In the second part of "The Two of Us", Mr. Yang Dai describes the theme of "we are separated".
It's a story of compassion.
One day after dinner, Qian Zhongshu and Qian Yi's father and daughter were joking and joking as usual, but they received a sudden mysterious phone call. The next day, Qian Zhongshu was picked up by a car and went to Guyidao Hospital for medical treatment.
Yang Dai's mother and daughter could only travel back and forth between the strange ancient inn and the hospital, and carefully visited.
At this time, Qian Yu was admitted to Xishan Hospital because of lumbar spine pain. More than a year later, Qian Yi died of ineffective medical treatment. Then, Qian Zhongshu died the year after his daughter left.
The two of them were thus separated.
After we were separated, the home became an inn.
Qian Zhongshu's father and daughter were both hospitalized, and Mr. Yang Dai's dream traveled back and forth between the two places of the father and daughter. When her beloved daughter died, she felt her heart poke a little, bursting out a blood bubble, like eyes full of tears, all shedding tears. It's a kind of skin pain that a white-haired person sends a black-haired person.
She knew that Qian Zhongshu was trying to prolong her life at this time, deliberately walking slowly, letting her send her one way at a time, and trying to get together with her as much as possible. However, "the farther he went, the more afraid he would never see him again." This is the pain of compassion at the time of parting from the life of a loved one.
A family of three, two relatives have passed away one after another, leaving only their own 87-year-old lonely old age. Yang Dai felt that Sanlihe's home was no longer home, just her inn.
Life is a journey, perhaps we are all just young, have not considered the meaning of life, and cannot experience the kind of liver and intestines that Mr. Yang Dai separated from his relatives.
But our parents are old, do we think that one day our parents will leave us? Parents are our home. Parents are here, life still has a place to come, parents go, life is only the way home. Filial piety to parents should be done in time and early, and we should not begin to regret after they have left, "The son wants filial piety and the relatives are not there." ”
What is home? Home is a place that carries the joy of heaven.
We often think about the meaning of home. What is home? Home is a warm harbor that accommodates wandering souls; home is a tree like an umbrella, shielding the sun in the summer; home is a cool rain that blows away the tired dust; home is an eternal concern and treasures the stub of happiness.
Only when we have a stable and warm family can we win a beautiful and happy life. The source of "home" lies in the harmonious coexistence, mutual respect and love between husband and wife, and in the happiness of the family.
In the second part of "The Two of Us", Mr. Yang Dai recounts the daily life of the family of three: their breakfast is always made by Zhong Shu: milk black tea, egg bread, butter jam, prepared to Yang Dai's bed, the two eat together.
The daughter looked up recipes and learned to cook, bought fresh and tender meat carefully roasted in the oven, and coaxed her parents to eat and eat vegetables. In order to let them eat more, she sincerely thanked her parents.
Yang Dai always felt that she was careless in cooking, and she "made a wish" to her father and daughter: after retirement, she would "make up lessons", "pay off debts", and give them a meal of delicious dishes. The daughter denied it, and Zhong Shu questioned: Why should you do it? You retired, can you take a break?
It is in such a day of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, the husband is considerate of his wife, take the initiative to undertake the task of making breakfast, once done is a lifetime; the daughter is distressed by her parents, and do her best to prepare meals for her parents; the wife is sorry and wants to cook after retirement, but the father and daughter are unanimously opposed, but they do not want her to be too tired.
Think about our modern marriage, how many of them are defeated in the daily housework of prevarication, pretense, and live a life of quarrels and quarrels, a chicken feather?
Between husband and wife, the first thing is to be considerate and caring, mutual understanding and mutual accommodation, only by paying each other, can we treat each other with true feelings.
The three members of Yang Dai's family were reunited in the ancient Yidao, and even if they did not have to speak, they felt comfortable in their hearts.
Qian Yu will always be a pain in the heart of her parents. The daughter died with reluctance and concern for her parents, and her parents sensed her presence in their dreams, and Zhong Shu lamented her daughter and pitied his wife.
At the last moment, Zhong Shuqiang opened his eyes to look at his wife, and Yang Dai said: "You are tired, close your eyes, go to sleep." Zhong Shu told her, "Oh, good life," and then said goodbye.
This is the difference between Yang Chen's pen and the father and daughter: this love can be turned into a memory, which makes us moved, sad, tearful, and sighed.
Where the family is, it is a complete home. When the family is separated, the home is no longer home.
From the family relationship of Yang Dai's family of three, we feel more of their hearts and minds, dedication, closeness, and support each other. It is a selfless love, but also a warmth and happiness that we crave so much.
Can we learn something about how their families get along?
Some time ago we studied four books about family: "Intimate Relationship", "The Five Abilities of Love", "Family on the Hot Pot", and "Seven Journeys of Happy Relationships". Many people have learned from this, adjusted the mode of getting along with husband and wife, and improved the harmony of the relationship between husband and wife.
So, in the 63 years that Mr. Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu have been together, and in the changes in the historical changes and turbulent times, how did they achieve consistency, never abandon, and can be called a perfect marriage and a fairy couple?