The happier the family, the more they often let go of these three things

Psychologist Zeng Qifeng once said:

"The relationship between husband and wife is the needle of the sea god of the family. Only when the husband and wife are intimate, the whole family can get better and better. "

If you think about it, this is indeed the case.

In life, we look at those, husband and wife quarrels, the relationship is a mess, if their family can be happy and beautiful, I believe that no one can believe.

So how can we make the relationship between husband and wife more intimate and harmonious, so that the whole family is peaceful?

In fact, if we look closely, we will find that:

Those couples who can love and harmonize, those who are happier and happier, often let go of these three things.

Put down the complaints

With the increasing pressure of life, everyone in the family, no matter what role they play, will have their own difficulties and grievances.

People who earn money outside to support their families will be very bitter and tired when they get up early every day and go in the dark wind and rain; while those who take care of their families at home, it is not easy for the elderly and children to eat three meals a day.

If two people only see their own suffering, but can not understand the other half's tiredness, every day at home full of complaints.

So over time, they can only consume each other's patience, and finally sacrifice their feelings in quarrels and fights.

In the TV series "In the Name of Family", chen Ting and Ling Heping's marriage, although not very rich and noble, but also eat and drink, at first it was also harmonious and comfortable.

But then, an accident caused the family to lose its daughter, and since then, the whole family has changed.

Chen Ting seems to have suddenly become a complaining woman, she complains that Ling Heping is busy at work, disregarding her family, and complaining about why her son Ling Xiao wants to give her daughter walnuts.

In this way, the whole family never had three minutes of calm.

Ling Heping was reluctant to go home from work and hide quiet in the restaurant; Ling Xiao often hid in a corner alone and became autistic.

In the end, the relationship is difficult to maintain, and a good family is torn apart.

There is a saying:

The biggest debt to your partner is that when you should have said " thank you, hard work, I love you " , it was said " I'm tired, I'm busy, I'm not wrong." ”

In a relationship, no one is a little aggrieved, not a little bitter. After all, life is full of bitterness and tiredness.

Only when two people know how to understand and can empathize with the other half to understand more, can they manage the relationship well and run the family well.

Put aside the calculations

Franklin said:

"Keep your eyes open before you get married, and close one eye after you get married."

When two people get along, there will always be disagreements and unpleasant looks at each other.

If everything is calculated, then in the end it will only make the two people more and more tired, and eventually life will be a chicken feather.

Only by making more compromises and concessions between each other can two people feel inclusive and live happily together.

Friends Dacheng, married for five years. And after so many years of marriage, I have never seen two people blush because of what quarrels.

Many people wonder about this, are they really so compatible, there is no contradiction at all?

Later ate in a block, when someone asked that question.

Dacheng replied sheepishly, where there is no contradiction, but when a contradiction occurs, see how you solve it.

It turns out that in marriage, whenever two people want to quarrel, if it is something unnecessary, Dacheng will always admit it first, and then buy some small gifts and apologize, so that most problems can be easily resolved.

It is really some principled issue, and Dacheng will also take a step back to let the two people calm down before they can reason.

In Dentons' words:

"For women, they are not unreasonable, but they must pay attention to the way and method, the method is used correctly, and it is difficult to quarrel."

Mark Twain said:

"Life is so short, we don't have time to argue, apologize, be sad, be calculating, we only have time to love, everything is fleeting." 」

In a relationship, it is often the more you think about it, the more you lose. And when you think less, feelings can be more harmonious and the family can be happier.

Let go of suspicion

Someone said:

"Trust is the most important trait shared by two people in a marriage relationship, and it is also indispensable for building a pleasant and growing relationship."

In a relationship, sensitivity is a good thing to perceive each other's emotions and regulate the way they get along.

But being too sensitive will only complicate simple things, and even make the feelings of two people irretrievable.

Recently brushed the "Chasing Love Family" drama.

In the play, after Qi Tianyou and Xiao Nan remarried, in less than a few months, the relationship between the two people broke down again.

The reason why the feelings could not go on again was, of course, there was a reason for Qi Tianyou, but the most direct fuse was Xiao Nan's distrust of Qi Tianyou.

When Qi Tianyou's predecessor appeared, Xiao Nan tightened a string in his heart.

She will be anxious, she will suffer from gains and losses, even if Qi Tianyou and her ex have a meal, she will feel that she is not dealing with it.

After that, it was even more because of a shadowless thing that qi Tianyou suspected that Qi Tianyou was unfaithful to his feelings, which also touched Qi Tianyou's bottom line, making Qi Tianyou particularly weak, thus making the feelings that could have been lived well to break down.

The writer Joseph Rue said:

"Trust is an important air of friendship, and how much this air decreases, how much friendship will disappear accordingly."

A good partnership, the minimum of trust is still to have.

Only when two people can pay a certain amount of trust, then they can get along with each other easily, so that the feelings will not be rifted by some unnecessary things.

Wang Zengqi said:

"The family sits idly by, and the lights are lovely."

The greatest happiness in life is that the husband and wife sit around a table of fragrant meals, nagging at home and imagining the future.

For the rest of your life, may you learn to let go of these three things and embrace the warmest happiness.

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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.