After giving birth, the mother goes through a confinement period of about 42 days, during which who will take care of the confinement becomes a problem. Today's young women mainly have two ideas, one is to let their mothers take care of confinement, especially those who do not handle the relationship with their mothers-in-law, this idea is particularly strong. Another is to let the mother-in-law take care of the confinement, and it is taken for granted that the mother-in-law is responsible for taking care of the confinement. As for which statement is more reliable, let's take a look.
Case: The mother-in-law is reluctant to serve the confinement, and the words of refusal are very straightforward, but they speak to the mother's heart
Xiao Chen had been thinking about who to take care of the confinement before giving birth, on the one hand, he hoped that his mother would take care of the confinement, but he felt that it was too troublesome for his mother. On the other hand, I thought of letting my mother-in-law take care of confinement, but my mother-in-law had her own job, so it was a little difficult for her to get out.
So Xiao Chen tried to discuss with her mother-in-law, "Mom, when I sit in confinement, you will put your work aside first, otherwise I really can't cope with the confinement period." As soon as Xiao Chen's mother-in-law heard this, she directly and bluntly refused, "That can't work, I definitely can't take care of your confinement, to tell the truth, your sister was confinement at that time, I didn't take care of it, I don't have this experience, I don't want to do it, the work is really busy." But I also plan well, when the time comes to give you ten thousand yuan, go to the sister-in-law, my mother also knows that confinement is not easy. ”
The mother-in-law's words were very blunt, Xiao Chen understood that the mother-in-law was unwilling to take care of the confinement, but the mother-in-law's words also spoke to her heart, she could understand the mother-in-law, and then the mother-in-law also personally ran to the confinement center and personally looked for candidates, which also made her very moved.
01 During confinement, who is the most suitable person to take care of confinement?
In response to this problem, some people say that it is a mother, because the relationship between the mother and the mother is closer, and it is better to open her mouth to the mother if she has any needs. Unlike the mother-in-law, who wants to eat something, or wants to go to the toilet, or wants her to help deal with lochia, these problems are not afraid to say after all. But if it is a mother, these questions will be relatively easier to open, and will not feel embarrassed.
Of course, most people feel that it is best to let the mother-in-law come to the confinement, and said that the mother-in-law can not help with the baby in the future, but the confinement period is still to help, especially those who have no economic conditions to ask the confinement sister-in-law, the mother-in-law needs to help more, otherwise the mother's husband is working outside, the mother does not have the care of the mother-in-law, which means that the mother is at home alone, taking care of herself, especially for the mother who has just given birth to the child half a month ago, it is not very realistic. And it will also bring great harm to the mother, and it is easy to leave confinement disease.
In fact, if the family's economic conditions are even in general, it is best to ask for a sister-in-law, the current market of the monthly sister-in-law is about thousands to tens of thousands of ranges, according to their own conditions to choose the monthly wife. Of course, you must choose a professional sister-in-law, rather than choosing some temporary jobs in order to save money, which may also bring harm to the mother.
You know, the professional confinement sister-in-law will not only help with the child, but also solve all the problems of the mother and the newborn, including diet and hygiene, of course, it is only for the mother and the baby, and does not include other family members.
In addition, professional sisters-in-law also have a lot of "food and nutrition" knowledge, and they will adjust the diet structure according to the state of the mother. As we all know, for the mother who has just given birth, the diet structure is very important, if you have not learned professional postpartum nursing knowledge, others may only think of big fish and meat to supplement the mother when taking care of confinement, in fact, this will have a negative effect and bring a greater burden to the mother's body.
Therefore, as long as the family's economic pressure is not very large, please a professional confinement sister-in-law is actually the best choice, otherwise if the confinement period is not good, leaving a confinement disease for the second half of your life, then it can be said that it is more than worth the loss. In addition, I also want to remind the mothers of one thing, if the mother-in-law is really unwilling to help take care of the confinement of the mother, there is no expression at the same time, and there is no need to care too much.
Life is a husband and wife to live out, there is always a way to solve the current difficulties, mainly to see the husband's attitude, if even the husband can not understand your confinement pain, first try to communicate, communication most of the time can better solve the problem. And it should be noted that during the confinement period, it is necessary to lose less tantrums, otherwise the negative emotions accumulate too much, which is extremely unfavorable for postpartum recovery and hinders the speed of recovery.
Conclusion: Mothers themselves should also pay attention, whether it is for themselves, or for newborns, they must pay attention to the details of the problem, absolutely can not "Ma Daha", otherwise it may bring greater harm to themselves and the baby.