In this life, until the end of life, no one knows what kind of life they may face.
Despite all the presuppositions you make about happiness, you can't resist the ruthlessness of reality. In the world of feelings, nothing is set in stone, like tomorrow and the unexpected, and you don't know which one will come first.
You may want to manage it with your heart, or let it go, but in marriage, not everything can be controlled by yourself.
When you are young, you feel that love is greater than the sky, as long as you are with the person you love, you will be able to be happy until you are old, but after living, you find that sometimes what you desperately want to hold may not be able to achieve your wishes.
Human life is not enough, and feelings are changing at any time. Although everyone longs for a lifetime of cherishing and always being with them, the reality may not be satisfactory.
Some women dedicate their youth and love to their lovers and families, but they encounter betrayal in the middle; some women have the determination to grow old with a white head, but their partners have left themselves first because of illness or accidents...
Where is everything going well in life? Women over fifty years old, if divorced or widowed, do they still need to find a wife to accompany them for the rest of their lives?
Different women have different opinions on this issue, but no matter how they choose, they all feel sober in the world.
@55-year-old Aunt Zhang divorced
Aunt Zhang divorced ten years ago because of her husband's betrayal. Women after the age of forty, youth has passed away, plus Aunt Zhang usually does not like to spoil herself, no matter the figure or face is not as good as those young and flamboyant women.
And men after the age of forty, it is the most attractive time in life, calm and mature, have a certain economic foundation, usually add more bets and exercise, it is easy to attract the attention of young women.
Aunt Zhang did not drag mud and water when she divorced, in her words, what is the use of keeping a person whose heart is not on herself? Instead of seeking perfection and serving each other's food and living, it is better to be different and wide.
She let go of Liso, her ex-husband was not stingy in the division of property, and Aunt Zhang got two houses and hundreds of thousands of dollars in savings. She also has a nine-to-five job of her own, and it's enough to have children.
Although after the divorce, a person with a child has no dependence, but on the other hand, Aunt Zhang has also been relieved, no longer have to suffer from gains and losses, worry about the other party's late return to wine, do not have to worry about his body, only to manage themselves and children is enough.
The child soon went to college, and Aunt Zhang was still young, and she could ask one or two close friends to travel on holidays, and usually idle at home to make tea and bake, either alone or invite friends to the door.
Life was simple and comfortable, and she enrolled herself in dance classes and Chinese painting classes, which she wanted to learn when she was young but did not have time to be distracted.
She said that after the divorce, no one introduced herself to the object, but compared with the days before and after the divorce, Aunt Zhang said that she would rather be single alone than serve others anymore.
In a few years, her son will start a family, and she will be able to help with the children and enjoy the joy of the world. If you find another wife, what kind of life you will live is really difficult to say.
Instead of betting on an unknown rest of your life, it is better to maintain the status quo and at least live the life you want.
I have to say that Aunt Zhang also has the capital to say such things, and her material foundation and self-confidence determine her choice.
@Ms. Li 52 years old
Everyone wants to catch happiness and never let go for a lifetime. But sometimes, a lot of things aren't something you can expect.
Two years ago, Ms. Li's husband died unexpectedly in a car accident, and her sky seemed to collapse, and she suddenly couldn't find the purpose of life. Fortunately, the daughter has grown up, but in the end, she is not as caring as her wife.
The daughter has her own career and friends, it is impossible to spend energy on her all day, Ms. Li often feels lonely, she does not dare to think about how lonely her daughter would be in this huge house if she got married.
However, although lonely, Ms. Li does not want to find a wife casually, although her daughter does not object. Young people are open to life and death, but Ms. Li is an old idea, and she prefers to follow her heart.
If she could really meet a man who was as sincere to her as her wife, maybe she would consider it. But if not, she doesn't force it. After all, don't go through the twists and turns, where can you go smoothly?
A person's life is not easy, but it is better to let yourself fall into the depths of the water for the rest of your life.
@Aunt Lin is 61 years old
When Aunt Lin divorced, she had just retired. She never thought that at this age, her wife insisted that she would not go on, and he would pursue his second spring.
Their marriage is also tragic, arranged by their parents, and the two have no emotional basis. My wife belongs to the kind of person who is more cultured, and she has not read many books.
For most of their lives, both of them have come through constant friction, thinking that they will live like this for a lifetime. But I didn't expect my wife to say that the rest of my life is not long, and I want to live for myself for a few years.
Although Aunt Lin was unwilling, but she could not resist her wife's determination, the children also advised her to let go, nest for a lifetime, and enjoy more blessings for the rest of her life, so as to be worthy of herself.
Aunt Lin didn't understand it, but when she thought of living alone in a suite from now on, her heart was not a taste.
After the two divorced, his wife actually did not remarry, and when he had a headache and brain fever, Aunt Lin still took care of him as before.
Speaking of which, divorce for Aunt Lin seems to be two people who do not live in a suite, and if they want to quarrel, they have to take a few bus stops to find it.
Regarding whether to look for a wife in the future, Aunt Lin said that she had served her ex-husband all her life and did not want to be a nanny anymore. After all, if a woman remarries at this age, most of the people she is looking for are older than herself.
Instead of going to a stranger's house as a maid and looking at other people's faces everywhere, it is better to maintain the status quo, have time to see her ex-husband, cook for him, after all, the two still have two children, no feelings and affection.
A situation like Aunt Lin's is not unique, and can only make people sigh.
After a woman is over fifty years old, do she still need to find a wife?
Different situations have different answers, but without exception, women care more about feelings.
If not, it would be better to be lacking than indiscriminate. After working hard for most of his life, in his old age, who does not want to be able to live more easily.
If you can meet a wife who knows cold and knows how to hurt yourself, it is okay, if the other party disguises, it will only put yourself into a more embarrassing situation.
Instead of pinning the rest of his life on an unknown man, it is better to rely on himself and his children, which is his strongest dependence.
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