more suitable for being an empress than Chun Yuan, and when the big fat orange loved Chun Yuan the most, Chun Yuan naturally did everything well.

But when the big fat orange and Chun Yuan are getting older, Chun Yuan can't figure out the harem, everywhere needs the help of big fat oranges, and the big fat oranges are anxious about the things of the former dynasty, will he still think how good Chun Yuan is?

He will become more and more impatient, especially as an emperor and there are so many harem women, he will only become more and more dissatisfied with the other party.

Think about Ruyi's end, you know, the most unbearable feelings, is time.

Chun Yuan died when the big fat orange loved her the most, an emperor, rich all over the world, but could not keep the person he loved the most, which was difficult for him to accept in his life.

When you understand this, the first love for a man does not need to be a soldier.

Just let him go and have a good look at what the former dream lover has now been destroyed by time.

Of course, there is a variable in this, that is, the other party is really like a pearl polished by the years, calm and introverted, but low-key exudes intoxicating brilliance, the years are not forgiving, but they let her go.

If you lose to such a woman, you will lose!

But such a woman must be an extremely self-disciplined and excellent woman, can she look up to this vague middle-aged uncle of your family?

At most, he shaves his head and picks a hot head, that's all.

Of course, there is also a variable here, in case your man becomes a mature man with a partial demeanor under the polishing of the years, and has a more fatal attraction to women.

At this time, I think it is you who need to reflect.

Why are they gorgeously transformed under the influence of the years, and you have lived like this under the same years?

It is useless to worry about men, it is useless to guard against women outside, and it is also useless to be afraid of what comes.

A woman without ego, living every day worried, what charm does she have?

The really useful thing that women do in this life is to continuously improve their core and potential energy, and firmly grasp the initiative of life.

Just like often a sister asks me, don't worry about my husband cheating, I am depressed, you can't turn your brain, let him worry about whether you will dislike him one day?

When he comes to worry about you, make sure he doesn't have the heart to think about other women, just as you worry about his empathy, will you think about other men?

When you are afraid of this and that, and when you suffer from gain and loss, you are already at a disadvantage in this relationship forever and ever.

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Evening Love: Million-selling author, screenwriter, founder of Yunyixuan Jewelry, focusing on women's self-growth, believing that growth is more important than business. The representative work "Be a Just Right Woman" and the new book "The More Self-Disciplined, the More Free" are selling well. Public number: Pour what we can to live, Weibo @ the nest of late love