As the saying goes: the mother-in-law looks at the son-in-law, the more she looks at it, the more satisfied she is!
However, with the increasingly fierce competition in the marriage and love environment, the proportion of men and women is seriously imbalanced, resulting in the mother-in-law having more choices and pickiness in the process of selecting a son-in-law.
However, as parents, we can also understand that there is no parent in the world who does not want their daughter to find the best home, and there is no parent who does not want their daughter to be happy in life.
Therefore, in the process of the mother-in-law's strict selection of son-in-law, what we can see is full of love for the daughter, and it is like the saying: men are afraid of entering the wrong line, women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, from which we can also feel that women can not try and make mistakes, once they try and make mistakes, the cost is very high, so this is also the root cause of more and more mother-in-law, hoping to find a good son-in-law for their daughters.
And many mothers-in-law, using their fierce eyes, sometimes can see at a glance that the boy in front of them is not the object that their daughter can entrust, which can really be said to be "a glance at the end".
Case: The daughter took her boyfriend home, but the mother advised the daughter to break up, and it took 3 months to understand the mother's good intentions
Ozawa graduated from college for 5 years, has been 27 years old, seeing bigger and bigger, there is no boyfriend, the family is more anxious, often urge marriage, Ozawa's parents, also began to gradually wander in the blind date corner, hoping to choose a good son-in-law.
Fortunately, when Ozawa celebrated his 27th birthday, a colleague of the company confessed to Ozawa, and Ozawa had paid attention to the boy for a long time, and once he confessed, the two quickly warmed up their feelings and fell in love.
About three months, Ozawa decided to take his boyfriend home and show his parents, after all, he was not young, but he did not think, at the dinner table, his parents were sad, and there was no happiness and excitement of his daughter finding a boyfriend.
After Ozawa's boyfriend left, Ozawa's mother took the initiative to talk to Ozawa and persuade the two to break up, and the mother's action made Ozawa unable to understand for a while.
Hearing this, Ozawa's mother said directly, "You two score points, and you score points even if you don't!"!
For this matter, Ozawa and his mother had a cold war for a long time, but the stubborn Ozawa never broke up with his boyfriend, nor did he tell his boyfriend about these things, until one day three months later, Ozawa's boyfriend suddenly said to Ozawa: "My mother introduced me to a girl, think it's good, let's get married"!
Hearing this sentence, Ozawa couldn't believe that he was ready to face his parents alone, but he waited for this sentence, and Ozawa was sad for a long time.
Later, Ozawa's mother advised Ozawa to say, "Do you know why you broke up in the first place?" Ozawa shook his head in disbelief.
Ozawa's mother said: "At that time, less than an hour after eating a meal, he answered a total of 7 calls from his mother, I counted it, and it was clear that mama Bao man, what do you want him to do with this kind of man"?
Hearing his mother's explanation, Ozawa suddenly realized, looking at his mother's eyes flashed the meaning of "ginger or old spicy"!
In fact, every mother hopes that her daughter will find a good home, which has led to the situation of "asking for a car and a house and a bride price", to put it bluntly, no matter what you want, you also want it for your daughter.
And with the conditions of every household getting better and better, the mother-in-law is not all interested in the car and the house, but has more requirements, for example, now many mother-in-law will emphasize when choosing a son-in-law, this kind of "three no men" must not be married, understand it!
The "three no men" were included in the blacklist of mother-in-law's son-in-law: it was better for the daughter not to marry than to choose such a person
1. No ability to live independently
Like the case we told, Ozawa's boyfriend, in fact, is a typical "ma bao man", has no ability to live independently, everything depends on his parents, listens to his parents' opinions, and when he encounters some problems, he will fall into panic, and his parents are their life-saving straw.
For this kind of boy, how can the parents with daughters trust their daughters to him, after all, to live a life, you must have the ability to live independently, especially boys, if you can't do anything, then marrying your daughter can only be a sin.
2, the man who is not responsible
A man has a responsibility for everything, in order to give women a sense of security, this responsibility, not in the figure and appearance, but the most important thing is whether to give his own woman to resist the wind and rain.
And for the woman's parents, the daughter to marry to marry the boy who has a responsibility, after all, a person's life, ups and downs, will not be smooth, but when encountering something, it is difficult to pick a man who does not do it, and the daughter will inevitably be sad and find guilt when she marries.
3. Unprincipled men
Principle is the rule, is not to touch the red line, especially marriage and children, can not touch the red line will be more, if their daughter married to an unprincipled, no lower limit of men, then it is inevitable to be sad and sad for a lifetime, life will be bad.
Therefore, in the face of unprincipled men, many mothers-in-law will refuse, although there is a car and a house, but the mother cares more about the happiness of her daughter.
Message:
In fact, when upgraded to a mother, you can understand the stubbornness of your mother sometimes suddenly, and you can also feel that the mother's deepest but delicate love for her daughter hopes that girls in the world can find a good home, and I also hope that my mother-in-law can choose a good son-in-law.