Yi Shu once said: Who will take care of who for a lifetime, what a heavy protection. So women have to be self-reliant.
A woman's biggest confidence is money.
A woman who does not have the financial ability will be doomed. Remember to work hard and save hard.
The marriage of Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu in the TV series "Dear Child" finally fell apart.
The nature of marriage
The essence of marriage is an economic behavior based on love, the allocation and integration of assets of both family resources in order to maximize economic benefits.
If the essence of love is an exchange of feelings, then the essence of marriage is the exchange of values.
Value is something one dimension higher than feelings. When you're in love, you just need to feel happy. Once married, deciding whether the marriage can be long-term depends on the ability of two people to continue to provide each other with "value".
When in love, appearance, figure, charm, and humor can attract each other, but in marriage, the association will become boring, because marriage only has value exchange.
In the TV series "Dear Child", why would the decent and independent high school teacher Fang Yinuo (played by Ren Suxi) marry the mediocre Xiao Lu (played by Qin Hao)?
To put it bluntly, when in love, women only see the shining point of men. Xiao Lu naturally has shining points on his body, such as stability, filial piety, heavy affection, and self-motivation.
Fang Yinuo ignored the objections of his parents and married Xiao Lu. At that time, Xiao Lu had no money, no house and no car, but Fang Yinuo was willing to follow him to live such a dull life.
After marriage, the marriage of two people is stable until the child is born.
The birth of children has gradually led to the fall of their marriage.
The divorce deposit is only 90,000 yuan
Fang Yinuo gave Xiao Lu a chance many times, but he did not grasp it well. Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu were divorced after all.
After the divorce, their quarrel scene made Xiao Lu's face clear. After the divorce, Xiao Lu also mentioned giving his parents-in-law 30,000 yuan to travel.
He began to feel sorry for his mother.
It is said that talking about money hurts feelings. When couples once talked about money, it hurt not only their feelings, but also the only bit of love.
It turned out that in the years they were married, the deposit was only 98500 yuan. Among them, 20,100 yuan was borrowed by xiao Xu, the younger uncle, and they only had 78,400 yuan left on hand. This little uncle is really a collection of disgust.
Originally, it was possible to get 49250 yuan, and finally Fang Yinuo only took 29,000 yuan to go. That is to say, Fang Yinuo also undertook half of the uncle's loan. Such a comparison makes Xiao Lu even more narrow.
As a teacher with high social status, Fang Yinuo married Xiao Lu and bought a house and a car after marriage, and she didn't even want a house or a car.
First of all, the house, because the down payment is from Xiao Lu, Fang Yinuo decided not to want the house. Over the years, she has also helped pay off the mortgage, and she is not going to ask for the money.
The right to pay the rent.
After the divorce, Fang Yinuo came to their marriage room alone. The house that once carried their happy marriage is now the greatest irony.
Fang Yinuo gently took away all her belongings, and also helped Xiao Lu clean up the room and wash the dishes, as if she had never come.
Good gathering and good dispersion.
The pattern of Fang Yinuo can only be expressed in terms of large.
No motorhomes
After the divorce, Fang Yinuo's house and car were not taken away, and he did not have the intention of dividing half of it.
Originally, the house was bought by the joint loan in marriage, and she was eligible to offer to share half of it. She didn't mention any of that.
For Xiao Lu, she was already mourning more than her heart was dead.
The only thing Fang Yinuo cared about was the custody of his daughter. The daughter also returned to Fang Yinuo in the end.
Fang Yinuo's only appeal was not to let her ex-husband Xiao Lu come to see her daughter.
Not allowing her ex-husband to come to see her daughter is partly an element of anger. This can be seen from her divorce break-up meal.
Fang Yinuo called a table of classmates and friends to witness their divorce, and also specially called Xiao San Zhuzhu.
Fang Yinuo thanked Xiao San Zhu in person and let her see the essence of marriage. He said such words with a smile on his lips, but his heart was bleeding.
Fang Yinuo actually still loves Xiao Lu, otherwise he would not have been angry, and he would not have given him many opportunities.
The noodle stall I went to after the divorce showed how deeply Fang Yinuo loved.
How hurt does divorce hurt a woman? Fang Yinuo did not eat a whole bowl of noodles, and also peeled garlic for Xiao Lu, who ate very fragrantly.
The person who loves more deeply in a marriage is always the one who lets go first.
In the end, there is still no money to cause trouble
Now let's analyze and see, why did the marriage between Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu fall apart after the birth of their daughter?
Is it because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the contradiction between parenting, and the contradiction between husband and wife? The answer is that there is one point, but none of them is the main reason.
First, let's talk about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in Mother-in-law Gao Caiping (played by Li Qinqin) is a rural woman, uncultured but very kind and sensible. Gao Caiping has always been optimistic about life, has always been happy, full of positive energy. Knowing that her sister-in-law was running away, she took the initiative to help.
During the month, she took the initiative to cook chicken soup and pig's foot soup for her daughter-in-law to eat. The only thing that went wrong was to get my granddaughter to fall out of the stroller because she smoked and played cards.
Later, Fang Yinuo also forgave his mother-in-law.
Therefore, the mother-in-law is not the trigger for divorce.
Speaking of parenting contradictions. When there was a sister-in-law, the relationship between Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu was not bad, and the parenting contradictions between the two people were also very few, after all, the sister-in-law slept with Hehe.
Finally, it comes to the contradiction between husband and wife. After giving birth, Xiao Lu did the wrong thing to sleep at the critical moment of his wife's childbirth, and also carried his wife to give the placenta to his mother.
After the birth of the child, Xiao Lu has been busy with work and socializing, and there is very little care for the child.
Xiao Lu's biggest mistake was that when his daughter had a fever, he slept with young girls.
In this regard, the reason given by Xiao Lu is that his wife does not fulfill his wife's obligations, and the atmosphere at home is too depressed. The scum of Xiao Lu cannot be denied.
In fact, the breakdown of their marriage, in the final analysis, is still the disaster of no money.
Just imagine, if Fang Yinuo had lived in the confinement center after giving birth, would there be no contradictions such as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, husband and wife childbearing, etc.
However, according to the price of the confinement center in Changsha, it basically ranges from 20,000 to 150,000 yuan.
With the remaining money of 70,000 yuan on hand, it is not enough to pay for the confinement center. It is impossible for a normal family to take out all the family funds to do a month's work.
In order to save money, they chose a compromise method and spent 8,000 yuan to find a sister-in-law. However, no one expected that the sister-in-law had run away.
If they have money, Xiao Lu can spend money to hire a sister-in-law who lives in the house, so that he can solve 80% of the problems in life. During the day, Fang Yinuo can go to work, and at night, he can bring his own baby or give it to his sister-in-law.
Xiao Lu also did not have to work and drink every day, just to make more money so that their mother and daughter could live in a bigger house and live a better life.
Xiao Lu, is there more time to spend with your family?
In the end, I still got married, and the class was different. The three views of the two people are different. Xiao Lu also wants to try his best to improve the life of his mother and daughter, and Fang Yinuo is also a good wife and mother, trying to save money and let his mother take the child.
Divorce, maybe two people with incompatible personalities. A high school teacher will have children for a man who is sure not a completely bad guy. Therefore, Xiao Lu is not a scumbag in the traditional sense, and Fang Yinuo also has some problems of his own.
Two people obviously have love, but they are facing falling apart.
In the end, it is because of the trouble caused by money.
Fang Yinuo was also just an ordinary people's teacher. She also didn't have much money. If she has money, she has the confidence to invite a sister-in-law, and her life can not be so anxious and messy.
Women who are really rich simply don't have time to complain about life. Rich women will not bow to life when they encounter any risk, because they can save themselves.
In the end, Fang Yinuo discussed the distribution of the deposit with Xiao Lu, which was the most hysterical and depraved side of her.
Because she needs money to support herself and her daughter. If she had money, she could have opened up and not want the money.
Even though she had a job, she still had her parents to take care of her. Money is still the placebo she needs most after the divorce.
A woman without money, just like Fang Yinuo, will cry bitterly when she encounters changes, and lose her dignity and pride.
From the marriage of Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu, it can be seen that love is very important. But families that lack money before marriage are also short of money after marriage. Don't think money isn't important. Marriage has to be a lifetime, a lifetime of lack of money where is the quality of life?
As Gu Li said: Love without material is a mess of sand, no need to blow the wind, take two steps and scatter.