Text | Rice grain mom
Recently, Rice Grain's mother ran to relive a Japanese drama "Mother" from many years ago.
Ten years ago, when the rice grain mother watched this drama, she hid in the bed and cried a lot, did not think, ten years later today to relive again, paper towels are still not enough.
Open the bullet screen, found that all are like me almost every episode of the netizens tears, regardless of men and women, everyone is crying a mess, you can see the lethality of this drama ...
The Japanese drama "Mother" tells the story of Natsu, a primary school teacher who mistakenly becomes a primary school teacher, meets Yinan, who is abused by her mother and her mother's boyfriend, and is determined to take her out of the clutches of the devil and truly assume the role of "mother".
Miri's mother felt that what this drama really wanted to discuss with the audience was about the topic of "parental responsibility".
Mirimoto strongly recommends that people who want to become parents in the future or who are already parents should watch this drama, which will definitely bring you different enlightenment.
Suzuhara was originally a migratory bird researcher at a university, but unfortunately, the research room suddenly closed, and the unemployed Nasu came to teach at an elementary school by mistake.
Natsu noticed a strange child in the class, and in class, when everyone was writing the essay "Ducks of Heaven" assigned by the teacher, and crying because the ducks raised at school were dead, she was indifferent and sat in her seat and could not write a word.
She said coldly and innocently, "Ducks won't read the letter." ”
Pian Nan even asked the teacher if the Kingdom of Heaven existed, and then showed a flattering smile.
After class, Nan Nan gave Nai Xu a beanie hat, and after getting the hat, Nai Xu found that he had a bald spot on the back of his head...
Such a meticulous observation ability is indeed a little strange for a 7-year-old child, and in Qiannan, it seems to have a maturity that does not match his real age.
Through observation, Nai Xu found that There were many shocking scars on Qiannan's body, and her height and weight level development were seriously lower than those of normal children, obviously seven years old, but it looked similar to a 5-year-old child.
Despite this, the clothes on her body could also be seen to have been bought a long time ago, and the sleeves were too short to withstand the cold.
Through the visit, Natsu discovers that Nan nan has been dependent on her mother since childhood. She lives with her mother and her mother's boyfriend and often walks around the house in the winter.
That's right, Pi Nan was abused.
Mother's boyfriend would often beat her, but her mother simply ignored her and even joined in.
In the winter, Nan nan was picked up by Natsu and returned home hungry, and he also fainted at school because of malnutrition.
But in the beginning, this was not the case at all.
When she was born, Heran's mother, Michigi Hitomi, was very kind to her, and she vowed to make her daughter a happy child.
Later, when her husband died, she worked hard to raise Pi Nan alone, and worked hard for Pi Nan, and the mother and daughter relied on each other for their lives, and they were the most important people in each other's lives.
However, the child is still young and does not understand things, and gradually, The noise of Yunan begins to make Renmei feel bored.
After giving birth to her daughter, Renmei took care of her almost every day, without her own space and circle, watching her former friends live freely, and Renmei was also envious.
In order to make her daughter "obedient", Renmei began to scold her daughter, at first, just a small flick of the forehead, and then gradually evolved into yelling and shoving.
Renmei also tried to abandon her daughter many times, but in the end she did not bear it.
Later, Renmi made a boyfriend, and in order to go out with her boyfriend, she left her daughter at home alone. The boyfriend is not good to the daughter, but she does not dare to say anything at all, and she has to laugh and please the boyfriend.
Rice grain mother is really sad, children are not adults' toys, before having children, we must think carefully about whether they have the ability to be responsible for a life.
The most important thing in raising a child is patience and principles.
Patience is for children, and the principle is to demand of oneself, when raising children, you should always keep these two things in mind, otherwise, whether it is for children or adults, it is a disaster.
Rice's mother once saw a story in which a mother joined forces with her boyfriend to kill her biological son.
The child did not have a good relationship with his stepfather before he died, and the two often quarreled, but fortunately, the child had grown up and had enough strength to protect himself.
Once the two quarreled, the stepfather began to kill the stepson, but the child was very strong, and the stepfather was not his opponent.
It was at this time that the child's mother came to help.
"As soon as his mother came over, he didn't struggle," the stepfather described in court.
This sentence made the rice grain mother's heart ache. I guess at that time, the child must have been desperate, right? Even the people who gave birth to him did not want him to live, so why bother?
Tiger poison does not eat children, but some parents in this world are really not as good as animals.
In such a family life, Qiannan began to become cautious, and every day in the hallway, she began to shiver when she saw her mother's boyfriend's shoes;
She learned to look at the color, and when she came home, she did not dare to make a sound, for fear of being beaten, she learned to disguise her sadness, and still insisted on smiling when her mother threw away her toys and pets.
She recorded all the beautiful things in her life in a notebook and told herself that when she was unhappy, she should think about happy things, so that there was hope of living.
She's only 7 years old, but she's really put up with too much.
When she woke up late at night, she couldn't help but say to her mother, "Save me, Mom, save me." ”
But in the face of Nan's call for help, Renmei finally chose to ignore, she also struggled, saw her daughter being abused by her boyfriend, and at first she would reach out to stop it, but gradually, she began to turn a blind eye.
She has already attached her body and mind to her boyfriend, in order not to lose her boyfriend, she can compromise without a bottom line, even if she sacrifices her daughter.
With love, the daughters who used to rely on each other for their lives have become a burden.
Once, When Renmi came home, she found that her boyfriend was putting lipstick on her daughter, but at this time, her first reaction was actually jealousy?!
So, on a cold winter night, she beat up her daughter, tied her in a bag and threw her into the garbage heap, and then went out with her boyfriend to open a room.
Seeing this, the rice grain mother's fist is hard, so there will be such a person!? Does she deserve the title of mother?
On the other hand, although Natsu learned about Ainan's situation, she couldn't really help her, and the attitude of the school leaders was also very cold.
At this time, she suddenly received another job offer, and had to tell Qiannan what to remember to find a school teacher in the future.
At that time, Qiannan, who thought he had grasped the straw of life, just took a deep look at her, then bowed and ran away.
Subsequently, Natsu, who was packing her things at home, accidentally found the notebook that Qiannan had left at her house, and decided to return the notebook to Qiannan before leaving.
In the garbage heap in front of Qiannan's house, Nai Xu saw Qiannan who was freezing in the garbage heap.
Seeing this, The rice grain mother is angry and distressed, and was abandoned by her biological mother in the sub-zero night, how helpless should this little girl be?
Natsu took Nan Nan home to take care of her, looking at the little girl's desperate face, she wanted to compensate and asked Qi Nan if she wanted to eat, play, or go.
Ai Nan whispered about a place, and Nai Xu repeatedly agreed, and asked Ai Nan what she wanted to do in this place.
Nan took out a crumpled newspaper from his pocket and handed it to Natsu, answering in a low voice:
"I want to go to a baby shelter, but the newspaper doesn't put the photo out, I don't know if I can go when I'm 7 years old?" Can I go with a height of 104cm? ”
How desperate is a little girl to her parents to say such a thing?
Natsu finally couldn't hold back, her tears fell, she knelt on the ground with the newspaper and cried bitterly, Natsu had also been to the orphanage when she was a child, and she was also a person abandoned by her mother.
The next day, Natsu took Nan to the beach to see the migratory birds, and Nan shouted at the birds flying away:
"Bring Mercy!"
Take me to a distant place, will I be able to stop suffering? But the cold sea rushed under his feet, as if to tell Yinan how indifferent this winter really was.
Seeing this, Natsu hugged Nan and told her:
"I'm going to abduct you."
Pi Nan did not refuse, but was afraid that the East Window Incident would harm the kind teacher and go to prison, but the teacher still made up her mind, because she wanted to save Pi Nan and also wanted to become her real mother.
In front of the icy waters, Akinan and Natsu hugged each other tightly.
In this world, the mother is the only relative of Yinan, but she personally pushed her daughter into the abyss, which is not as warm as the teacher who met in Pingshui, bringing her much warmth.
Natsu thinks of her childhood self and is determined to take Nan to escape the abuse of her original family.
Two lonely people, in this cold winter, are determined to abandon all painful memories and become each other's true family.
Born to die, just to get a glimmer of light.
Subsequently, Natsu began to resign and move, and she created a fake death incident, making everyone think that Qi Nan jumped into the sea and died.
In this way, Nai Xu and Pi Nan embarked on the road of escape, and Qi Nan changed her name to Nai Xu's mother, saying goodbye to her past life completely.
They stumbled all the way to Tokyo, where Natsu contacted her adoptive mother's family and met her own biological mother, Ye Cai, and after a period of time together, the mother and daughter finally eliminated the barrier, and with the help of her birth mother and adoptive mother's family, Natsu gradually established herself in Tokyo with Heran.
Later, Nai Xu took Pi Nan to live with her birth mother, and the family lived very happily, Nai Xu found a job, and also risked finding a borrowed school for Pi Nan.
But just when everyone thought that the storm had passed and everything was bitter, Renmei, the birth mother who abused Yinan, came to the door.
It turned out that by chance, Renmei saw a photo of Natsu sending Minami to school, so she suspected that her daughter might not be dead, so she ran to Tokyo to look for it.
However, at this time, Qiannan was no longer willing to recognize her, and she calmly told her birth mother:
"I don't like or hate you, because you're not my mother anymore."
After learning of her daughter's attitude, Renmei looks at Natsu jealously, stubbornly believing that Natsu stole her daughter, and then goes to report the crime and sues Natsu.
Miri's mother felt that Renmei's psychology was actually very perverted, when her daughter was around, she abused and abandoned; when her daughter left, she wanted to save herself, knowing that she could not go back to the past, and risked herself in prison (abandonment) and did not want to let others feel better.
She did not seem to regard her daughter as an independent life from beginning to end, and in her eyes, her daughter was just a doll in her life, and no matter how abusive she was, she had to submit to her wholeheartedly.
Such a person may not be suitable for parenthood in the first place.
Later, Natsu was arrested and imprisoned, but fortunately, after learning that Nasu had saved Nan nan from the abuse of her original family, the judge decided to sentence Nai Xu to 1 year in prison, with a 3-year suspension of execution, and stipulated that Nai Xu was not allowed to actively contact her before Nan became an adult.
That is, within three years, as long as Natsu did not commit a crime, then she would not have to go to jail again.
Renmei, Nan's birth mother, and her boyfriend, were arrested and imprisoned on suspicion of "abandonment."
But the Naisui family did not feel very happy, they all missed Qi Nan in the orphanage.
The same was true of Nan, who wrote down Nai-seok's phone number and route home, sneaking out of the dormitory almost every day in the middle of the night and running to the cafeteria to call Na-seok.
Later, after Naixu was released from prison, he received a phone call from Nan, and the next day Nan ran away, and a person took a car to Natsu's house in Tokyo, with injuries everywhere on his body but his face full of joy.
In Qiannan's heart, she had already regarded Naixu as her mother, and in Naixu, Nan nan finally experienced the long-lost affection.
However, even though the mother and daughter wanted to live together, the law did not allow it, and in the end, Natsu had to cry and send Ainan back to the orphanage, and made an agreement to meet with Renan when she became an adult.
After watching this drama, the rice grain mother really sighed, parents can choose whether to have children, but the children have no choice, they shoulder all kinds of expectations for birth, unconditionally love their parents.
And if an irresponsible person becomes a parent, it will be the biggest nightmare in the child's life.
Just like The birth mother of Pi Nan in the play, she can obviously raise the child well, but little by little she has embarked on the road of abusing her daughter. In the end, Qiannan obviously had a mother and someone who was willing to raise her, but she could only grow up in an orphanage.
Children who are not treated well in childhood have been trying to redeem themselves all their lives.
Did Poor Nan do anything wrong? Is it just because of the wrong fetus?!
The Japanese writer Kotaro Isaka once said, "The thought of being a parent who doesn't need an exam is terrifying." ”
A qualified parent should shoulder the responsibility to his children, no matter whether he is rich or poor, whether he is healthy or sick, he will not abandon or give up.
Raising children is never an easy task, there are no perfect parents in this world, but as long as we work hard, we will always slowly become qualified.
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