In the eyes of all women, women's life is very difficult, giving birth to children is already very hard, and they are afraid of derailing from society because of giving birth to children, and they have become a yellow-faced woman.
However, in this world, there are still many women who live wonderful lives, and it is undeniable that they have indeed put in a lot of effort, but they have also gained their own beautiful lives.
However, there are also some women who have had a very unfortunate life, and this misfortune is not related to others, but is self-inflicted.
For example, the following two women, their life's misfortune, is their own cause, but also through these two women, let us know: women in this life, should do these two things best. Only by doing these two things well will we be able to live happily.
01 Marry the right person
First of all, let's talk about Kitty in Maugham's book "The Veil", her family conditions are good, she is beautiful, and with the influence of her mother, she has thought since she was a child that she will definitely marry a famous family, which is now called a rich family.
However, by the time she was twenty-five, she had not gotten what she wanted, and at this time, her mother kept nagging her, no longer holding out hope for her, and just wanted to marry her off quickly, thinking that she should lower her standards. At the same time, her sister, who has just turned eighteen, already has a very good fiancé, so she is very unhappy.
At this time, Walter appeared, he was a doctor, only a little taller than Kitty, Kitty did not have a good feeling for him, but she could see that Walter liked her very much, and in the end she married Walter.
Kitty never thought about what kind of man she married, nor did she think about whether it was acceptable to be with a man she didn't like, and she just hurriedly got married just to get rid of the trouble in front of her.
However, after three months, Kitty knew that she was completely wrong, although Walter was very good to her, and even this kindness touched her, but she just didn't like him, and sometimes even thought he was annoying, so everything he did became taken for granted in her eyes, and she deserved it.
If you are with a person, you can't make yourself fall in love with him, even if he is good to you, you are not happy in your heart.
So from this point of view, Kitty is married to the wrong person, so she will be with Charlie after meeting Charlie, and even because she likes Charlie, she thinks that she is not sorry for Walter.
If Kitty liked Walter, she wouldn't betray him anyway.
Let's talk about Emma in Flaubert's book "Madame Bovary", she had always longed for a good love before she married Charles, but she never had the opportunity to experience it, after she met Charles, she thought she would have a good love with Charles, so she married him.
However, after a period of marriage, she found that she did not experience the good feelings that love should have, and she found that she may be mistaken, in fact, she did not like Charles at all, and even the more she looked at Charles, the more annoying she became, although Charles was really good to her.
When a woman always craves love in her mind and is not satisfied with the man next to her, she will look outward, emma is like this, although at the beginning she also had control, but in the end she still can't control it, with Rodolph, without the slightest regard for the harm she does to Charles. She would even blame Charles, believing that Charles couldn't make herself fall in love with him.
From Maugham's Kitty and Faubelou's Emma, two women, it can be seen that when a woman marries a man she does not like or appreciate, even if the man is good to himself, he will not be happy, and even do things that regret for life, not only hurt himself, but also hurt the person who really hurts himself.
02 Don't lose yourself because of love
What does it look like when a woman loses herself in love? It is to completely obey men, to be at their mercy, and to think that the other party loves themselves very much.
Emma was undoubtedly like this, when she was with Rodolph, she not only forgot her family, her husband, even forgot that she had a daughter, she put all her thoughts on Rodolph, but Rodolfo did not really love her, from the beginning just wanted to be with her for a while, and when the novelty passed, he would throw her away.
Emma, who has always longed for love, thinks that she feels the joy of love in Rodolfo, so she does not even care about anything, and plans to elope with Rodolfo, but Rodolfo cannot do this for her, and just when she is full of expectations, Rodolfo writes her a parting letter.
Later, she was with Leon again, although Leon was not as good at coaxing women as Rodolfo, but would not be responsible for Emma after all, and Emma not only harmed Charles, but also harmed her daughter for this self-righteous love, and she also chose to commit suicide by taking poison because she owed too much money.
Emma longs for love, but in the end she is full of despair about love, and when the beautiful love she wants completely disappoints her, her whole person has collapsed.
A woman can pay a lot for love, but if she loses herself for love, there is only one end, that is, misfortune.
After reading This "Madame Bovary" written by Flaubert, my heart really can't be calm for a long time, and I won't be too sad about Emma's final choice, but when I saw that Charles knew that Emma had been betraying himself, I really felt sorry for him in my heart, and at that moment, I really completely defeated his belief in living, his whole body collapsed, even his daughter could not save him, and he also passed away.
When Charles and Emma are gone, their daughter ends up doing child labor, and because of Emma's irresponsibility, the people close to her have paid a terrible price for it.
If every woman could read this "Madame Bovary", she would not live a confused life, would not treat her marriage casually, and would understand that any choice she made would hurt not only herself, but also her family.
Of course, with the exception of This Madame Bovary, every woman should also look at Maugham's book The Veil.
When Kitty gets married and finds herself married to the wrong person, she makes the same choice as Emma, which is to be unfaithful to her husband and not to think that she has failed him.
Both of them felt that they should be with better and better people, so they ignored their husband's kindness to them. The difference is that Emma goes further and further down the wrong path, and in the end there is no self-esteem and bottom line at all. After recognizing Charlie's true face, Kitty embarks on the path of self-redemption.
After Walter's unfortunate death from the treatment of the plague, she returned to her home, when she was pregnant, and she decided not to live as she had in the past, no longer attached to any man, and she decided to live her own value and meaning.
The above two books, after reading one, let people really have mixed feelings in their hearts, and their hearts are very unpleasant, although the heroine chose to end her life, but there is no sympathy, but the fate of her husband Charles and daughter, which makes people very sympathetic and sad.
Another book, The Veil, although Walter was greatly hurt by this, at least Kitty finally chose to redeem herself and recognize Walter. Even though she still didn't love Walter, she knew in her heart that Walter was the truly noble person compared to Charlie. And she also gained liberation on the road of self-redemption, knowing how to face life next.
Such an ending undoubtedly makes people still have some hope in their hearts, and also teaches women how to live in this life, how to treat love and marriage, and how to live out their dignity and value.
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