In the face of love, women have always been more emotional than men.
When you love someone, you are warm and sincere, and you have no reservations about yourself;
But once the disappointment reaches the extreme and no longer loves, it will also become decisive and determined.
She may not take the initiative to break up with you, but her attitude towards you will become unusually cold.
Will take the initiative to keep a distance from you and stop clinging to you.
You will become particularly sensible and will no longer depend on you for everything.
You think she's finally 'grown' and matured, but you don't know that she is dead set on you.
Here are 3 manifestations of a woman's extreme disappointment in a person, which is difficult to recover.
There is no expectation for you
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"A man's hurt to a woman, not necessarily that he is in love with someone else,
It was he who let her down when she had something to expect. ”
Enough disappointment, no matter how much you love, you will decisively choose to let go.
In the movie "One Day", the male and female protagonists meet on top of the graduation party.
He is handsome and humorous, vulgar into the world, but uninhibited but calm, debauched as a gentleman.
The young woman of literature and art Emma fell for many years.
The male protagonist obviously does not love Emma and has never thought about the possibility of love, but he chooses to let everything happen.
He gave her some fleeting hope and destroyed them with his own hands.
At the end of the movie, Emma cries:
"I used to love you deeply, but I don't like you as much as I used to."
You see, enough disappointment is enough, and enthusiasm disappears.
Yeah, no one would be stupid enough to keep holding a cup of boiling water and refusing to let go.
When expectations are disappointed again and again, naturally you will not dare to have any expectations for you anymore.
Take the initiative to keep your distance
There is a song that goes like this:
"There will always be sudden encounters in this world, and unexpected likes;
Of course, there are also unexpected goodbyes and no nostalgic absences. ”
When a woman seriously loves someone, she really has no reservations.
Even if the other person's attitude is cold, she will try her best to love.
But if a person takes the initiative for a long time, he will also be tired and will want to give up.
After all, everyone knows that love in both directions is meaningful.
If I'm nice to you, it's a stress for you;
If my love for you is a burden to you.
Love like this, then, is undoubtedly meaningless.
I still like you, but forget it.
When a woman realizes that her liking has no results, no matter how much she loves, she will persuade herself to let go.
After all, everyone has their own self-esteem.
When a woman figures it out, she won't love you anymore, and she will take the initiative to keep a distance from you.
No more painstaking efforts to create almost the chance encounters with you;
I won't care about you so often anymore.
She would slowly retreat into the stranger's place.
The title between her and you changed from 'you' to 'you' and 'she'.
Not caring, not taking the initiative, is actually a signal of heart death, without exception.
Become particularly sensible
In the book "Who Says I Don't Love You", there is a sentence that impressed me deeply:
"When I'm no longer so wayward and no longer like to pestering you;
No longer want to chat with you, no longer rely on you in the slightest;
That must have been me ready to leave you. ”
Seriously.
Girls in love, who don't want to be spoiled by boys as little princesses.
Even if you kill decisively in the mall, when you return home, you will be a little woman who is a bird and a person.
Will be spoiled by boys, willful, unreasonable;
When encountering things, I will also think of the boy for the first time and ask him for help.
But once you let her save enough to disappoint, she will live alone as a team.
She won't be as dependent on you as she used to be.
No matter what happens, she will never ask you for help again.
She will take on everything alone, and even she would rather ask someone else for help than ask you for help.
Because you let her understand that you can't be relied on, and everything is safest on your own.
She won't take care of you anymore, you can come home late or not.
She won't ask a question, because if you don't love, your affairs will naturally have nothing to do with her.
You are pleased with her understanding, but you don't know that she does not have you in her heart.
The distance between people is often a shoulder-to-shoulder collision forever.
So, if you love, love well, and don't miss the person who loves you.
Because once love is missed, it will be a lifetime, and you will never meet someone who loves you like this again.