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Due to the impact of the epidemic, Shenzhen primary and secondary schools have not been able to open school for a long time, and the situation of children learning at home is frequent, which makes parents scream that they can't bear it.
Every day in the parents' group is a scene of "complaining". Some parents even said the voice of the group: tutoring homework at home is the live version of the Russian-Ukrainian battle.
Other parents immediately mended the knife: this is described as too graphic, what a painful realization!
Indeed, in order to make a living, in dual-career families, parents have to go to work, and children have to be left to the care of the elderly.
For the elderly, all they can do is manage their children to eat enough, and learning is not helpful.
While the parents were at work, they received frequent complaints from the elderly in the family, saying that the bear child really couldn't control it.
This makes them in a state of panic at all times, which is particularly painful.
In the family of the full-time mother, the situation is not much better, and the mood of the old mothers fluctuates every day, like a roller coaster, and the face pattern evolves in minutes.
These phenomena largely reflect the voice of parents: emotions and blood pressure have soared repeatedly, and there is no way to take bear children, it is really too difficult.
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There is a saying that goes well: the stable emotions of parents are the needles of the sea god in the family.
Only parents can rationally manage their own emotions, a slap can not be made, the child is noisy, and the "war" cannot be fought.
It can be seen that in the special period of learning at home, parents know how important it is to learn to manage and adjust a good emotional state.
So, how do we manage our emotions?
In the book "Emotional Freedom, Life Is Lighter", Zhang Defen, a well-known writer in Taiwan, said: "A lot of pain in life is a script written by emotions. ”
And the script can be a bitter love drama or a happy drama, so why don't we write more light and joyful scripts for ourselves?
In order to reduce the pain in your heart and make yourself a little happier, Zhang Defen gave us three tricks in the book:
Let go of the desire to control others; put yourself in the right place, each in his place.
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Specifically, in the face of children learning at home, as parents, the first thing we have to do is to put down the face of parents, communicate with children peacefully, and make daily learning and life plans together.
Let children know that after waking up every morning, they should learn and live step by step, rather than doing nothing or blindly playing.
Then, instead of trying to control your child's every move, give your child more free space, and in addition to learning, you may wish to let your child decide on the activity items between classes.
When children are bored with learning, as parents, they may wish to think about whether the daily learning content is too much and too slow for the child to bear.
Finally, parents and children should put themselves in their place and communicate and communicate on an equal footing, rather than scolding the child with a high-spirited attitude when they make a mistake.
If parents can do the above 3 points, I believe that in the process of getting along with their children, they will be more relaxed and happy.
On the uneven road of parenthood, I hope that you and I can manage our emotions well, build a happy parent-child relationship in a relaxed and pleasant family atmosphere, and live happily every day.
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