I have a good friend whose parents divorced when she was eight years old, and then she lived with her mother, perhaps because it was not easy to understand her mother, my friend has always been very well-behaved and sensible, but after getting along with her for a long time, she will also find weaknesses in her personality.
The friend now has his own family and has a cute son, who looks chubby and very cute, but the son's personality is very similar to hers, weak and stage-afraid.
Like going to an amusement park to play, there are a lot of toys, my son does not dare to line up every time, even if he gets it himself, he will be snatched away by other children.
In addition, when I went to pick him up at the kindergarten, I could always hear the teacher say:
"I'm sorry, mother of the child, today other children accidentally bumped into him, and the knee broke the skin",
"When playing outdoors, other children's balls accidentally hit him"
Although these do not sound like a big deal, but the number of times, as a parent will always feel very awkward, why their children will always be bullied by others?
My friend's mother-in-law, a former elementary school teacher, came to help take care of the children after learning about her grandson's condition
In the face of the arrival of the mother-in-law, the friend was very happy, thinking that the mother-in-law was an experienced teacher, and there must be something to change the status quo of the son.
Sure enough, only half a year, the child and the previous comparison has obvious changes, once, the friend took his son to play with the slide, at the beginning, only the son was playing alone, after a while, came a few boys older than him, these children soon occupied the slide, and said to the son, let him go.
The next reaction of the son made the friend stunned, the son said to the boys: "This is a public slide, I came first, why let me go, my mother is still here", several children looked at the momentum of the son "not good", plus the friend was still standing on the side, so a cigarette ran away.
Since then, the friend has found that his son has changed really much, and he is no longer afraid and withdrawn when he encounters things, but bravely expresses his thoughts, and the whole person looks cheerful and lively.
The change of the son can be said that the mother-in-law is indispensable, for the better growth of the child, so just like the mother-in-law asked for advice, how to guide the child, the mother-in-law said: "Cultivate the characteristics of the grandson's "not easy to mess with", by doing 2 things, you can also learn the method"
First, let the child be brave and bold to express his feelings
Like, dislike, hurt, want to play, don't want to play... These are the feelings that children will have in their daily lives, but not all children will express their feelings.
If the child is not good at expression, just sullen, parents, teachers, small partners can not know his true thoughts, then for the child over time some behaviors may become "bullying", which is very unfavorable for the growth of the child.
Once, I was playing with my own children and other children. At first, they were very happy, but after a while, they saw their children standing on the side and pouting.
After asking him, he realized that he didn't really want to play the current game, but he didn't express his thoughts, and the other children had already played it.
After listening, I encouraged him to speak his mind boldly, and after a short hesitation, he still said his thoughts, and after a while the children changed to other games.
I believe that many mothers have experienced such a problem, and the child cannot integrate into the group, as if he is isolated, but he cannot think of any good way to solve it.
To change this situation, we can only let the child be brave enough to speak his mind, because people need to communicate with each other.
Second, teach children the knowledge of bullying prevention and self-protection
Children's cognitive level and social experience are much lower than those of us adults, which also determines that they need constant guidance.
But it is more verbal guidance and education, children can not deeply understand, it is difficult to use this knowledge.
Then we may wish to use a more attention-grabbing picture to intuitively perceive the storyline.
What I read to my children is the "Anti-Bullying Education Picture Book", which not only has text to tell, but also has a large number of pictures to help children learn to refuse, bravely face difficulties, overcome fears, and protect themselves in the form of stories.
What if the child encounters something being robbed, what to do if he is bullied by his classmates, etc., the problems encountered by the child in the process of growing up, this book will tell.
Every time after reading this book with my children, I will also move the story to reality, play the bad guy myself, imitate the bad guy to bully the child, and let the child use the methods learned in the book to protect themselves, the effect is very good.
There are eight books in this set, each with a different theme, teaching children to resist bullying, learn to protect themselves, learn to socialize, and be a brave and powerful child.
If you are also for the child is often bullied by others but do not know how to be good, then please accompany the child to read this set of books, I believe that your children will have different changes, and the price of this set of books is also very close to the people A McDonald's money can be easily taken home ~ ~~