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Yesterday, my friend said indignantly, "My husband's grandmother is our turn again." Early in the morning, his aunt called and urged Jean to hurry up to pick up the old man, afraid of eating an extra bowl of rice at her house. “
I said casually, "Don't you always take turns waiting?" You should have gotten used to it a long time ago." As a result, the goods crackled and said a lot, and finally came a humorous sentence" "People live too long, purely to add trouble to their daughters." ”
Alas, let's take a brief look:
My friend's husband's grandmother is in her eighties and has three daughters and a son. Before the friend got married, the old man began to take turns to retire.
What made her resentful was that her mother-in-law was the most filial, and every time the old man got sick, it was almost always her mother-in-law who ran to the hospital to serve. The remaining two daughters occasionally delivered meals a few times, and the son did not even enter the ward, and at most he walked around twice downstairs and left.
Her mother-in-law contributed both money and effort, and as a result, the brothers and sisters were not grateful, and even took it for granted. The old man did not take her mother-in-law's affection, pension, old age allowance and all other property were given to the son, and the most nagging in his mouth was also the younger daughter. Her mother-in-law, on the other hand, will only be remembered if she is used.
The problem is that after the birth of her child, every time the old man comes to the house, the mother-in-law is bent on her old woman, and she does not have the heart to look at the child. Several times the child almost had an accident.
And what makes people speechless is that every time the mother-in-law has to call each family, "Is the autumn dress I bought for my mother at your house?" "Whose house is the floral coat I bought last year?" ...... Well, the old man took turns, and there were a few dirty clothes left in the baggage.
Friends said that taking turns to serve is really tossing the old man, and nowhere is his home. More than once, she heard the old man say to himself, "All day is like asking for food, and I don't want to see anyone's house."
To tell the truth, before I heard the words of my friends, I also felt that the burden of old-age care for families with many children was relatively light. But now that I think about it, my children also have their own small families to support. Especially after middle age, it is necessary to provide for the elderly and to raise a small child. They don't dare to get sick, they don't dare to rest, they are even more afraid of losing their jobs...
If parents live longer, their later life will continue to be bound by the dual pressures of bringing children and serving the elderly. Alas, on the one hand, there are their own children and grandchildren, and on the other side are their own fathers and wives, which is really a dilemma.
Therefore, in order not to toss yourself in your old age, it is not difficult for your children, or it is better to keep the "old three things" as soon as possible to be more down-to-earth and at ease.
Raising a good body is fundamental
Just as the so-called body is the capital of the revolution, this sentence is worn out of the cocoon by the ears. But don't take it as a bystander, this is the most reasonable saying. If you have a good body and can take care of yourself in everything, you don't have to rely on your children. Whether you want to live alone or walk around the corner, just follow your own heart.
So, if you've just retired, don't lie in bed all day brushing your phone and watching TV. In his spare time, ask a few old guys to go for a walk in the park and fish by the river.
Don't stay up late and pay attention to health. But if you feel unwell, you should hurry to see a doctor. Don't be too strong, thinking that you are like when you were young, just hold out for a few days. Sometimes people have to serve the elderly, otherwise small diseases will drag into major diseases, spend money without saying, and even endanger lives.
Put away the pension money
Chinese parents can be said to have devoted everything to their children. However, in the old age, try not to empty the hard money they have saved for a lifetime to help subsidize their children. Otherwise, it will not only lead to the child continuing to nibble on the old age unscrupulously, but also make his life extremely embarrassing.
You have to leave yourself a little pension cost, after all, you have grain in your hands, and your heart is not panicked. After all, even if you are a filial child, if you reach out for money every three or five minutes, he will feel that you are greedy and insatiable. What's more, with his strong personality, he does not want to make himself a burden to his children.
Keep the old house
The golden nest and silver nest are not as good as their own kennels, and no matter which child's home they live in, they are not as comfortable as their own home. First, the living habits and daily routines of the two generations are different, and contradictions and frictions will inevitably occur. Second, leaving the familiar environment, there is always a sense of strangeness of foreigners.
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