De Beauvoir: The great fortune of a man is that he has to take an extremely arduous path, whether as an adult or a child, but it is the most reliable path; the misfortune of a woman lies in being surrounded by almost irresistible temptations; she is not called upon to work hard, but is only encouraged to slide down to reach bliss. By the time she found herself fooled by the sea house, it was too late, and her strength had been exhausted in her failed adventure.
The above passage may be able to predict the result of women's insecure.
Some people will always instill in women the idea that women do better than marry; so why bother? It is better to find a rich man to marry; you work so hard, don't do it, I will raise you.
But can finding a rich partner or husband really be able to settle down once and for all?
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The "gold worshipper" wanted to pay a large sum of money, asking the man to give her 10,000 yuan of pocket money every month, and finally was intimidated by the straight male blind date and could not speak.
Ms. Guan, 27, is a 27-year-old professional who studies micro-plastic surgery and has an irregular salary. She wanted to find an object with eyes that matched her three views.
The red lady introduced her to Mr. Xu, 28, who has a house and a car, works in an auto parts company, and earns a monthly salary of 3,000 to 5,000 yuan. He wanted to find a filial, generous and decent girl.
Ms. Guan's first impression of Mr. Xu was not good, obviously without eye contact. And Mr. Xu thought she was very beautiful, so he fell in love.
The two talked about work problems, ms. Guan said that she was originally going to do micro-rectification, was a customer, went more times, and became good friends with the boss, she took her to learn together.
When Ms. Guan was asked if she had done a micro-finish, she admitted that she had hit hyaluronic acid on the nose and chin, but had not used the knife. Mr. Xu expressed his understanding, and girls love beauty.
The red lady asked the woman in the micro
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When it came to how much money she spent, she said she didn't spend much, three thousand to five thousand dollars each time. The male guest was a little confused, but said that he could accept that his girlfriend spent money on micro-finishing, because taking his beautiful girlfriend out had face.
Mr. Xu asked the woman what to do when she went out on holidays? Ms. Kwan said that in addition to making facial beautifications, she eats with friends and hangs out.
Subsequently, Ms. Guan began to test, saying that when she was in a relationship with her ex, she must know her ex's mobile phone and social software password, and she would delete all the people she did not know in her boyfriend's social networking software.
Who knows that Mr. Xu is willing to compromise, as long as the woman asks him in advance, he can accept it.
Ms. Guan said that she would look for someone with a staff or civil servant, but the man did not meet. Then she said she liked business and liked men who did business.
When the red lady asked her about the man's financial requirements, she said that she would give her 10,000 yuan of pocket money every month. Pocket money is the boy's two-month salary, but he did not give up, but said that he would try to meet the woman's request, but the woman still refused.
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The red lady introduced the 28-year-old Mr. Wang to the woman. He used to be an agent for an entertainment company with a variable income. He accepted that the woman had done a micro-finish.
Ms. Guan asked the man if he would give his girlfriend pocket money, and he said that he would give it, but the girl should still be self-reliant. Ms. Guan immediately said that she was self-reliant, and Mr. Wang immediately said that the woman could not always ask for gifts, because you were self-reliant.
Ms. Guan also did not accept defeat: "I earned my own self-reliance, and what you give me is your will." "The man said that if the woman would give him a gift, he would also give the woman a gift.
Red Niang began to do things, saying that Ms. Guan asked her boyfriend to give 10,000 yuan of pocket money every month, and Mr. Wang said, "By what?" Your current psychology is particularly like the feeling of unearned gain. ”
Ms. Guan said that her current salary is not enough to spend, so she will hope that her boyfriend will give her pocket money. Mr. Wang said that spending money should be done according to one's ability. The woman said that the ex would give her pocket money and gifts, and got used to it. The man asked, "Then why did you break up?" She was so intimidated that she could not speak.
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Sentiment Analysis:
(1) The relationship between marriage and material things
Gu Li has a line in the movie: "Love without material is just a scattered sand, no wind blowing, two steps will disperse."
I have to admit that in love and marriage, certain material conditions are indeed indispensable. But exactly how good the material conditions are needed is not certain.
Although Mr. Xu's monthly salary is not high, he has a house and a car, and the material conditions are OK, but for Ms. Guan, the man's conditions are not good, and he cannot provide her with superior living conditions.
In particular, ms. Guan's request for 10,000 yuan of pocket money per month is unacceptable to ordinary people, so it is true that rich people can meet her conditions.
For men of general condition, such girls are too material and realistic for them to bear. But Ms. Guan denies her materialism, because she feels that only men who are not capable enough will say that she is materialistic.
She said that she would give her pocket money on the basis of the feelings of the two people, but in the process of blind dates, how could she ever talk about feelings? It's more like talking about business.
(2) Women still have to be independent
Ms. Guan has a sentence that makes people playful, the predecessors will take the initiative to give her gifts and pocket money, which shows that the predecessors are rich people in business, in their eyes, ten thousand yuan per month pocket money is nothing. However, as Mr. Wang said, the man gave her pocket money, which must also be conditional.
As the saying goes, "If you want to be insufficient, give more than enough." ”
Men offer to give you money because they like you, but if you reach out and ask him for money, that's a different story. Not to mention that two people are meeting for the first time, and it is really inappropriate to directly ask for ten thousand yuan of pocket money.
Ms. Kwan also has the idea that she is very independent, but the man has to give her gifts and pocket money in order to express his heart. The man can send something or pocket money to the object, but there is a difference between active and passive.
She has an illusion that her predecessors are in business, and she spends money very generously, she thinks that she and they are the same kind of people, spending a lot of money, and the usual salary is not enough, so she will hope that the object will give her pocket money. Is this considered independence?
What if women choose rich people in order to improve their living conditions, but the other party is not willing to give you money? Are you looking for the next rich man or are you self-sufficient?
Women must work hard to make money on their own, constantly improve themselves, to be financially independent, not for anything else, just so that when you see what you like, don't worry about your wallet, not to mention look at other people's faces. After all, a life with the palms down is more dignified than a palm up life!
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