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Everyone thinks that having a companion in the old age is a happy thing, after all, with someone to accompany, life will not be lonely, encounter problems can also be shared together, life will be much more fulfilling. However, in reality, there are very few remarried couples who can live happily, because many elderly people are self-centered, only consider their own interests, and are not willing to pay.
Uncle He, 63, poured out: "I really think it is best for the old man not to get married again, there are words of suffering in life after marriage, and I am regretting it every day." "Why does Uncle He have such a thought?" Let's take a look at his story.
Self-narrator: Uncle Ho
I am 63 years old and this year is my third year of retirement from my employer. Although I get a pension every month, I still choose to find another job. It's not because I'm short of money to spend, but I want to find a job to pass the time.
My wife and I met through blind dates, I only met once before marriage, people at that time were more shy, and I didn't dare to look at my wife that day, so I didn't know what she looked like. Until the day of the wedding, I didn't know what my wife really looked like, when we first got married, we lived a life of respect and respect, both of them were more polite, and then after a long time, they slowly became acquainted, and the feelings got better and better every day.
My wife and I only have one son, and when my son grows up, he works in other cities and usually has his own life, and rarely comes back to see us. At that time, I didn't feel anything, after all, with my wife with me, my life would not be too lonely. But just a year before I retired, my wife died of a sudden illness, leaving me alone.
After retirement, my life was not so good, my son once proposed to let me live in his house, I am very grateful to my son for this filial piety, but I do not want to go to my son's house to live. Because my relationship with my daughter-in-law is very general, my daughter-in-law especially dislikes me, before they both went home to live, every time the daughter-in-law behaved particularly disgusted, and it was not very good for me, so I did not want to go to my son's house to see my daughter-in-law's face life.
It is very good to retire in your own home, but it is too lonely, and usually there is no one to talk to. That's why I'm going to get a job, so my life will be busy and I won't be bored all day. Later I found a job as a fitness coach, in fact, I did not find this job because of coincidence, I have always had a habit of fitness, I also got a card in the gym near our home, and when I have time, I will go to the gym to exercise.
When I went to the gym that day, I saw a job posting in the gym, and I paid attention to it and found that the gym was recruiting elderly fitness instructors. It was simply a doze when someone handed me a pillow, I was going to look for a job, the gym was hiring, and my conditions were still very suitable. So I went to the interview, and after two rounds of interviews, I officially became a member of the gym.
I'm really happy, I didn't expect to be a fitness instructor in my lifetime, and I'm proud of myself. Because the requirements of the elderly fitness coach are not high, my usual work is still relatively relaxed, and I can cope with it, and I don't feel hard at all.
My clients are also elderly, most of them are very talkative, and some have become friends with me. One of them, a customer named Lao Xiao, was particularly good with me, and when I was not at work, he often asked me to go to his house to play, and the two of us really had a special relationship. Later, Lao Xiao's wife wanted to introduce me to an old wife, and I was very happy in my heart at that time, after all, a person's life is really not easy, and having a wife in his old age will be happier.
After getting my consent, my hometown wife introduced me. The blind date was named Li Hong, who was three years younger than me and was 60 years old this year. Li Hong also has only one son, his son works in the field, the family affairs are decided by the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law is not willing to live with Li Hong, so Li Hong did not go to her son's home for the elderly.
It is more comfortable to live by herself, but she still feels that there is no dependence, so Li Hong wants to find a wife. At this point, the two of us were on the same page, and it felt like the two of us were really fit. But after all, this is a big event in life, so I think it is still not too hasty, and I have to understand it for a while before making plans.
Li Hong felt the same way, so we both planned to start with the object first. When we were dealing with each other, Li Hong was very kind to me, very caring, often came to the house to help with housework, I really felt that she was a very good woman. Li Hong also does not covet my money, when I usually buy things for her, she has been refusing, and rarely spends my money.
I really felt that Li Hong was a person who could live a life, so we both got a license after a few more months together. We have been remarrying for half a year now, and at the beginning, I was quite satisfied with our married life, but now I regret it all the time, and I feel that such a life is really a bitter word.
When we first got married, Li Hong told me that housework didn't need me, a big man, to worry about, and there was nothing to do at home, she could do it herself. So I was happy, but I also gave my salary at the gym to Li Hong for safekeeping, and the money was used for our living expenses.
I usually give Li Hong some pocket money, each time to give hundreds and a thousand, her money to buy clothes is also from me, adding up to two or three thousand dollars spent on Li Hong in a month. After all, Li Hong has taken care of the family life so well, and I should also be kind to her, so that she will be more willing to live with me.
Later, Li Hong told me that the money at home should still be kept by her, so it would be more convenient, and she would not always have to ask me for money. People say that even if you remarry, even if you are happy, you should not hand over your savings, so that life can be guaranteed. But I still have a lot of trust in Li Hong, and these days I still decided to give one of the cards to Li Hong for safekeeping, and Li Hong probably has 100,000 yuan.
After Li Hong took the card, she re-applied for another card and transferred all the money to the new card. At the time, I didn't think there was anything wrong with it, anyway, Li Hong was my wife, I had already handed her the card, and she had no problem keeping it anyway.
But then I found out that my approach was wrong, Li Hong would take 2,000 yuan from it every month to help her son pay off the mortgage, this matter has always been hidden from me, if not once I saw her transfer record, then I may have been hidden in the drum.
And Li Hong would go to her son's house every week, and every time she passed, she would spend a lot of money, buy a lot of things in the past, and the money spent was also mine. There are so many times like this that I can't possibly not mind. Although the two of us are husband and wife, we should not take my money to subsidize her son.
What's more, the other party is not my own son, and I do not have this responsibility and obligation to subsidize him. So I hoped that Li Hong would not do this again, but Li Hong said that since I was married to her, I should treat her son as my own child, and I could not be so stingy. I think Li Hong is really double standard, she asked me to treat his son as her own son, but her attitude towards my son is very general, when my son comes back, Li Hong's attitude is very cold, and will not prepare a hearty meal.
Later, I planned to get the card back, but Li Hong didn't give it to me at all, and said that what she gave it to her was hers. I want to divorce Li Hong is not willing, she said that getting married is a lifelong thing, and she will live with me in the rest of her life. And she's not as diligent as she used to be, I used to come home from work and have a hot meal, but now when I get home, I have to cook my own food, and most of the housework is done by me.
I really regret that I originally thought that remarrying was a happy thing, and it turns out that my life is not as good as when I was single. I think it is best for the elderly not to marry again, and a person's life is happier.
Write at the end
It is not that remarriage is necessarily unhappy, but remarried couples in life are nine times out of ten unhappy, because many people only care about their own lives, as long as they live well, do not consider each other's interests at all, too selfish marriage is absolutely impossible to live happily.
In fact, there is no need for the elderly to remarry, they will live a better life will be happier, and remarriage may only add to their troubles.