Mr. Qian Zhongshu is a great talent who has learned to be rich in five cars, and many people know Qian Zhongshu, all of which originate from his famous novel "Siege of the City", which is humorous and witty, full of wisdom between the lines, a sentence "Marriage is like a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city want to come out", but also the subtlety of the marriage relationship.
However, Qian Zhongshu himself is a high-ranking person who was not born in the world, and some people admired Qian Zhongshu after reading "The Siege" and wanted to visit Qian Zhongshu, but Qian Zhongshu refused to meet with them, mr. Qian Zhongshu said, "If you think an egg is delicious, you don't necessarily have to go to see the old hen that laid the egg."
For many people, Qian Zhongshu's life is a mystery, but after Qian Zhongshu's death, his wife Mr. Yang Dai's "The Two of Us" depicts for us what Qian Zhongshu looks like in life.
After reading the book "The Two of Us", many readers are envious of the beautiful love between Qian Zhongshu and Yang Chen, thinking that the two of them can do it from love at first sight to white-headed and old, and must be a fairy companion with a soul fit, and Qian Zhongshu's words to his wife, "From now on, we only have to die and have no birth and separation", which reflects the attachment and respect of this talented son to his wife.
Why can the love between Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai last forever and remain fresh forever? We may be able to find out from the book "The Two of Us".
In my opinion, the reason why the love between Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai can be happy and long-lasting is because the two of them are spiritual partners who are soul-matched.
First, a good love relationship requires a couple of two people and three views to coincide.
In a happy and stable love relationship, the two couples need to be equal in thinking and equal in knowledge, only in this way can they get along harmoniously in life.
Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai were in love at first sight, both of them were born in Shuxiang Mendi, and they were attracted to each other's temperament at the same time, so they came together and became a couple.
The two of them have a famous "one-word love letter" story, Yang Dai wrote a letter to Qian Zhongshu, there is only one "instigation" word on the letter, if it is a bystander, it must not understand the meaning of this word, but Mr. Qian Zhongshu understands, he also uses a "you" word to respond to Yang Dai.
It turned out that Yang Dai was mr. Qian Zhongshu, who was the person in your heart, and Qian Zhongshu's answer was that I only had you in my heart.
It is precisely because Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu have the same three views and a high degree of consistency of thought, so the love between the two of them can be happy and long-lasting.
Second, a good marriage relationship requires that the husband and wife tolerate and care for each other.
In the bland and trivial married life, even couples who love each other again will inevitably have contradictions because of trivial daily trifles, and only couples who love each other and know how to tolerate each other can make their marital relationship lasting.
Although Mr. Qian Zhongshu is an omniscient genius academically, he is an ignorant "idiot" in life, and it is precisely because Yang Dai can tolerate the shortcomings of her husband, so she can help her husband deal with trivial matters in life, so that her husband can concentrate on his academic research.
To what extent did Yang Dai take care of Mr. Qian Zhongshu? Once, Yang Dai was hospitalized due to illness, which made Mr. Qian Zhongshu feel helpless, he accidentally spilled ink on the sheets, and went to the hospital to ask his wife what to do? He inadvertently broke the lamp, and he would go to the hospital to ask his wife how to fix it.
As for her husband's question, Yang Dai replied: It doesn't matter, I can handle it when I go home, and when Yang Dai returns home, she really handles these trivial matters in an orderly manner.
It is precisely because Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu love each other, Yang Dai can tolerate Qian Zhongshu's ignorance in life, so the love relationship between the two of them can be happy and sweet.
Third, a good love relationship requires the soul of the couple to fit.
After Yang Dai and Mr. Qian Zhongshu married, the two of them jointly gave birth to a daughter, perhaps influenced by the living habits of their parents, and the daughter was also a diligent and studious person.
In the book "The Two of Us", Yang Dai said that the best time in her life was the years when the family of three read together, and although Mr. Qian Zhongshu was an "idiot" in life, academically, his knowledge was as vast as an encyclopedia.
When the family read together, Yang Dai and her daughter would always ask Mr. Qian Zhongshu for advice whenever they encountered problems that they did not understand, and Qian Zhongshu was always able to give them satisfactory answers in a timely manner.
Yang Dai admires Qian Zhongshu's academic achievements, while Mr. Qian Zhongshu relies on Yang Chen's care in life, and it is precisely because the two of them rely on each other and their souls fit, and the love relationship between them can always be happy.
A good love relationship is a soul fit, Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai seem to have a tacit understanding in life, so that the two of them can get along harmoniously, and no one can do without anyone.
The reason why Mr. Qian Zhongshu has been able to achieve great academic achievements is inseparable from the care given to him by his wife Yang Dai in life, and Yang Dai is willing to take care of Mr. Qian Zhongshu in life, which is also because she and Mr. Qian Zhongshu are soul-in-place and love each other.
Qian Zhongshu once gave his wife a very high evaluation: the most virtuous wife, the most talented woman, and every word written by Mr. Yang Dai in the book "The Two of Us" is full of admiration and love for Mr. Qian Zhongshu.
It is precisely because Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai's hearts are connected and difficult to leave, so the love between the two of them can be happy and sweet.