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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Middle-aged women, whether physically, mentally or mentally, are relatively mature, and they generally do not easily enter love.
However, in reality, there are many middle-aged women who have an intimate relationship with the xenomorph, and there must be some reason for this.
Because most middle-aged women have a family, they will not accept the prodding of the opposite sex casually, and it is impossible to violate the bottom line in the marriage and rush to interact with the opposite sex.
The reason why they will be with the opposite sex, many times for practical reasons will be so, until after the loss in the relationship, they may be sober, the original so-called love is vulnerable.
From a realistic point of view, a woman will go into an extramarital relationship, more or less affected by reality.
Whether it is their own problems, or being provoked and seduced by men, or with realistic purposes, they eventually go wrong, and the ending is usually sad.
From many examples of marriage failures, it can be seen that women who have intimate relationships with the opposite sex have commonalities in them, and there are many similarities.
Generally speaking, middle-aged women who have extramarital affairs have the following three "commonalities", which are very realistic.
First, they are not firm and cannot withstand the provocation of men
Marriage, pay attention to loyalty and single-mindedness, can not tolerate a flaw, if one of the husband and wife can not do this, the relationship is difficult to last.
When women reach middle age, after experiencing the blandness of marriage and the grinding of life, most of them feel physically and mentally exhausted.
At this time, they are not firm, have certain illusions about feelings, are easily provoked by men, and once they cannot withstand temptation, betrayal is sooner or later.
In reality, the reason why many middle-aged women have an intimate relationship with the opposite sex is often because they are not firm and break through the bottom line of marriage.
Under the constant provocation of men, they are easy to misjudge feelings, thinking that men are sincere, and thus investing in feelings.
However, when men have no freshness and feel bored with women, they will run away.
At this time, what is left for middle-aged women must be a mess, which not only damages their dignity and decency, but also brings great pain to the marriage.
Neighbor Ms. Zhao, 45 years old this year, has been married to her husband for more than ten years, and her feelings have changed from sweet to quite bland and tedious.
At the beginning, Ms. Zhao and her husband had a happy and happy family after more than ten years of hard work. However, as the days went by, the marriage became more and more flat, becoming a pool of stagnant water.
After the husband returned, there was little communication with her, and the two people had little communication except for eating, so that the relationship was quite estranged.
Because of this, Ms. Zhao met a male colleague at work and felt very good. Men especially can seduce women, and when they see that Ms. Zhao has a bit of posture, they take the initiative to stir and probe.
In the following month, the man endlessly provoked Ms. Zhao, and soon made her compromise, because she was not firm, did not withstand the temptation, and finally had an intimate relationship.
However, with extramarital love, after all, the paper wrapped can not hold the fire, when the husband knows, an originally happy family is instantly shattered, more than worth the loss.
Therefore, those middle-aged women who have extramarital love basically have this commonality, they are not firm in themselves, they can't stand the provocation of men, and eventually betray their feelings.
Although men's provocation is the main reason, they are not firm, and they also have unshirkable responsibilities, hoping that women can wake up.
Second, the marriage is not happy, and the romantic love is longed for
In reality, some middle-aged women have entered into extramarital love, and one of the most direct reasons is that the marriage is unhappy and they look forward to romantic love.
They feel that there is nothing worth nostalgia in their current marriage, and they are bent on finding true love.
Because of this, it also gives men the opportunity to take advantage of it, and many men specifically pick this kind of woman who is looking for love.
In the eyes of men, a woman is still looking for love after marriage, which is nothing more than the current marriage is not good, such a woman is the easiest to catch up with, and relatively safe.
At this time, when men love, they can talk to women about love, constantly play romance, and let women lower their defenses. Once you catch up, you feel that you are not interested, and you can also retreat from the whole body, and you will not be half responsible.
Therefore, many middle-aged women think that they have found love, and finally find that everything is just an empty joy, and regret is difficult.
What needs to be reminded of women is that there is really no true love outside of marriage, and if you think it is love, you can only say that you are too naïve.
Just like her friend Miss Yang, she and her husband met each other on a blind date and got married in less than half a year.
However, in the days after marriage, her husband did not care much about him except for commuting to and from work, and there was very little time to accompany her. Especially when she quarreled with her husband, her husband still did something to her, which made her extremely cold.
As a result, she is particularly disappointed and dissatisfied with her husband, and she especially longs for love in her heart, and longs to meet a man who really loves her.
Just when she was full of expectations for love, she met the senior who had chased her before, and when the two people met, they both had a feeling of excitement, and soon there was frequent contact.
Miss Yang felt that the senior was a funny and humorous man, who was very good at coaxing her to be happy, and also understood her thoughts, and even regretted that she did not accept his pursuit in the first place.
In this way, she and the senior naturally had a close relationship, and finally put loyalty and responsibility behind and walked into extramarital love.
However, the ending is naturally painful, and when the senior leaves her mercilessly, she is also abandoned by her husband, becoming nothing, and paying a huge price.
Therefore, the reason why many middle-aged women have entered into extramarital love is largely because they have suffered misfortune in marriage, longed for beautiful love, and finally lost their minds and betrayed the marriage.
Third, met the veteran of the love field and was deceived
In reality, there are still some middle-aged women who have fallen out of marriage, and the biggest reason is that they have met a veteran of the love scene and have been deceived. This is also the commonality of many women, they can't see the true heart of men, and they seem very blind.
Many men like to seduce married women, simply because such women are easy to get by, feel safe, and not responsible.
Because, even if a woman has an extramarital affair, she may not really quit the marriage, and they hope to continue to maintain the marriage, so they will not be entangled.
Men value this, they constantly pick up this kind of woman, do not have to worry about being responsible for women, can do what they say, go, the whole body retreats.
Moreover, those veterans of the love field originally like to seduce women, have rich experience, understand women's minds, and can pinch women's weaknesses, and it is expected that women will not dare to entangle, and they will be unscrupulous.
Therefore, most middle-aged women have extramarital love, almost all of them are deceived by this kind of love field veteran, and eventually get scarred.
People who have watched "Madame Bovary" should know that after Emma and her husband got married, she felt that her husband made less money and did not understand romance, and felt that he was a very wooden man, and his heart was more and more disappointed.
Therefore, when she met Rodolph, a veteran of the love scene, she quickly lost her mind and fell into the vortex of feelings.
Rodolfo never truly loved her, but regarded her as one of many lovers, and when he plucked Emma, he said that love was particularly great, constantly lowering Emma's psychological defenses.
Moreover, in the pursuit, i did a lot of careful planning, and I easily got Emma.
Emma thought that she and Rodolfo really had a fate, met again and again, and were emotional again and again, and had to know that behind this was actually a love trap designed by Rodolfo.
In the end, Emma completely fell and wanted to be with Rodolfo, but after Rodolfo got it, he had long planned to give up, and finally drove away alone, leaving Emma alone to bear the grief and pay a huge price.
Therefore, many middle-aged women will have intimate relationships with the opposite sex, in fact, they are deceived by veterans of the love field.
Under the attack of men's sweet love, they broke through the bottom line of marriage and entered into extramarital love, and finally they were injured at both ends, physically and mentally injured, and the price was tragic.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Shakespeare said, "If love is mixed with calculations that have nothing to do with itself, it is not true love." ”
Indeed, extramarital love, in essence, is not love, mixed with too much calculation, must be avoided.
Otherwise, you easily believe in the so-called love, thinking that extramarital love will bring happiness, and the final ending will definitely wake you up and make you lose completely.
To sum up, middle-aged women have intimate relationships with the opposite sex, most of which are caused by these three reasons:
They are not firm and cannot withstand the provocation of men; they are unhappy in marriage and look forward to romantic love; they meet veterans of the love field and are deceived.
This may also be the commonality of many women who have entered extramarital love, hoping to make more women take it as a warning and stop being blinded by extramarital love.
Su Qian said: "A woman's marriage is a psychological secret war, a process of constantly overcoming herself, and a process of constantly compromising with herself. ”
Many times, the unhappiness you think may give you the texture of love; and the true love you think of may only be the deception of dew joy.
Therefore, women still have to abide by their duties, compromise appropriately, and maybe happiness is at hand. Otherwise, even if you change someone, it will not be blue.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.