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"We were so eager for the waves of fate, and in the end we found out that the most beautiful scenery of life is the calmness and calmness of the heart...
We have been so eager for outside recognition that in the end we know that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. ”
This wonderful quotation by Mr. Yang Dai in "One Hundred Years Old Testimonial" is not only her life perception in the past century, but also the most profound wisdom she has left to future generations.
In Mr. Yang Chen's body, we seem to be able to see the best appearance of a woman. She is Qian Zhongshu's "most virtuous wife" and the "most talented woman" from the Republic of China to the present, no matter what kind of achievements, it is a huge treasure left to future generations.
In addition, her life experience also gives us the greatest inspiration in terms of human sophistication and treatment of people and things.
Looking back at Mr. Yang Dai's life, it is like a noble and elegant tulip, no matter when you can't see her dejected appearance. And she also used her experience and values to tell us that there is only one most beautiful posture for women, that is, calm and calm.
One: Calm and calm, which means not afraid of people's words
In life, if you care too much about the eyes and evaluations of others, then life will be very difficult. As Mr. Yang Dai wrote in "One Hundred Years Of Testimonials":
"You are determined to be an honest person who has no quarrel with the world, and people will use you to bully you." If you have a little talent and moral character, people will be jealous of you and exclude you. If you give in generously, people will invade you and harm you.
If you don't have to fight with others, you have to have nothing to ask for from the world, and at the same time you have to maintain your strength and prepare for struggle. If you want to live peacefully with others, you must first deal with them, and you must be prepared to suffer losses at any time. ”
Living in such an era, it is really difficult to be confident and Thaksin at the same time.
As human beings, we must admit that we are doomed not to get all the likes. So instead of complaining about what you can't do, save some time and energy to treat yourself well.
The key to happiness in life depends on your own choices.
In the novel "The Distant Savior", there are a few words that are very profound:
"If you don't understand you, you don't have to prove it, and if you don't understand you, you don't need to prove it."
Indeed, in one lifetime, it is already a great fortune to be understood by so many people, do not try to get the approval of everyone, but learn to take the initiative of happiness into your own hands.
Second: Calm and calm, means self-improvement and tenacity
If we talk about the loneliness and hardships of life, I am afraid that Mr. Yang Dai has the most right to speak.
In her old age, she first experienced the pain of sending black haired people to white haired people, watched her daughter die, and then experienced her husband Qian Zhongshu, who was in harmony with her own heaven, and suddenly passed away.
In the next twenty years of her life, her life was lonely and lonely, only the manuscript left by Qian Zhongshu as a companion, only her interest in words did not change.
Standing tall and hanging from each other, this is the best portrayal of Mr. Yang Dai's later years.
However, in the face of this grief of life and death, she did not sink because of this, but instead refused all visits, immersed herself in creation, focused on her career, pinned her sorrow and sorrow in words and memories, and wrote the famous book "The Two of Us".
When fate comes to a point where a special need comes, there is always one person who has to go first, and there is always one person who has to stay and endure a long period of loneliness. Although the person who stayed behind was pitiful, there was no need to lose morale.
Life is a practice, and before the practice is completed, you can only survive this obstacle by maintaining a calm and calm attitude. This attitude is a strength that fosters tenacity and fills you with strength.
Three: Calm and calm means living out value
The reason why a person feels hard and anxious is that he cannot find his true self, cannot hear the true voice of his heart, and cannot see his sincere desire. When you are at this stage, your heart is bound to feel anxious, so everything in the world feels lifeless.
However, a calm and calm person is just the opposite, because she has found her true self, so her every day is very exciting, and she is very much looking forward to every tomorrow, just like the "Legend of Wukong":
"I've been in this world, I've fought, I've loved."
Yohji Yamamoto also said:
"The ego is invisible, and it needs to constantly bump into something else and bounce back to understand itself." Collide with something very strong, something terrible, something of a high standard, and then you see yourself. ”
Indeed, a calm and calm person can not only find himself and become himself, but also be self-reliant and tenacious, survive suffering, and be more fearless and unswerving.
For women, the best posture in life is to maintain an inner peace at all times, so that calm and calmly blossom into a noble flower of life.
Mr. Yang Dai is one of the few people in the mainland who is called Mr. Yang, and her life is an elegant life and a life worth learning from women.
Recommend her classic books "We Both" and "Walk to the Edge of Life", together with her husband's classic work "Siege", after reading, you will have a new understanding of how women live exquisitely and elegantly.
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