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In the TV series "Heart Residence", there are two pairs of fairy companions, of course, it may also be two pairs of mandarin ducks with bitter fate.
One pair is Gu Xin and Ge Yue.
Ge Yue's father was a deputy department-level cadre with heavy power, and when the two of them got married, they bought a big house in the best area.
Both of them, both personal prospects and family backgrounds, are enviable.
The other pair is Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan.
They were the first love of their childhood, and they had been waiting for each other to appear without getting married.
Twenty years later, a lover finally became a love, which is simply a fairytale love.
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However, these two pairs have a common small regret, that is, although the relationship between the two people is good, the parents are not very satisfied.
Gu Xin's ex-girlfriend has the height of a model, which is the capital that Gu's mother brags about to others.
Compared with Gu Xin's predecessor, Ge Yue really did not have an advantage in appearance, and it was only after hearing about Ge Yue's prominent family situation that Gu Yue's mother accepted their relationship.
And when the father-in-law had an accident, Gu Mu began to show all kinds of dissatisfaction in her heart, and it was in front of Ge Yue.
Of course, Ge Mu is not a fuel-saving lamp, and seeing that her daughter has been wronged, she simply pointed out the words directly.
She told Gu Xin: You climbed us high, if it wasn't for her daughter's liking, we could find a better one than your son-in-law with our eyes closed.
The biggest resistance between Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan comes from Shi Yuan's mother, the daughter of this declining family, who has been immersed in the glory of the past and looks down on Gu Qingyu, who once rented his own house.
When Gu Qingyu visited the door after marriage, Shi Mu gave various faces in person, constantly making things difficult, and also made an appointment with the old friend who had just returned to China to visit his relatives, and told Gu Qingyu that Shi Yuan and the daughter of the old friend were engaged to a doll.
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Their parents played a negative role in the marital relationship, what should the parties do?
Although Gu Xin has been opposing his mother's extremely impolite and disrespectful words, most of them only passively explain and do not stop her from continuing.
Even in the face of the mother's unreasonable request to let them move back in, they did not directly refuse from the position of their wives, but said that they should "consider it".
And Ge Yue may have been heartbroken, when her mother "reciprocally retaliated" against Gu Xin, she, who had always been gentle and considerate, actually chose not to speak.
Ge Mu's words that hurt people's self-esteem made Gu Xin greatly stimulated and went out drunk.
In contrast, Shi Yuan's position in the face of his mother's difficulties against his wife is much clearer.
He said to his mother: "I married Qingyu, not a momentary impulse, nor is it a picture of her, I really like her, God is pitying me, more than twenty years before I let me meet her again, she is so good to me, so good that I don't know what to do, I also want to treat her well, live with her well, Qingyu is now my wife, you embarrass her, is to embarrass me!" ”
After saying that, turn your head and go, push the door and go!
This touched Gu Qingyu, who was standing outside the door and just heard all this.
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In marriage, it is already difficult for two lovers to be happy, and it is even more difficult to make both parents completely satisfied.
But people with level, city government, and culture, who know how to respect others, will put dissatisfaction in their hearts, and will not say it on their lips or bring it out on their faces.
For example, Father Gu and Father Ge did a good job.
Their hearts may not be very satisfied, but since the two people are together, they must maintain everyone's faces and look forward.
Because they understand that expressing dissatisfaction will not only not help, but also hurt the children's marriage.
Of course, not every parent is so qualified, if parents really say something inappropriate and do something inappropriate, what should we do?
I think Shi Yuan's approach is the most correct.
The ambiguous attitude will only cause a rift in the feelings of the two people, and standing on the side of the lover to maintain him can make the hearts of the two people closer.
From the bullet screen of netizens, we can also see that everyone is not optimistic about the future of Gu Xin and Ge Yue.
Although Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan experienced that unpleasant family banquet, And Shi Mu's attitude did not improve, the feelings of the two people were still sweeter than honey.
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When love encounters the "negative energy" of your parents, your attitude determines the direction of marriage.
In life, there may not be many extremes like on TV, but it is common for parents to be dissatisfied with your other half and even perform.
At this time, we must be like Shi Yuan, firmly stand on the other half's side and show our attitude.
My other half can't be bullied, not even by my parents.
Even if the whole world looks down on you, I will regard you as a treasure in the palm of my hand and maintain your dignity and dignity.
Because, to maintain each other is to maintain oneself, to maintain one's own marriage, and to maintain one's own happiness.
Pearl Whisper, from the dual perspective of teachers and parents to look at education, to answer the educational confusion of adolescents and parents.