As the old saying goes, "A daughter is a parent's little cotton jacket". As a daughter, she should be the closest person to her parents, and her daughter's care for her parents should also be considerate and meticulous. However, not all people will feel happy because they have a daughter, but they will be abandoned by their children, which is uncomfortable!
In 2020, an elderly couple in Dalian, Liaoning Province, encountered such a thing: two elderly people unfortunately suffered from cancer, and just as they were dying, they wanted to meet the only daughter of the family. Infuriatingly, their daughter, who lived a good life, did not want to return to China to visit her parents and to draw a clear line with her parents.
After this news was reported and interviewed by the media, it immediately caused an uproar, and everyone criticized the absurd behavior of this "unfilial daughter" and put a lot of pressure on her.
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In the face of everyone's verbal criticism, will the daughter of the old couple change her mind? Why did she have such a stiff relationship with her parents? What would be the reason why a daughter refuses to see her parents?
Poor but happy childhood
Suffering from kidney cancer is the father Cao Zhaogang, breast cancer is the old partner Liu Hongyu, and their daughter is named Cao Qian.
This Cao Qian made the elderly couple sad, as soon as they mentioned their daughter, they were angry, but they thought that at that time, Cao Qian was the pearl in the palm of their family, and also the most beloved person of the two old people.
Cao Qian was born on July 6, 1979, in Caojiadi Village, Changcheng Subdistrict, Lushunkou District, Dalian.
Cao Qian's family
Cao Qian's parents are old farmers, they rely on farming to support their daughters, because the conditions at home are very bad, so the parents only want her to have a child.
As the only daughter in the family, her parents can be described as pouring all their energy and effort into her, from the time Cao Qian ate and wore, she was not treated badly, the child was angry, the old two mouths had to hurry up; the child was going to be sick, then immediately sent to the hospital for treatment, there would never be a little ambiguity.
Cao Zhaogang clearly remembers that in that poor and miserable era, the family was reluctant to eat even eggs, but her daughter Cao Qian had to eat meat, and she was noisy and noisy at home. The old father had a crossed heart, and went directly to the local market to buy meat and let his daughter eat it.
Cao Qian
Cao Zhaogang's family is very poor, wearing clothes are dependent on others to wear the rest of the rest to their family, but even so, the daughter can wear several new clothes every year, the love of parents is so selfless, want to give the best to the child.
Of course, Cao Zhaogang will not blindly spoil his daughter, and he also has strict requirements for her daughter. After all, a family is a child, Cao Qian is the hope of the whole family, if the daughter can become a useful talent in the future and change the status quo of the family, it will be perfect!
Under the advice of her parents, Cao Qian has been a bully since she was a child, and her grades in the class have always been among the best.
Cao Qian
Cao Zhaogang supervises Cao Qian's homework every day, watches the children complete their daily learning tasks, and on weekends, her daughter will see her parents so tired and feel that she has to help the family do some work.
But his father, Cao Zhaogang, would say sternly: "You go to read to me first, and then you will work after reading it!" "In the eyes of parents, learning comes first, more than anything else.
Although this kind of education of parents is very effective, Cao Qian has become a role model for other children under their discipline, and the family is full of various awards, but too strict discipline will also be problematic, for Cao Qian, the more strict the parents, the more she wants to be free.
Cao Qian
As Cao Qian grew up, that rebellious psychology was gradually exposed, and her daughter felt that the family managed too much, and she wanted a free life.
However, because she usually eats and wears without her parents, and the roots of her wings are not hard enough, this rebellion has not achieved any results. Every time a parent and a child have an argument, it always ends in a victory for the parents' side.
On the other hand, Cao Qian was very considerate of her parents' difficulties at that time, because her family was really too poor! One year, when the family wanted to flip over the house, it was only with the help of relatives and neighbors that it was simply changed.
Cao Qian's award
Because of the problem of money, the parents' faces are always full of sorrow, and Cao Qian, who understands her parents, will also persuade her parents not to care too much about the problem of money, and she will definitely get ahead and repay them in the future.
Looking at his daughter's serious expression and firm determination, Cao Zhaogang was also very happy, saying that the child grew up and knew to care for his parents, but soon after, one thing became a barrier between his daughter and her parents, and began to alienate their relationship.
Where to go for the university
From elementary school to high school, Cao Qian has always been an honor student. She loves to read to pass the time and is a standard literary young woman.
Cao Qian and her mother
Generally speaking, people who like to read have their own unique views on things, and they have a relatively independent personality, and Cao Qian is no exception.
Gradually, her views on many things began to differ from her parents, and in some trivial matters of life, Cao Qian often quarreled with her parents, and even felt that they were unreasonable.
Cao Qian's parents thought that their daughter had a broken brain when she read, and since then she has often confiscated Cao Qian's extracurricular books, and once, Cao Zhaogang, a father who has always been angry, actually tore up her extracurricular books, and the quarrels between the family became more and more numerous.
Cao Qian
But the real turning point is after the college entrance examination, according to the theory, the child has been admitted to college, parents should be very happy, but Cao Qian's family is actually very unhappy because of this, what is the matter?
It turned out that Cao Qian had enjoyed the beautiful scenery of the north and south of the river in the book, and she also wanted to go to the far south to see the scenery there and feel the local customs and customs.
But for the father who farms for a living, it is completely useless to see the scenery, it is better to stay at home and study, go back to the countryside to find a job after graduation, and for college graduates in that era, it is not a problem to take the civil service examination, and then life will be stable.
Cao Qian
More importantly, the father found his daughter and said: "You go to school in the south, the living expenses in the south are more expensive, and the tuition fee is more expensive than the hometown, our family does not have that condition, just go to the house!" ”
The daughter stubbornly said: "I can work and study, study while working, so as not to drag you two old!" My father was immediately annoyed and said, "What do you do at work, you study well, you will make a lot of money in the future, and I and you are counting on you to change your life!" ”
The daughter obviously could not understand her father's behavior, and said: "I am still young, I should go out to see, money and money, you know a money every day, there is no pursuit of life!" ”
Cao Qian
Obviously, there has been a gap and generation gap between father and daughter, and the father pays more attention to practicality and how to save money; but in the eyes of her daughter, she is still young, and she should see more about the outside world.
The two did not understand each other, and they were both stubborn, so one summer, the father and daughter were all arguing. The mother is sandwiched in the middle and can only be a peacemaker, but the mother is also biased towards the father's point of view, because the family is too poor!
Young Cao Qian couldn't wait to fly out of the palm of her parents' hands, so she hid from her parents and filled in several universities in the south on her college entrance examination volunteers.
Cao Qian
How could this kind of thing be hidden for a while, how could it be hidden for a lifetime! His father, Cao Zhaogang, soon learned of the incident. When the father heard that the rebellious daughter had changed her volunteer, he was so angry that he quarreled with Cao Qian that day, and the grumpy father directly slapped the daughter and then said: "You can't consider considering your parents?" Considering your family? You ran so far, have you ever thought about home! ”
Cao Qian felt quite aggrieved, but did not want to easily admit defeat, so she quarreled with her father, but her arm could not twist her thigh, her father's tough requirements still worked, Cao Qian had no way, and filled in Liaoning Normal University on the last volunteer.
Perhaps by fate, Cao Qian wanted to go to school in the northeast, and all the schools in front of her did not admit her, and it was this last school that successfully admitted her.
Liaoning Normal University
Seeing that their daughter was going to stay in the northeast, the parents seemed to have won the victory, were very happy, and also celebrated their daughter's admission to college. But the daughter was obviously not satisfied with this result, and she swore in her heart from that moment that she would never care about her parents.
At that time, the family did not notice this change in Cao Qian, until the child went to school, and slowly discovered that something was wrong.
Absurd college life
Since she didn't get into the university she wanted to go to, Cao Qian added this sin to her parents, and since then she has rarely spoken to her family.
In fact, in order to let Cao Qian go to college, the parents really did not bother to think about it, because their family conditions are very poor, and even the tuition fees of thousands of yuan in the university are barely enough, plus Cao Qian's monthly living expenses, it is really a bit impossible to open the pot.
Cao Zhaogang
On the day of Cao Qian's school, her parents also accompanied her to school, and Cao Qian said that she would find a way to get living expenses without her parents taking care of it. However, the fact is that after a month of school, Cao Qian began to urge her parents to give her living expenses.
It turned out that Cao Qian was like a fish into the sea in school, she began to let go of herself, perhaps the past oppression was too strong, or maybe the previous life was too tense, Cao Qian began to enjoy life in college.
Her roommates are some rich people, often take Cao Qian to eat Western food, drink coffee, these novelties for a rural baby, really eye-opening!
Drink coffee
Cao Qian thought of the petty bourgeois life described in the book, drinking coffee to spend a comfortable afternoon, isn't that what she is after? Since then, she has often done these things, and in order to maintain her life, she not only asks her parents for money, but also goes to work.
Cao Qian often sat in a café with a few friends, and then told those celebrity stories or beautiful words in English, as if she were a high-end literati inker, drinking and writing poetry with three or five friends.
In the eyes of her classmates, Cao Qian has a high level of English, knows a lot of stories, and when she talks about it, it is really exaggerated, and her mouth is hanging like a river, from ancient and modern China and foreign countries to astronomical geography, that is really what will be expressed.
Liu Hongyu, Cao Zhaogang
In school, she was already a standard "literary and artistic young woman" and was praised by her classmates for having the temperament of a rich lady. Such words are very pleasant for Cao Qian, and she likes that everyone praises her like this.
On the one hand, Cao Qian wants to find a job near the school to make money, and she has to always ask for money for her parents; on the other hand, Cao Qian also has to show her demeanor and extraordinary temperament in front of her classmates, just to satisfy her vanity.
Parents are also very strange, how after the daughter reaches college, she is like a gold-devouring beast, and she has to fight money every half a month. The family really couldn't afford it, so they asked her why, but Cao Qian's answer was: "I'm busy learning to buy materials!" ”
Cao Qian photo
Cao Qian said this on her lips, but it was another thing to do. Without the discipline of her family, Cao Qian let go of herself, and she actually hung up a full 6 subjects in her first semester! She didn't dare to tell her family about this, and she kept holding it back.
She also applied for a student loan for herself to squander and never spent the money on the right path.
Cao Qian spent four years of university without learning and doing nothing, and looking back on her four years of history, it is undoubtedly full of absurdity and bizarreness. For the sake of their own vanity, regardless of their parents' abilities, they began to live a petty bourgeois life, which was really a bit excessive.
She finally went home every semester for winter and summer vacations, played outside at other times, and when she returned home during winter and summer vacations, she would not communicate with her parents, so she shut herself in the house.
Cao Zhaogang
And she abandoned her studies, and in the end she couldn't even issue her diploma. Cao Zhaogang knew that her daughter went to a normal university, but she did not even have a teacher qualification certificate, nor did she have an English test certificate.
In the year of graduation, her father asked her, "Why don't you see your diploma?" ”
Cao Qian replied indifferently: "I hung up too many subjects, so I can't graduate!" ”
Cao Zhaogang almost fainted after listening to it, and he said: "I have been in college for you to study for four years, is it easy for me and your mother?" Tired so that both of our hair is white, can't you see it? Do you use this result to repay your family? ”
Liu Hongyu
Cao Qian said, "It's okay, I've found a new way, and it's even better than graduating from this university!" ”
Cao Zhaogang didn't know what medicine her daughter was selling, so she asked, "What kind of moth are you doing?" ”
Cao Qian said: "The school has an opportunity to study in Germany, as long as we pay 70,000 yuan, we can continue to study at university, and come back or return to the sea!" When the time comes for me to go back to my hometown to find a job, isn't that a bright future? ”
The father hesitated, he was afraid that his daughter would lie to himself again, but the mother said that he could try, because the child had no hope of graduating from the domestic school.
Not coded as Cao Qian
However, that was in 2000, 70,000 yuan was already very high at that time, not to mention that Cao Qian's home was not good?
But the daughter swore an oath to ensure that she would be able to make a name for herself after going abroad, and her father did know that he could make a lot of money when he returned from abroad, so he was heartbroken and borrowed 70,000 yuan from his sister and his wife's brother.
This 70,000 yuan is so heavy, for the old couple, this money is their last trust and expectation of their daughter, since the daughter said that the country can be famous, then believe her once!
In 2000, Cao Qian bid farewell to her parents and left her hometown in northeast China, and no one would have thought that this trip would be a farewell!
Cao Qian's parents
Lost contact for 17 years
Since their daughter left, the old couple has begun to regret it: Will their daughter's life in Germany be better? Will she read well? Will you be bullied there? What is the weather like in Germany?
Every night, Cao Qian's mother could not sleep, and every day she prayed to the bodhisattva to bless her daughter with peace in a foreign country.
A few months later, Cao Qian called her parents and said, "Mom, are you okay lately?" Cao Qian's mother cried with excitement after hearing this, thinking that her daughter grew up to know that she cared about her parents, so she said: "Well, I am good with your father!" Don't worry about us! ”
Cao Zhaogang
"Then give me some money!" I'm out of money, Mom! Cao Qian said. When the mother heard that she wanted money, she began to hesitate in her heart, because the 70,000 yuan she had borrowed before had not been replaced, and Cao Zhaogang's sister had come to the house several times to ask for money.
So the mother said: "Can you slow down any longer, my parents really don't have any money!" ”
"If I don't have any money, I'm starving outside and no one cares about me!" Cao Qian was a little impatient, and then gave them a number and said, "When you have money, send me a remittance, and when the time comes, call me to say, you better pray, I hope I don't starve to death!" ”
Liu Hongyu
The daughter hung up the phone mercilessly, and when the parents heard this, they could hesitate any more! The mother asked her brother to borrow some money to pay her daughter.
In this way, every time Cao Qian called, she asked for money from her parents, and the burden of the family was gradually overwhelmed day after day.
At this time, Cao Qian's mother found that she was seriously ill, but she chose to be patient for her daughter, and she did not say anything, hoping that her daughter could return to Germany as soon as possible and repay her family.
But Cao Zhaogang did not have much patience, because at first her daughter would say a few good words when she asked for money, and then her attitude became worse and worse, once a month, and she would call two words: "Ask for money!" "Say nothing else.
Cao Qian's family
Once Cao Zhaogang was in a hurry, and as soon as his daughter finished asking for money, he yelled, "Money, money, money!" Just know the money, drag your parents to death! ”
Cao Qian also said violently, "Then I will not look for you in the future, and I will never say goodbye!" Then he hung up the phone.
After the father-daughter quarrel, the mother Liu Hongyu also blamed Cao Zhaogang, saying that he should not quarrel with his daughter, for fear that her daughter would not call. Cao Zhaogang said: "After a while, she will call herself when she has no money, don't worry!" ”
In this way, Liu Hongyu waited for a month, two months... In a year or two, the daughter seemed to disappear forever in a foreign country.
Cao Zhaogang, Liu Hongyu
Cao Zhaogang began to regret his rudeness, and after paying off his debts, he began to look for his daughter with his wife, and they muttered in their hearts: "Is it possible that the daughter has encountered an accident in a foreign country?" ”
The village chief contacted the Chinese Embassy in Germany, and it took many places to contact Cao Qian in Hamburg, and the embassy staff sent someone to see Cao Qian, hoping that she could talk to her parents and contact her several times.
However, cao qian, no matter how much the embassy personnel advised, refused to contact her parents and moved out of the residence.
This news spread back to China, Cao Qian's parents are happy and angry: happy to have a daughter news, know that she is fine; angry is that the daughter does not contact herself, so screw temper!
Hamburg, Germany
In this way, many years have passed, and in the blink of an eye, in 2018, Cao Qian's mother, Liu Hongyu, was diagnosed with cancer, and over the years, their family completely relied on low income to support themselves, and her mother knew that her life was short and wanted to see her daughter once.
Cao Zhaogang again contacted the embassy in Germany to find Cao Qian, but this time Cao Qian hid very deeply, she did not leak half a trace, but the embassy personnel found that Cao Qian had actually returned to China.
It was in 2004, cao qian went to Shanghai, met a man, maybe this is cao qian's boyfriend.
Cao Zhaogang felt desperate at that moment, her daughter would rather see her boyfriend than her parents, the last time she saw her own daughter, it was eighteen years ago, think about how absurd it is!
Cao Qian
Cao Zhaogang's body was also as good as ever, and he finally tired himself! Over the years, he borrowed a lot of money for his daughter and offended his relatives over and over again, so after both husband and wife were seriously ill, he actually relied on his wife's brother to take care of them.
Liu Hongyu's younger brother could not see the life of the family, he also borrowed a lot of money over the years, very considerate of the situation of his sister's family, so he quickly contacted the reporter, hoping that the filial daughter in Germany could return to China to see her parents.
Absurd reasons
In 2020, Cao Zhaogang and his wife have been unable to get out of bed and walk, after the reporter learned of this news, he rushed to the hospital to see, very sympathetic to the family's suffering, but also expressed criticism of Cao Qian's behavior.
Germany
With the help of reporters, the Embassy in Germany and the Hamburg Chinese group and international student groups joined forces to find Cao Qian, and with everyone's efforts, Cao Qian was finally found!
Cao Qian actually became a professor at a famous university in Hamburg! Today she is a German, and she has mixed with the so-called high society and become a real bourgeoisie.
In the face of angry reporters, Chinese and international students, she gave this statement: "My parents are seriously ill and have nothing to do with me, I will not return to China, and I do not owe them anything!" ”
Germany
Such a statement quickly spread back to China, and Cao Qian's uncle was so angry that he looked at the reporter's camera and scolded him in the air, saying: "Why is your mother bitter?" After years of hard work, I even raised a white-eyed wolf! ”
After the matter became news, countless angry netizens also condemned Cao Qian, hoping that she could give an explanation why she did not return to China to see her parents.
Cao Qian told reporters: "Their perverted desire to control me made me unable to breathe, and I left home to come to Germany just to escape them!" "These cold-blooded tears are jaw-dropping.
Liu Hongyu
Cao Qian's parents were desperate after receiving this answer, and Liu Hongyu died soon after. In the autumn of 2020, Cao Zhaogang looked at the award certificate of his daughter when he was a child, and his death at home was full of regrets, and the evening scene of the old couple was desolate, which made people sad!
Today's Cao Qian should live a very good life in Germany, but as a university professor, she herself has not even learned to be a person, what else to talk about teaching and educating people? This kind of person is selfish, is the representative of the refined egoist, and should be nailed to the pillar of shame forever!
Perhaps there is a certain problem with the education method of Cao Zhaogang and his wife, but this cannot erase the fact that they are Cao Qian's biological parents! Cao Qian's cold-blooded behavior really has no conscience, let alone humanity!