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In the mother-in-law relationship, it is very important to have a daughter-in-law who knows ento. The reason why the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in many families is bad is not necessarily because the mother-in-law is not kind, but also because the daughter-in-law does not know how to compare hearts to hearts, only wants to get benefits, and does not want to have the slightest effort. If you are such a daughter-in-law, it will cause the in-laws to resent, and even ruin your originally happy marriage.
Tang Lei and his wife were in a divorce impasse, Tang Lei was extremely disappointed in his wife and insisted on divorce; his wife refused to divorce, repeatedly pestered at home, begging her husband to look at the child's face and give her another chance.
During the small talk, Tang Lei's mother, Aunt Jiang, told us what had happened.
Fourteen years ago, Tang Lei brought his girlfriend back to his hometown and decided to get married.
Although the height of the girls did not meet Aunt Jiang's expectations, but looking at her son's face, Aunt Jiang did not say much, and happily agreed to the marriage and began to handle the marriage for them.
The daughter-in-law put forward a request for marriage: "My salary with Tang Lei is not high, if you take a loan to buy a house, the pressure of life will be very large, so I ask your family to buy a house in full." As for the bride price, according to the standards of my hometown, I will give 80,000 bride price. Since I have an older brother, there may not be a dowry. ”
The full purchase of the house plus the 80,000 bride price is not a small amount, which is enough to empty all the savings of Tang Lei's parents. In order to let her son get married smoothly, Aunt Jiang agreed to the request of her daughter-in-law, took out all her savings to buy a wedding house for them in full, and also gave them a bride price, and gave them a wedding that made the woman's family very satisfied.
After their son got married, Tang Lei's parents still stayed in other places to continue working, ready to save a sum of money for themselves for the elderly. They made plans not to live with their sons and daughters-in-law to avoid family conflicts.
"I gave the bride what she should have; she wanted a marriage house, I bought it; she wanted to live in the world of two, and I agreed; she quarreled with my son and complained to me, and I gave her justice." I consider myself a qualified mother-in-law and have not treated her badly. ”
12 years ago, the daughter-in-law called Aunt Jiang and asked Her aunt to take care of her pregnant self and help with the child.
"I was very troubled at the time, to know that taking children is a very hard job, more tiring than working to make money, I don't necessarily have this energy." Besides, if I go to take the child, I can't work to make money, what should I do with the pension? ”
Knowing Aunt Jiang's concerns, the daughter-in-law patted her chest and promised: "As long as you bring me a child, I will give you a pension." From now on, you and your father will live with us and take care of the children. When you are old, I will serve you. ”
Listening to the daughter-in-law's assurance, Aunt Jiang reached an agreement with her wife, quit her job, moved to her son's house, and began a twelve-year career with a baby.
At a New Year's Day, the daughter-in-law gave a toast to her mother-in-law and thanked her mother-in-law for her care in front of everyone. At that time, she also made it clear in public that she would give Aunt Jiang and her wife a pension.
After living in her son's house for twelve years, Aunt Jiang's life was generally quite comfortable, but she was also a little dissatisfied in her heart, and complained to my mother: "Living with them is harder than working." Not only do I have to bring my grandchildren, but I also have to take care of the housework. After they got off work, my son was still quite intimate, knew how to take the initiative to clean up the housework, and the daughter-in-law either participated in socializing or lay in bed playing with her mobile phone, not to mention doing housework, and even tutoring children with homework was not happy. If I said a word or two from her, she would argue and make a fuss with my son and say that I treated her badly. ”
Becoming an old mother, which Aunt Jiang did not expect, but could only endure. However, what Aunt Jiang did not expect was that the daughter-in-law was actually a person who would rebel.
The little granddaughter is 8 years old and is attending elementary school, and after the grandchildren have gone to school, Aunt Jiang has become much more relaxed and has more time to enjoy her old age. At this time, the daughter-in-law saw that the burden brought by the child had been reduced a lot, and she began to have trouble.
The daughter-in-law first used the banner that the house was too small and too crowded, and repeatedly hinted that Aunt Jiang had moved out. After that, the daughter-in-law deliberately looked for aunt Jiang's wife's stubble and choked the father-in-law's anger. Tang Lei couldn't look at it and criticized his wife, but his daughter-in-law still refused to give up, denied his commitment to his mother-in-law's pension, and found his mother-in-law: "Mom, if you don't go back to your hometown, I will divorce." Rest assured, I'll give you a monthly alimony. When you are too old to move, I will find a good nursing home to send you over. ”
Listening to her daughter-in-law's words, Aunt Jiang was extremely disappointed and took out 3 things, namely a real estate certificate, a voice recorder and a divorce agreement.
"You seem to have forgotten that this house was bought by my wife and me in full, and it belongs to my son's pre-marital property. On the title deed, only the names of me and my wife were written. Therefore, you have no right to shake us off. When you publicly promised me a pension, my cousin recorded your promise with a voice recorder, and you wanted to rebel, and the relatives who witnessed it did not necessarily agree. As for the divorce agreement, my son has long been disappointed in you, wants a divorce, and has been stopping him for the sake of his children. Since you have done this to me, I will not stop you, you sign it! ”
After seeing the 3 things that her mother-in-law took out, Aunt Jiang's daughter-in-law panicked and kept begging her mother-in-law to forgive herself. Now, the two sides are at an impasse.
"Mom, if you don't go back to your hometown, I'll get a divorce", the mother-in-law took out 3 things, and the ending was reversed. Aunt Jiang's daughter-in-law did not know how to cherish her mother-in-law's kindness, rebelled, and pushed her marriage into a desperate situation. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law want to get along harmoniously, they must always think of each other's goodness, be grateful, and know how to repay the four words of peach and plum.
1, when you meet an unreasonable mother-in-law who always adds to your blockage, you refuse to honor her, which is the common sentiment of people;
You do the first year, I do the fifteenth, this sentence is very suitable to describe the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. People's hearts are all flesh, and whoever is good to you, you naturally have a scale in your heart. If you meet a bad mother-in-law, the marriage is not happy, you are resentful and unwilling to honor such a mother-in-law, that is the common sentiment of people, and people can understand it.
2, the mother-in-law treats you well, you have to treat her well, so that courtesy and exchange;
There is a saying on the Internet: "Meet a good mother-in-law, this woman must have saved the galaxy in her last life." Although this sentence is more exaggerated, for women, it is indeed your blessing to meet a good mother-in-law.
Blessings need to be maintained by actively operating on their own. The mother-in-law is good to you, treat you as a family, you must also treat the mother-in-law well, compare your heart to heart, and let her old age be guaranteed.
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