My girlfriend told me very emotionally that when the child grew up, he did not follow him like the previous "fart worm", although he had expected this day in his heart, but he did not know that it came so early, and his heart was very lost.
It turned out that my girlfriend's child was in the third grade, and some time ago I suddenly said to my girlfriend: "Mom, I don't want you to send me to school, I can go to school by myself." ”
However, although they often say that in the eyes of parents, a child is always a child. However, as children get older, have their own independent thoughts, and have their own friends, they will leave our sight. Therefore, the time we can grow up with our children is not as much as we think.
In the time we accompany our children, we must seize this critical period, cultivate children to develop good living and learning habits, and let children feel the true love of their parents for him, which is what we can give to our children.
1. Cultivate children's ability to take care of themselves
Parents love their children, heartache children, is inevitable, usually eager to eat all the delicious food for children to eat, reluctant to children to do a little thing. In fact, when the child is 3 to 4 years old, parents should appropriately learn to let go and cultivate the child's ability to take care of themselves.
For example, after your child's toys are finished, remember to pack them up and put them back in their places. Instead of the child stopping playing, letting the toys mess around on the ground, and then cleaning up on their own. Parents can encourage their children, guide their children to learn to pack up their toys, and even do what they can.
Do not look less at cultivating children's self-care ability, as children can do more and more things, not only help to develop good living habits, but also enhance children's self-confidence.
Just as the so-called one house does not sweep the world, even their own affairs can not be done well, how to grow up to stand on the society.
2. Cultivate children to love learning
Learning is very hard, you have to endure loneliness, but also have to suffer. Children are not born to love to learn, after all, when people encounter hardships, they will always have a fear of psychology. Then, if the child is willing to learn and is willing to learn, there must be a huge contribution from the parents behind it.
A friend around me once said to me, your daughter's academic performance is very good, your husband and you are both college students, really genetic. The child's academic performance is good, whether it is genetic or not I don't know, I spend a lot of time and energy on my daughter, it should be a lot.
When my daughter was in kindergarten, from not knowing a word to graduating from kindergarten, I was able to read independently, and I was indispensable to my daily reading. When my daughter went to the first grade, she tutored and wrote homework every night, guided her to write homework when she came home from school, checked it after writing homework, and insisted on reviewing and pre-studying after class.
Therefore, it is not an easy thing to make children fall in love with learning, and parents should guide and supervise according to their children's personality.
3. Cultivate children's self-confidence
In your eyes, the child is useless, then you can only see the child's shortcomings, and selectively ignore the child's advantages. All I can say is that your child has been wronged. Their own parents are not willing to explore their own advantages, do they still expect outsiders to do this?
Some time ago, the husband was responsible for tutoring his daughter's studies, and as a result, her daughter's learning declined very badly. The husband makes such a mistake, in his eyes, the daughter as long as there is a mistake, he will make a fuss to point it out, and then continue to find out the daughter's shortcomings and deficiencies.
In his husband's mind, he believes that as long as his daughter's mistakes are corrected, her daughter can progress. But I don't know, under the repeated blows of her husband, the daughter has no confidence in herself, and she hesitates to do a question, obviously the answer made is correct, and she is not sure.
In fact, it is much more useful for us to cultivate children and find out his strengths and strengths than to constantly explore his shortcomings and mistakes. Cultivating children's self-confidence is the most important thing. Parents have confidence in their children and encourage them, and children can be positive.
Write in the end: While the child is still young, we must educate the child well and cultivate the child to develop good living and learning habits. Otherwise the child grows up, you want to teach, there is no such opportunity, the child will no longer listen to you. Don't wait until the child grows up and then come back to you and say, "Mom, why didn't you teach me well before, I didn't understand things when I was young, and you didn't understand things either?" "It is the responsibility of parents to educate their children well. (The picture is from the network, if there is infringement, it must be deleted)