Recently received a private message, after reading it, I was deeply touched, especially the woman's last sentence: "Some people live, just like they die!" ”
It can be seen how disappointed this woman is in her marriage.
So, what the hell is going on, getting a woman to say something like that, let's take a look.
Married for 5 years, never thought we would have today
My husband and I belong to free love, to be precise, I took the initiative first, and my current husband actually talked about a boyfriend.
But my family objected, and eventually I had to break up with my boyfriend, who didn't insist on it at the time, after all, there was no capital to resist.
Everyone knows that getting married in China, if there is no blessing from parents, and if the two people are not very independent, they have basically broken up recently.
At that time, because of my sadness, I went to a new place to work, that is, when I worked at a new company, I met my current husband.
They both feel good about each other, and their parents agree that although the husband's family is worse than their own, these are not big deals.
Less than a year later, my husband and I got married, and I quickly became pregnant with a child, and after I got pregnant in October, I gave birth to a princess smoothly.
It was also from the birth of this child that my conflict with my husband began to increase, and it felt like the child was like I was alone.
As long as I don't call him, my husband will never take the initiative to take the handle, and even sometimes I ask him to help, and my husband is also procrastinating.
Because of the children, we gradually had a lot more quarrels, but we never quarreled with any results, and the endless quarrels bored me.
When I was in love, I thought we would always be happy, even when we got married, I thought so, but I never thought that we would have such a day.
The child became me alone, and he was like a dispensable transparent person
We bought a house, and the pressure grew, and the monthly mortgage was like a mountain overhead, and the two of us had to work hard for it.
However, every time I came back from work, the child was still a matter for me alone, and my husband never took the initiative to take the handle.
The husband not only does not care about the problem of children, but also does not care much about the affairs of the family, such as the dishes we bought together are placed at the door, and the husband does not know how to take the initiative to bring it into the kitchen.
To be honest, remind me every time, it's really not interesting, and I have to say it a little bit annoyingly.
Maybe my husband is a little annoyed, because sometimes even if I call him, he won't do it, the family seems to be my own, the children have become my own, he seems to be a dispensable person.
The game became the husband's "job" and the family became a burden
Finally, the day before yesterday, we had the fiercest argument since we got married, and the cause was that my menstrual leave was coming, and the painful menstruation was my old problem, and I couldn't get up in bed in pain.
The child somehow cried on the side, it was very painful for the child to cry more annoyed, it is estimated that the child is hungry in the morning, so he let the husband take the child to feed some breakfast.
But the husband said that there was something wrong, and then there was no follow-up, in fact, the husband had nothing to do, but a person playing a game next door.
Playing games is a husband's day, just as essential as sleeping, every time I talk about him, he retorts that he is tired and can't play the game to relax, see and say not move, and then simply go with him.
Although I didn't look at the time, I felt that it should have been five minutes later, the child was still crying, crying a little breathlessly, I really didn't have the strength to get up, and I scolded madly on the bed.
Perhaps sensing my anger, he did not continue to play the game, came to the room to take the child out, and said a word before leaving, meaning that I delayed his "work", he was "busy" all morning, and I still had to trouble him.
Some people live as if they were dead
Hearing him say this, I don't know where the strength came from, I propped myself up, and began to roar at him, and we broke out the fiercest quarrel since we got married.
A lot of things in the house were broken, and if it wasn't for seeing me sitting on the bed, he probably wanted to do something to me.
Maybe I poked him in the pain, he was extremely angry today, my request is actually very simple, let him take the child for a day.
However, he immediately called his mother-in-law, asked her to quit her current job, and then gave him a child at home, saying that I did not want to take the child.
To tell the truth, I was really amused by his actions, and I was not responsible for finding my own mother, what a man.
Some people, living as dead, are dispensable.
Mushroom said: People say that they are not persuaded to leave, but to you, I really advise you to leave early, such a man, what is the meaning of such a marriage?
In fact, the problems encountered by this woman are also the problems encountered by many middle-aged couples.
Life is stressful, car loans, mortgages, foreign debts to repay, children to raise, there are families to support.
However, there is a big problem in the relationship between husband and wife, and even one of them is unwilling to take on family responsibilities, a bit evading their own responsibilities.
Many people encounter such problems, most of them choose to bear it themselves, after all, today, it is not easy to want a divorce and there is no courage.
In fact, you should show some courage, the divorce should be divorced, and you can't exchange the gratitude of the other party for the whole thing, and all you get is to become more intense.
At the same time, this also reminds many people that before marriage, we must have a good understanding of each other's character, do not care about what material conditions, and do not enter marriage because of a momentary blind impulse.
Many times we are disappointed in marriage because the other party does not treat themselves the way they want, which is simply that the other party gives what they want.
Female writer Yu Qian in "Marriage, Are You Lonely?" it is written:
"What is the loneliest thing about marriage? It's not that there isn't this person in the first place, but there is this person, and he doesn't have to treat you the way you expect. ”
In fact, the reason why many couples are disappointed in marriage is that their needs cannot be met, or that what the other party gives to themselves is not what they need.
What kind of attitude should we use to look at and treat our marriage? Maybe this book can give you some thoughts and inspiration.