In the book "The Art of Love", the writer Fromm once said that whether it is the result of other people's arrangements or their own choices, once marriage is concluded, the action of the will should ensure the continuation of love.
This sentence shows that the essence of the marriage relationship is a sense of responsibility, and people with marriage contracts can not only know how to covet their own pleasures, but also know how to think about their lovers and families, only in this way can they work with their lovers to run a good married life.
But in real life, people who have not experienced difficulties in life often do not understand this truth, and they will take it for granted that happiness in married life can be easily obtained without hard work, but the real life is not so simple.
In the Novel "Madame Bovary" by the French writer Flaubert, the heroine Emma is a naïve person who regards married life as simple, and it is precisely because she does not know how to manage marriage with her heart, only knows how to covet her own enjoyment, and even makes the mistake of betraying marriage, which makes her finally push her life to a tragic ending.
In the novel "Madame Bovary", the heroine Emma's life experience tells us that those who have not experienced the hardships of life do not know how to cherish marriage.
First, in Emma's upbringing, she did not experience the hardships of life.
Emma's father was a well-established sharecropper, and Emma, who was arranged to study in a convent since childhood, grew up reading romantic romance novels.
Emma has not experienced the hardships in life, in her mind, it is all the imagination of a better life, as well as the vision of romantic love, she takes it for granted that her future life and marriage road must be happy and smooth.
It is precisely because Emma's growth process is so smooth, so she is like a flower in a greenhouse, without the ability to predict the risks of life, she feels that as long as she knows how to enjoy the beauty of the moment, she can harvest a happy life.
But the essence of marriage is bland, if you imagine the married life too beautiful, it is bound to produce a psychological gap due to the gap between the dream and the reality, so that you can not get happiness in the married life.
Second, in married life, the husband was too accommodating to Emma.
When Emma entered the palace of marriage, although her husband, Mr. Bovary, was just an ordinary village doctor, in order to enable his wife to live an ideal married life, Mr. Bovary was willing to give everything he had.
Mr. Bovary, who has a meager income and a wooden personality, does not make Emma feel happy in her married life, and the life in the countryside is monotonous and boring, so Mr. Bovary follows Emma's advice and moves his family to the town; Emma yearns for an unfettered life, and Mr. Bovary gives her enough living space.
The husband's excessive pampering, far from making Emma understand gratitude, made Emma more unscrupulous in her married life, until she finally made the mistake of betraying the marriage.
In my opinion, it is precisely because Emma's growth path is so smooth that she has developed a naïve and selfish personality, which makes her not appreciate her husband's efforts in married life.
Third, only those who have experienced the hardships of life can know how to cherish marriage.
Writer Zweig said that although there are gifts in fate, they have already secretly marked the price.
People who have not experienced hardships in their lives do not understand the beauty of married life and do not know how to cherish marriage.
Because Emma has not experienced the adversity in life since she was a child, she likes to read romantic love novels since she was a child, so she imagines the beauty of life and thinks that a luxurious life is within reach, so she does not know how to moderate consumption, so that she finally bears a huge debt.
Because Mr. Bovary was too spoiled for Emma, Emma did not know how to be grateful in her married life, and eventually made the mistake of betraying the marriage.
In my opinion, it is precisely because Emma lived too smoothly in the first half of her life and treated life too unscrupulously that she finally suffered from the betrayal of her lover while carrying a huge debt, and finally pushed her life to a tragic end.
The novel "Madame Bovary" tells us that most people who know how to cherish marriage have experienced hardships in life.
The essence of marriage is a plain life, if you understand that it is not easy to make money, you will cherish the chai rice oil and salt in marriage life; if you know how to be grateful for the efforts of your partner in marriage life, you will know how to be faithful to marriage and work with your partner to run a prosperous and beautiful married life.
Only those who know how to cherish marriage can achieve happiness in married life.
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