Wen 丨 Forest Mommy
The American psychologist Wimon has done a study of 150 accomplished intellectual excellence and found that intellectual development is related to three personalities:
First, perseverance, that is, bravely face difficulties and persevere to the end;
The second is to be good at achieving goals and continuously accumulating results;
The third is to have self-confidence and not to be inferior.
It can be seen that personality is very important to a person's life and can determine his destiny.
From the beginning of small things, you can see a person's personality, but the personality is not static, especially before the child is 6 years old, he has not yet "fixed", and the direction in which the personality develops depends on the guidance of parents.
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Many parents who are fathers and mothers will have such a contrast, why the children of neighbors, the children of relatives, and the children of friends are so good at talking, polite to others, generous, and look at their own children, only promises, hide when they see people.
I remember a classmate party, I took my son to attend the party, during the banquet, friends asked me how to teach the child, so pleased, see people called uncles and aunts, but also take the initiative to communicate with people, their own children, you do not shout he will never take the initiative to call people, you say a sentence he will only hmm.
In fact, it is very simple, that is, to seize the opportunity of exercise in life to guide children.
In order to cultivate the child's communication skills, I and his father try to take the child downstairs to play every day, let the child and the child play in the process of overcoming timidity, and consciously take the child to the mall, shopping, let the child choose what to buy, sometimes the baby's father will deliberately pretend not to find something to buy, and then let the son ask the salesman, because it is what the child wants to buy, so the child is happy to ask.
In this way, the child's social skills are invisibly cultivated, and his personality is more cheerful and better at communicating with people.
In school, we parents should also communicate more with the child's teacher to reflect the child's personality characteristics and changes to them. With the care and help of the school teacher, the child will actively speak and perform in the classroom.
From a young age, his father and I have paid attention to cultivating the child's independent character, giving the child more opportunities to exercise independently, and cultivating the child's oral expression ability. If it is a shy child, when there are many people, they are always reluctant to speak, we should take the initiative to create exercise opportunities for children, so that children have more space to express themselves, so that children will become more and more confident.
It's confidence.
The so-called self-confidence is to believe that you can do anything, which is a kind of inner determination and a basis for doing things.
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Cultivating a child's character with clear goals and clear ideas requires parents to participate in it, create a good opportunity for the child, and do a good job as a child's role model.
Therefore, the cultivation of children's personality should start from every small thing around them, not only children to do, but also to play a good role model for us parents, our parents are the child's first teacher, and the personality of parents can also affect the formation of children's personality.
For example, my son has poor self-control, and when he does one thing, he is easily distracted by another thing, which is the so-called "not good at achieving goals" and cannot accumulate results.
We let him start practicing calligraphy, let his father also accompany him, lead by example, set a good example for the child, focus on one thing, calm down, and write neatly as the beginning of cultivating strong self-control.
This has played a good role in helping my son to study in the future and cultivate the character of self-control.
This is to be good at accumulating results in order to achieve goals.
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Our children will face a complex society in the future, it is inevitable to encounter setbacks and difficulties, without a strong and optimistic personality, it is impossible to adapt to fierce social competition.
And the quality of persistence also needs to be cultivated.
To cultivate children's perseverance, there is a very simple way, that is, to let children learn a specialty.
I enrolled my son in a lot of interest classes, and after the big wave, I chose two interests that he liked and were good at and stuck with.
In the process of learning and practicing this specialty, children will experience a complete process of success from beginning to end. Because any skill, if you want to master it, you must go through the process of "insisting on practicing", whether it is practicing the piano, practicing dance, practicing words, there is no need to experience a painful persistence period, you may not see the effect of paying, and you need to give up a lot of playing time.
However, when the child has experienced this long period of persistence and sees the results, these hardships will turn into Ganlin.
After tasting the benefits of persistence, children will be willing to take the road of persistence when they encounter difficulties, and then get used to persistence, and finally become a persistent person.
This is perseverance, that is, to bravely face difficulties and persevere to the end.
If our parents can ask their children to start from every little thing around them and persevere, it will lay a good foundation for children to cultivate independent character.
Starting from every little thing around you, how noble the character of the parents is, how beautiful the character of the child is, the parents are the exemplary power of the child, the first teacher of the child, in real life, only people with a strong and optimistic character have perseverance, self-control, and can bravely move forward without fear of difficulties, so as to achieve extraordinary achievements in life.
Smyers once said: Like peeking at the sun from a small hole, small things can portray a person's character.
Now start from every little thing around you, cultivate from an early age, not when the child grows up and then cultivates, the child's personality has been almost cultivated before the age of six, if we parents intervene and then influence the child's personality when we grow up, it is difficult to intervene successfully.