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How fortunate are so many people in the world to meet the one who is truly right and compatible? Attract each other, love each other deeply, love each other stronger than gold, from the moment of falling in love with each other, it is decided that the road ahead should be walked hand in hand, no matter how much wind and rain they encounter, they can carry it together.
But the original vow was true, and then gradually became true.
We can never guess what will happen in the future, nor can we determine whether we can stick to our original intentions at that time. After all, the only constant in the world is change.
Once loved deeply, and then not loved, this does not mean anything, because it is just a norm. Only when we understand this can we rationally and soberly deal with the deterioration and end of a relationship.
If one day in the future, you find that the person you love does not love you, do not blame and complain, and do not make a hysterical quarrel and scold him for not believing what he says, but accept it calmly, and then let him go with dignity. This is the last pride you leave for yourself, and it is also the best ending between you.
Because you can never change someone who doesn't love you, you can't pretend that nothing happened, and you love and get along with him as you are.
Some things change, and the more you dwell on it, the more you become unseemly, and even in the end, even your last dignity and good memories are lost.
People who don't love you but still hurt you, learn to let go and be perfect
In the emotional world, to complete others is to complete oneself, and to let go of others is to let go of oneself. I have been struggling with the people who hurt myself, and in the end I am still the most hurt.
Walter in Maugham's novel The Veil is undoubtedly a positive benchmark. When he faced the betrayal of his wife Katie, although sad and painful, he did not lose his mind, but patiently guided her, saw the true face of the person outside the marriage, and then taught her to learn to distinguish what true love is.
It was Walter who told us that the best thing to do with someone who doesn't love you but still hurts you is not to retaliate, but to let go and fulfill.
Walter's wife, Katie, can't stand a married life without feelings, lacks passion, and is like a pool of stagnant water. After marriage, Katie met the man Who made her heart, Townsend, in contrast, Townsend was more able to bring herself happiness, and she thought that this was the man she needed.
So at Townsend's instigation, Katie filed a divorce request from her husband, which Walter could not accept for a while, he could understand that Katie did not love himself, but could not accept his wife's betrayal.
For this sudden injury, Walter eventually learned to be perfect, he knows that people's hearts are volatile, and his unilateral persistence cannot change any status quo, so it is better to complete Katie.
Walter tells Katie that he agrees to divorce her, but within a week of the divorce, Townsend must marry Katie. Katie thought it wouldn't take a week, and if Townsend heard the news, she would be ecstatic and marry herself immediately, because at that time she firmly believed that Townsend really loved herself.
But Katie was wrong, when Townsend knew about this, he did not show the slightest happiness, but all kinds of hesitation and hesitation, and finally he chose his own family and gave up Katie.
Katie suddenly realized that what she thought was a lifelong love was nothing more than an exciting and fresh extramarital affair for Townsend, and he would never give up his wife because of an accident, but he was the first to give up his husband.
Walter and Townsend's attitude towards herself made Katie feel a huge gap, and she also found that her husband's character was better than that of ordinary men.
When Walter is already disheartened with Katie, Cady regrets that she has always had a man around her who loves her so much, but she did not cherish him, and finally hurt him, she regrets what she did willfully in marriage.
Walter has never been as sober as he is now, he finally understands that people are hard to find, in this relationship, he has tried to do everything he should do, it can be said that he is not ashamed, and even when he learned that his wife Katie had a new relationship outside, he was once humble and begged his wife not to leave him, not to give up the marriage.
Everything he did seemed like a joke after Walter woke up.
When encountering people who hurt themselves, there is no need to forcibly retain them, even if they can keep people, they can't keep their hearts, the best thing to do is to let go, to complete others, but also to let themselves go in this relationship. It is wise to leave the unworthy people early and go to a better place.
After Maugham's "Veil" was adapted into the film of the same name, the response was very strong, this work fully reveals the psychological state of people in love, but also hides the multi-faceted nature of human nature, I believe you will have a deep understanding after reading it.
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