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Many people know to be tolerant of others, but they only harshly criticize themselves, demanding that they become a perfect person, thinking that no one will hate themselves, but they do not realize that whether a person is accepted has nothing to do with whether he is good or not.
When a person is truly loved, there is no need to be good.
In the feelings, there are very few people who really let go of themselves, and when they face people who love and can't, they often hollow out their minds and do anything for each other, hoping to impress each other and get a little love from others.
In reality, the love of one party taking ninety-nine steps to the other is not romantic, and this feeling is doomed to failure at the beginning, because it is too unbalanced, and the most feared thing in love is imbalance.
Instead of humblely begging others to look at you, do so, and maybe the other person will soon regret it.
One: Set your mind straight and accept that someone doesn't love you is a common thing
The self-confidence of some adults is still fragile, and all their beliefs collapse in the moment of their confession of failure. The reason why there will be such a big fluctuation in emotions is nothing more than that their own mentality is not correct, and they always think that they should get the corresponding return if they pay, otherwise they are not worthy of love.
Love is not a business dealing, there must be a coming-and-going, a heart fell into the empty valley without echo, it is really normal.
On the road of feelings, we must first adjust our mentality and accept that we are not loved, not that we are not worthy of love.
Maugham wrote such a story in his famous novel The Veil.
The heroine Katie and her sister have a good relationship, so they agreed to witness each other wearing wedding dresses, but in the blink of an eye, the sister has found Ruyi Langjun, and Katie still has not found the object of her choice.
In order to get married before her sister, Katie chose between love and material, after all, love needs time to find, and it needs some luck, and material is much easier to obtain.
According to the introduction, Katie and Walter are married, and she has no emotional basis for Walter, but fortunately, Walter has a good family and a good job, which can give Katie a good married life.
Walter fell in love with Katie at first sight, hoping that after marriage, Katie would discover her own strengths and accept herself.
When the two went through many trials together after marriage, Katie did discover that her husband Walter had many advantages that she had overlooked before, and she found that her husband was much more interesting than he seemed, he was warm and kind, and he had his own unique views on many things.
Walter thought that Katie would have feelings for herself, but no one could say anything about feelings.
Katie knows that her husband is actually a good man, but she can't touch him anyway, which makes even herself feel strange, but not loving is not loving.
Walter gradually accepted this fact, and he would feel regretful, but he would not be frustrated by it, and he would not doubt himself. The person who loves you, even if you are very depressed, he loves you, and in the same way, the person who does not love you, no matter how good you are, she still cannot feel the heart of you.
Everyone must have such an awareness in love, if you meet a person who does not love yourself, it is just that the magnetic field between you is not right, it is not that you have a problem.
Believe in God's arrangement, run yourself well, and there will be the right person to love you.
Two: Learn to let go and turn around to become a better, stronger, and more attractive person
Accepting that the other party does not love you is a normal thing, you must learn to let go, after all, love can not be forced. A man will not love you because you are good enough, and conversely, whether you are good or not, there will always be someone who does not love you.
Love is not good with you, there is no relationship, love is not a business, not the more high-quality the more popular, understand this truth, out of this strange circle, you will suddenly become a lot more cheerful.
Many people always say that if they want their ex to regret it, they just need to live better than him.
This statement is not unreasonable, nor is it pure gambling, but it has a basis. From the perspective of psychology, people instinctively have a Mu Qiang psychology, so Mu Qiang, that is, always like, admire and look up to those who are much stronger than themselves, the feeling that needs to tiptoe to be able to reach, people are fascinated.
So after separation, if you live better than him, if you become stronger and better than before, then he will soon regret it. He will complain that his gaze is not good, the pattern is too small, if he does not only look at everything in front of him, ignoring your many potentials and advantages, he will not miss such a sparkling person.
But what about regrets? You will not stand where you are and wait for him, you will become better, your vision will be higher, and you will only meet people who are better than him.
If the person you love doesn't love you anymore, don't please, don't be depressed, silently adjust your mindset, accept the fact that he doesn't love you, and then let go and turn around and make yourself a better person.
Only by doing so can you win back a round for yourself, make him regret it, and miss such a good person.
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