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Chen Ming once mentioned in "Strange Story" that the best life is that a life of warmth and purity, not willing to love and freedom. This sentence is used to describe the life of Mr. Yang Dai, which is also very appropriate.
This talented woman of Qinghua in the Republic of China period, this old man who fought against fate across a century, after experiencing the grief of the widowed woman, can still rely on love and tenacity to walk through the world for more than 100 years, which is really impressive.
Mr. Yang Dai spent his life telling us what a better life is, and with a lifetime of time to tell us what is the blessing of life.
Whether it is the love between her and Qian Zhongshu's mountain flowing water, or the truest, kindest and most simple soul she left in the world, or her prose, sentence by sentence classic, she has left endless treasures for future generations.
By understanding her life, it is not difficult for us to understand that in this life, there is actually only one person who is closest to her, that is, herself. Only by getting along with oneself, relying on each other, and staying with each other can we not be defeated by the difficulties of life, and can we be worthy of heaven and earth at any time.
One: Be free with yourself and be free at all times
When everyone mentions Yang Dai, they inevitably think of her husband Qian Zhongshu, and even many people will feel that it is because Qian Zhong wrote the book "Siege of the City" that Yang Dai became famous together.
But in fact, this is not the case, the glory of Yang Dai's life is not only because she has become the "most virtuous wife", but also because at any time, she is always with herself, always the most talented woman.
With yourself, the most important thing is to unswervingly walk your own path, not to be lost in anything, and to make your own life choices wholeheartedly.
During the tsinghua study period, Yang Dai's teacher was Zhu Ziqing, who had already had works recommended to the "Ta Kung Pao" at a young age, and later returned to China from studying abroad, just by virtue of his hobbies, he wrote "Sincere Heart" and "Make False into True" and other popular scripts.
Although she is not a professional playwright, she also makes Yang Dai's talent fully displayed, and even the famous playwright Xia Yan watched her play and said:
"You all hold the money and books, but I want to hold Yang Dai!"
Yang Dai's whole life has been sticking to herself, even if she has the best love, she has never lost herself, and she is firmly getting along with herself, I am afraid that this is the main reason why she has sustenance in this life.
Two: Rely on yourself and have courage at all times
Even though Mr. Yang Dai, who lived happily in the first half of his life, lived happily and happily, he was born as a human being, and he always had to endure the pain of separation from life, old age, illness and death.
If you mention the biggest pain in Mr. Yang Dai's life, it is probably to witness the departure of her daughter and husband, as she writes in the book, and from then on, life is:
"I'm alone, I miss both of us."
In the face of the death of a loved one, it may be a devastating blow for anyone, but in Mr. Yang Chen, we can see her long mourning, we can see her endless misses, but we can't see a little bit of grief, and we can't read a single compromise.
She used that lonely and brave old age to tell us that she had the courage to be dependent on herself at all times.
After Qian Zhongshu left, Yang Dai processed the manuscript he left behind little by little, and reunited with her husband in the text. Refused all visits, and carefully recalled the past, bit by bit, one by one, one by one, he wrote down those warm pasts, leaving behind the masterpiece "The Two of Us".
Man is a sensual and amorous animal, and who can not be sad in the face of great grief. But after the sadness, the brave people will still face life, just like Mr. Yang Dai, rely on themselves and embrace the courage to live.
Three: Stay with yourself and never be alone at any time
After experiencing the death of her daughter and husband, Mr. Yang Dai lived alone until the age of 105 before passing away, and in the last twenty years of her life, she stayed with herself and accompanied by words, although the flesh was lonely, the spirit was always abundant.
In her heart, her husband and daughter are always there, and in her eyes, words and beliefs are immortal.
When people are old, in the face of inexplicable loneliness, it is very important to have the strength to face them. At this point, Mr. Yang Has always admired one of Plato's views: the soul is immortal.
Although the flesh is old, a person's spirit can always maintain a youthful posture, and when you have this mentality, even the long loneliness is not unbearable, because you can always stay with yourself.
Centenarians are rare, and even fewer are those who can maintain a clear mind and cognition after a hundred years of age.
Yang Dai has a simple life and a noble soul, this biography of Yang Dai, "The Biography of Yang Dai", writes through her life and is worthy of our careful study and taste.
Mr. Yang Dai has written a warm and profound story with her life, and used her personal experience to tell us that in this life, people can rely on themselves to get the greatest salvation, live well, love themselves well, and live a high-quality life.
As in the TV series "The World of Man", Bingyi said: "The most important thing is not the length of life, but the quality." ”
Loving yourself is the only choice to increase the thickness of life.
Yang Dai's book "The Two of Us", written in her nineties, hides the best way for a woman to live in her life, no matter what stage of life you are in, you can feel the strength of her heart and the wisdom of life.
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