Wishing to win the hearts of one person and not separating the white head is probably the most beautiful expectation in everyone's heart, however, love can not be sought, can not be clearly wrong people, but also give their own true heart without reservation.
People always love, like a moth to a fire, regardless of the consequences, until they find that they love the wrong person, but blame each other, thinking that the other party has failed themselves.
Of course, some people are indeed unladylike and mistrust people, resulting in their own love path becoming very painful. But some people, from the very beginning, have obviously done something wrong, but they still think that love can be above everything.
No matter how precious love is, it must be the right person, and you must also know how to love a person, if you fall in love with someone you should not love, if you lose yourself in order to love a person, such love is doomed to have no good results.
Therefore, if you don't want to pay someone wrong for your true heart, then you must keep these two bottom lines.
01 Don't love people you shouldn't love
The person who should not be loved here means that he should not love those who are already married, or that he is married but prefers to others.
For example, Emma, Madame Bovary in Gustave Flaubert's pen, she fell in love with someone else on the basis of her marriage contract with Charles, and has betrayed Charles more than once, resulting in a desperate situation and suicide by poisoning.
But are the people she's in love with genuinely true to herself?
First of all, let's talk about Rodolfo, Rodolph is a prodigal son of love, has had relationships with countless women, and never takes love seriously, in his heart, with all women is for the sake of a moment, it is impossible to be responsible for anyone. When he was still interested, he would say all kinds of good things to coax women, and when he was one day fresh and bored, he would not hesitate to abandon them.
However, it is such a man that Emma sees as her true love, and feels that he is better looking and attractive than her husband, Charles.
However, the wrong person is the wrong person after all, emma is full of joy that Rodolfo will leave everything in his hometown and go away with himself in order to be with him, but Rodolfo wrote a letter and completely cut off contact with Emma.
Emma overestimated her place in Rodolfo's heart, she longed for love, and thought that her husband Charles could not make her fall in love with him, so she would look outward, with others, she never felt that it was her fault.
So later, she was with Leon again. She was even crazier than the first time, completely depraved. Although Leon does not have a lot of women like Rodolfo, his feelings for Emma are only temporary, and he will give up Emma at any time and choose a life that is favorable to him.
Emma finally saw everyone as they really were, knowing that in their eyes, she was just an insignificant person, she was completely broken, the beautiful love she longed for had been completely broken, plus she owed too much money in order to be with Leon, afraid of being discovered by Charles, but could not repay.
Neither Leon nor Rodolfo was willing to help her, so she chose to take poison and ended her life.
Originally a flower girl, married to a person who can be said to be considerate and obedient to herself, even if everyone doubts Emma, Charles has never doubted, but she does not know how to cherish, but looking for extramarital feelings, the result is not only harm to herself, but also to harm Charles and her daughter.
As a married person, if you can't love your other half very much, at least you can't do something to betray each other, those who know that you are already married and are willing to be with you, from the beginning, just play with you, and there is no sense of truth for you, if you want to get the love you want from them, you are daydreaming, that is, you have wronged your heart.
02 Even if you like someone again, you can't lose yourself
If you particularly like someone, would you rather be what you like, or would you rather be what he likes?
It is estimated that many people will have such a question, if you live like you like, you may lose each other, if you live like the other party, you feel wronged in your heart.
On this subject, look at Madame Bovary Emma and you will know.
Emma was originally a person of special self, but after she was with Rodolfo, she chose to obey Rodolfo in order to get Rodolfo's love for herself. As a result, Rodolfo became more and more dismissive of her, thinking that she was a woman who no longer needed to bother with herself.
Emma tells Rodolfo that he is all for herself, and she also hopes that Rodolfo will treat her as everything, and that it is enough to love her alone. However, such a like law really only destroys a relationship, not to mention that Rodolfo is originally an unreliable person.
Emma is a person who is particularly eager for love, and in her life, love is all, greater than marriage, greater than children, greater than money, greater than everything, and of course greater than herself.
However, no one's life only needs love, Emma thinks that life is enough as long as there is love, but in the end, she is helpless and unable to face it, but it is a debt that cannot be paid off. It can be seen that we are living in the real society, not living in love, once a person is separated from real life to talk about love, love can not last long.
Therefore, through Emma, we can let us know: if you don't want to wrongly pay someone for your true heart, you must keep the above two bottom lines.
Flaubert wrote this "Madame Bovary", after I read it, I really can't get out of it for a long time, I have been wondering why Emma is so attached to love, completely to the point of desperation, and then I think, it is because she does not understand what true love is, does not know what kind of person she wants to love, so she will be with the unworthy person again and again, but always ignore the person who really treats herself.
Everyone longs for love, but to have a correct view of love, this "Madame Bovary" will undoubtedly serve as a warning to you, let you have a more mature view of love, and let you know what kind of people are worthy of your love.
May everyone be less hurt on the road of love, and may everyone know more about love and love people.
Elementary and secondary school students read outside the classroom / Mrs. Bovary (fine) / classic translation forest / original translation / genuine default Kyoki
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